Sisters, the most feared thing in love is to pay the wrong heart. Sometimes, a man's apparent love can be just a bewildering drama. Today, I would like to share with you the performance of a man who loves you on the surface but does not have you in his heart: a behavior - coldness.
1. Indifference and absent-mindedness when communicating
In the process of getting along, whenever you are full of joy and can't wait to share with him those interesting or warm bits and pieces of life, you are full of hope that he can resonate with you and give you a positive response.
However, he always uses words that are too simple to be simple, so perfunctory that they can't be more perfunctory.
You happily tell him about all the new and interesting things you have experienced throughout the day, such as a cute kitten you met on your way to work, or a little accomplishment at work.
However, his eyes kept wandering, drifting, and his mind was obviously not with you, as if he was in another world.
When you ask him if he wasn't listening, he casually says, "I'm listening." ”
But his indifferent expression and indifferent demeanor clearly wrote the three big words "I don't care".
This attitude of his, like a basin of cold water, ruthlessly extinguishes the enthusiasm in your heart, making you feel extremely lost and frustrated.
This coldness in communication is like an invisible barrier that slowly separates your hearts further and further.
Second, the coldness in future planning, there is no place for you
When a man seems to love you on the surface, but in fact he doesn't have you in his heart, when it comes to his future life plan, he often uses the phrase "let's talk about it later" as a mantra.
In particular, whenever you talk about the future, he always acts vague and flickering, as if he is deliberately avoiding giving you a definite and clear answer.
You are full of longing to build a warm and happy future home with him, imagining the future bits and pieces, but he always avoids talking about this topic, as if it will make him feel uneasy or confused when touched.
When you are full of anticipation and want to discuss your future plans with him, he just says lightly: "Don't worry, it's still early." ”
However, the truth is that he never included you in his future blueprint in his heart. His attitude and behavior make your heart cool down little by little, and let you gradually feel deep loss and confusion in your expectations for the future.
Because the person who truly loves you will be eager to paint a beautiful picture of the future with you, instead of treating your expectations and dreams with such a perfunctory attitude.
3. Indifference in the face of difficulties, standing by and watching
In the journey of life, it is inevitable to encounter all kinds of difficulties, and when the time comes, you are full of hope that the man who claims to love you will come forward and give you the support and help you desperately need.
However, if the man who loves you on the surface is extremely cruel in reality, he usually chooses to be indifferent and watch.
When you are isolated and anxious to ask him for help, he coldly throws out a sentence: "This is your own problem, you solve it yourself." ”
His indifferent tone and ruthless attitude are like a sharp blade that pierces your heart.
Your eyes are full of longing for him, hoping that he can be your support and stand side by side with you to overcome the difficulties in front of you. But he stands by and is indifferent to your pain and struggle.
When you begged him again, hoping to get a trace of warmth and strength, he remained unmoved, and just said lightly: "I can't help it." ”
These words are like a cold wind that blows out the last glimmer of hope in your heart. Let you feel extremely cold and hopeless in the abyss of predicament.
His ruthlessness makes you begin to wonder if the love you once had was just an illusory dream, and you have deep doubts and wavering about this feeling.
Sisters, see these cold performances clearly and stop losses in time. I hope everyone can have a sincere and warm love.