Text/Xia Mo
01, frontispiece
Love is like a fire.
When managing love, we must learn to "add firewood" in time to make this fire burn more vigorously.
In life, the reason why love will slowly fade away from the temperature and heat is probably because of poor management.
Women, if you want a man to know cold and hot to you, you only need one trick: exaggerate.
02. Exaggerate a man's sense of worth and let him know that you need her
My neighbor lives with a couple who love each other very much.
The woman said that when he first got married, men would not do housework, would not feel sorry for others, and would not know how to take care of their families. didn't do housework, didn't bring the child, and she used to quarrel with him and complain about him.
However, she is very good at praising her husband, and just like that, little by little, she guides him to give.
When a man makes a delicious dish, she will definitely praise him for his good craftsmanship and talent for cooking; When he goes out to play with the child, she will definitely praise him for taking the child well, she rests well, and thanks him for his "substitute".
exaggerated his worth again and again, and the man gradually knew that the family needed him and his wife needed him. He also gradually developed the habit of loving and giving.
A woman who knows how to praise a man in the right place and with the right words will boost a man's self-confidence and give him a sense of accomplishment.
For example, you often say to a man that he is the pillar of the family, that he is a role model for your children, that you rely on, and that men will feel their worth.
"Praise is a shrewd, secretive and skillful form of flattery that satisfies the people who give and receive praise in different ways," Rarochefko said. ”
Amplify the value of a man, he will be more active and active in expressing his love and more willing to give.
He felt that he had taken on the responsibility of taking care of his family and his wife and children, and that he would try to do better if he was praised by women.
03. Exaggerate men's heroism and learn to show weakness
When Qu Xiaoxuan and Zhao Qiping got along in "Ode to Joy", Qu Xiaoxuan installed a very expensive stereo in his car, but he didn't get more love from Zhao Qiping.
Because, the expensive stereo made him feel a lot of pressure and felt that his personality was insulted.
When Qu Xiaoxuan's original family changes, the family may go bankrupt and end up with nothing.
Zhao Qiping, in a state of "savior", went to Qu Xiaoxuan's parents to negotiate and let them care about Qu Xiaoxuan's feelings.
Qu Xiaoxuan showed a weak and helpless posture, awakening the hero in Zhao Qiping's heart. At that moment, he wanted to do his best to give her a better life.
Every man wants to be a hero of the world.
Women, if you want a man to know cold and hot to you and love you more in life, you must learn to show weakness and learn to let him protect you.
When he protects you thoroughly, stands up for you, and does his best to protect you like a hero, you must not be stingy with praise. Exaggerate the heroism of a man, and he will be more willing to fight for you.
Lu Qin said: "It is useless to give, only by giving him the opportunity to give, in the process of giving, can he know how to love." ”
Women, if you behave softly and appear in a posture that needs to be protected, it will make the man pity you and make him unable to help but protect you.
04. Exaggerate a man's sense of dedication and make him accustomed to taking care of you
Yang Jiang said: "Later, we learned that those who have a good temper are angry, those who are empathetic are understanding, no one can take care of people, and those who can cry have candy to eat." Those who are sensible, on the contrary, no one will feel distressed. ”
In love, a woman wants a man to love you more, but she doesn't have to overpay.
Rather, we must know how to guide a man to give and exaggerate his sense of giving.
For example, if he takes over a heavier job in your hands, you can say, "I really don't know what to do without you, you are my protector."
When he buys you delicious food and creates a sense of ritual for you, you also have to show that you are very moved and provide him with enough emotional value.
Affirm a man's dedication, give him praise in time, and he will be willing to pay more for you.
If you always let the man give, always pick on the thorns, and take everything he gives for granted, then he will not be willing to express love next time, and the relationship between the two will gradually become cold.
Women, to manage feelings, must let men know that you are weak and need his help.
When a man feels needed, he will take the initiative to take on more responsibilities, pay attention to the details of life, and give you meticulous care and attention.
05. Summary
Two people have been together for a long time, they have their own positions and jobs, they are used to doing their part, and they often forget to express their love for each other.
In this way, the love will fade and will gradually become dull as water.
If you get help from a man, learn to be grateful and learn to praise. Men will pay more attention to you and will get into the habit of worrying about you.
He will devote more time and energy to accompany you and help you, so that the feelings for each other will become deeper and deeper.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the whole network, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotion, sexes, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.