There is such a kind of people, they are like shadows in the night, the surface is covered with the tenderness of the moonlight, but the inside is hidden with a sharp blade.
Zhuangzi, the philosopher who wandered between heaven and earth, although he did not directly speak of the dark side of such human nature,
However, its "it is better to forget each other in the rivers and lakes" and its deep insight into human nature,
vaguely reflects the faint sorrow and vigilance of such people who are "a pot of fire in the open and a knife in the dark".
Today, let us use Zhuangzi's thoughts to explore this subtle and complex phenomenon of human nature in the world.
In this bizarre world, everyone wears one or more masks,
Weave through the snares of human relationships.
Some people, under the mask is a warm smile and sincere care,
Like the warm sunshine in spring, warm but not dazzling;
And some people are good at weaving gorgeous rhetoric,
Woven into a seemingly splendid but empty net,
Let people lose themselves in the praise and indulge in the illusory glory.
This is the "good face and reputation",
They use their words as blades,
It precisely cuts the vanity and weakness of human nature, and makes people forget their true selves in the flutter.
The ancients said: "Words are insincere, not sincere." ”
However, in this fast-paced, high-stress society, honest communication seems to be a luxury.
People prefer to hear those pleasant compliments,
Even if they are empty, even if they hide hidden calculations behind them.
As the Tang Dynasty poet Liu Yuxi said: "Although it is hard to search for thousands of waters, the sand is blown away from the gold." ”
Real gold,
It often takes time to baptize and temper before it can reveal its true nature.
And those praises that can be easily obtained are often like floating sand, blowing away.
"Those who have a good face and reputation are also good at ruining their backs."
This sentence, like a sharp dagger, pierces the darkest corner of human nature.
The sweet words in front of him turned around and became the most vicious slander behind him.
They are like a two-way mirror, one side reflects the brilliance of human nature, and the other side exposes the ugliness and hypocrisy of human nature.
This kind of two-sided nature not only makes people unguardable, but also makes people sigh at the complexity and changeability of human nature.
Just imagine, when you are immersed in someone's endless praise, thinking that you have found a soulmate,
only to suddenly find that these compliments are nothing more than lies carefully woven by the other party in order to achieve a certain goal.
The feeling of falling from the clouds to the bottom is heartbreaking.
As the Song Dynasty lyricist Li Qingzhao said: "Looking for and seeking, cold and lonely, miserable and miserable." ”
In this vast sea of people, it is so difficult to find a sincere emotion.
In this world where it is difficult to distinguish between truth and falsehood, how do we deal with ourselves?
Zhuangzi tells us: "The supreme man has no self, the god man has no merit, and the saint has no name." ”
Those who have attained this state are beyond worldly strife and fame and fortune.
Naturally, you will not be bothered by these superficial praises and the slander behind them.
However, as ordinary people, it may be difficult for us to reach such a high level.
But we can learn to protect ourselves from the sharp edge of these words.
First of all, we need to be self-aware.
Know your strengths and weaknesses and don't get carried away easily by praise from the outside world.
As the ancients said: "Those who know others are wise, and those who know themselves are clear." ”
Only by truly knowing yourself can you see the true intention behind those compliments.
Second, we need to learn to listen to our inner voice.
In this noisy world, it is especially important to maintain a peaceful heart.
When the outside world is too noisy, you might as well calm down and listen to your inner voice.
It will tell you which ones are genuine compliments and which ones are hypocritical flattery.
Finally, we need to have the courage to face the truth.
Whether it's praise or denigration, it's a part of life.
We can't choose to run away because we're afraid of the truth,
You can't lose yourself because you're carried away by praise.
Only by bravely facing the truth can we walk more firmly and calmly on the road of life.
In this uncertain world,
Let us be guided by the wisdom of Zhuangzi, learn to distinguish between truth and falsehood, and maintain the purity and firmness of our hearts.
Don't lose yourself because of the praise of the moment, and don't resentment because of the slander behind it.
Remember, the real ones are the ones who are truly worth cherishing are the ones who can walk with you through thick and thin.
They may not give you the most gorgeous compliment,
But their companionship and support are the most valuable treasure in your life.
As the Tang Dynasty poet Wang Bo said: "There is a confidant in the sea, and the end of the world is like a neighbor." ”
May we all be in this complex and ever-changing world,
Find your own innocence and beauty,
With sincerity for sincerity, we will write a warm and touching chapter of life together.