Text/Xia Mo
01, frontispiece
Love is like a jade bracelet, which will have a sense of restraint when worn on the hand. Once it's broken, you'll find yourself uncomfortable.
Marriage and family are not only about love, but also about the responsibilities that need to be borne by each other, and they need to be carried by two people together.
If the man always runs away, the woman is not willing to cooperate with him and does not want to go down with him.
When men become more and more free, and women no longer care about you, then this home will be closer and closer to being broken.
A woman starts to do the following things, seemingly loving you very much, but in fact she is drawing a line with you.
02. Leave your money to you to manage
Before, I watched such a video:
The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law had an awkward quarrel, and the man only helped the mother to speak, completely ignoring his wife's feelings.
The mother-in-law counted her down with her husband, she had no sense of belonging at home, and she was disappointed in both her mother-in-law and her husband.
The daughter-in-law was cold, turned around and went back to the house, handed a bank card to her husband, and said that he should keep it by himself, and turned around to pack his clothes.
The man proudly told his mother that his daughter-in-law would be in charge, thinking that she had given in and had handed over the financial power.
But the next day, the man found that his wife, who had gone out, had not returned, and called her, but she did not answer. Sent her a message, but she didn't reply, and he found out that she had really left.
The woman gives you back the right to manage the money, not because she is afraid of you, but because she is annoyed, disappointed, and wants to leave.
Zhang Ailing said: "Women are not just any man's money will be spent, it is also a prudent choice to spend thousands of sails." ”
A woman loves you, she is willing to help you manage your money, she is willing to help you manage your house, and run a family together.
When she no longer takes care of the common savings, manages the money she earns, and no longer asks men to pay their wages, it means that she has decided to draw a line with him in life.
03, your family's affairs, she no longer participates and does not interfere
Su Mingzhe in "It's All Good" insisted on buying a house for his father despite his wife's opposition.
At first, his wife reasoned with him, hoping that he would understand that he still had the responsibility of taking care of his wife and children on his shoulders. However, Su Mingzhe slapped his swollen face and became fat, and he had to bear the cost of buying a house alone.
Later, his wife became more and more disappointed in him, and she didn't want to care about anything anymore, and she didn't want to deal with Su Mingzhe anymore.
A woman loves you, and she is willing to plan family affairs with you and face ups and downs together.
If she doesn't love her, she will no longer care about your family's affairs and draw a line with you.
A woman loves you, and whatever happens to your family, she is willing to face it with you and solve the problem together. Suffer together, enjoy blessings together.
When you encounter anything, she will help you analyze the pros and cons, take care of the housework with your heart, and manage the relationship of the big family.
If she doesn't love you, no matter how rich your family is, she doesn't want to get involved in anything that happens to your family.
She will not put forward any ideas and suggestions, nor will she make any more dedication and effort, and she will not interfere in your family's affairs at all.
04, she no longer restricts you, controls you, and gives you freedom
A woman loves you, she longs for you to grow, for you to improve, and for you to be a better version of herself. In life, you have bad habits, and she will take care of you.
When a woman doesn't love you anymore, she doesn't care about you anymore and won't restrain you anymore.
It doesn't matter what kind of clothes you wear when you go out, it doesn't matter what time you get home. It doesn't matter what kind of people you hang out with, and it doesn't matter how much money you spend.
You will find that you become free and she becomes sensible.
Zhang Xiaoxian said: "Falling in love is a process of pursuing unfreedom, when you complain that you are too unfree, that is, when you don't love him." ”
When a woman loves you, there are bound to be a lot of constraints. She will take on a lot of responsibilities together and run the family together.
She will restrain you to grow, urge you to improve, and hope that you can take care of your family and children.
You're on a business trip, and she wants you to come back soon; When you go to work, she hopes that you will work harder, create better performance, and support the burden of the family.
A woman loves you, she will spur you to grow and progress, and hopes to run a good family with you.
If she doesn't love you, she won't care about you anymore, and she won't get into her heart or eyes for all your things.
05. Summary
Love is two people who rely on each other, but also restrain each other, and support each other to move forward.
Zhang Ailing wrote in "Half Life": "Maybe love is not enthusiasm, nor nostalgia, but years, and years have become a part of life." ”
True love, in addition to sensual romance, also has intellectual stability. There are poems and distances, as well as firewood, rice, oil and salt.
Both of them have to be loyal to love and make a lot of effort to run this family.
To compromise with each other, to be able to understand each other's hardships and difficulties. are willing to abide by the rules of marriage, get along with each other warmly, and love can last longer.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the whole network, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotion, sexes, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.