On October 3, 1926, the Qixi Festival of the Lunar Calendar, Beihai Park in Beijing gathered the world's literary giants and celebrities.
Witnessed by everyone, Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman held a grand wedding ceremony here.
One is a personable poet, the other is a talented and beautiful woman, and the combination of the two immediately caused a sensation in Beijing and became the focus of street discussions.
Soon after their marriage, the couple returned to Haining, Zhejiang. Here, Father Xu has prepared a villa for them.
However, when they were in love at the beginning, they were unable to compete with firewood, rice, oil and salt after marriage.
Less than a month after returning to Haining, the new daughter-in-law Lu Xiaoman was disliked by her parents-in-law.
According to the existing information: when Lu Xiaoman came to Xu's house, he asked to take a red sedan chair to travel; Those who can't finish eating at home are all poured to Xu Zhimo, and they must be hugged by their husbands when they go upstairs.
Therefore, Xu's father and mother left Haining in a fit of anger and came to their former daughter-in-law Zhang Youyi to pour bitter water, accusing Lu Xiaoman of various "crimes", and even cutting off financial support for his son.
The breakdown of family relationships will inevitably end in separation.
The husband and wife, who lost their financial resources, had to leave Haining and come to Shanghai. But where can the two people who are accustomed to living a pampered life stand the snail's life in the hotel.
After Xu Zhimo became a professor, he immediately rented a luxury apartment with a rent of 100 oceans per month.
According to the price at that time, a piece of ocean could buy 44 catties of rice, and his monthly salary was 300 yuan.
If it is an ordinary couple, even if it is more prosperous, the remaining money is completely enough.
But this is limited to ordinary women, and Xu Zhimo's wife is Lu Xiaoman.
In order to support his wife, Xu Zhimo had to do other jobs, in addition to teaching at several schools at the same time, he also served as the chief writer of magazines, rented houses, and partnered with friends to start a company.
Because all business contacts had to go to Beijing, and Lu Xiaoman refused to move there with him, Xu Zhimo had no choice but to fly between the two places.
Even if he saves again and again, and his monthly salary reaches 500 yuan (converted into no less than 100,000 yuan), he still can't meet his wife's extravagant life.
He couldn't help but say to Lu Xiaoman: "In terms of living expenses, please save on it." ”
Unexpectedly, Lu Xiaoman was immediately furious when he heard this, and even pointed at Xu Zhimo's nose and scolded:
"You can't afford it, but you dare to marry me!"
Later, Xu Zhimo died in a plane crash on a plane bound for Beijing. It is said that the night before he died, the two had a big fight over money.
So, why did Lu Xiaoman spend so much money after marriage. After Xu Zhimo died, what did she rely on to maintain her previous extravagant life?
Born in a famous family, married into a wealthy family
There is a saying in traditional China, "the poor raise a son and a rich daughter", and Lu Xiaoman's parents did just that.
Since it is rich, it must be the best, both materially and spiritually.
Lu Xiaoman was born in a family of eunuchs, a scholarly family in Jiangnan, his father was a man in the late Qing Dynasty, and later held an important position in the Ministry of Finance of the National Government.
Such a favorable family condition has given Lu Xiaoman a life of fine clothes and food since he was a child, and he has also received the best education.
At the age of 9, he came to Beijing with his father to study French, English and other foreign language courses, and by the time he was 18 years old, he had already become famous in Beiping City.
Since then, Lu Xiaoman, who grew up in high society, has become accustomed to luxury and luxury, and the living habits he has developed are difficult to change.
In that era of arranged marriage, 16-year-old Lu Xiaoman, under the instruction of his family, was married to Wang Geng, who was then a military attache of the Ministry of Foreign Affairs, and the marriage was completed three years later.
Back then, their wedding was highly anticipated, and the peerless beauty who captivated the country and the city married a young and promising young general.
Wang Geng is very fond of his wife, and Lu Xiaoman can be said to be a collection of thousands of favors.
Because Wang Geng is a general, he has a very high social status and favorable family conditions, and the two still live in a bungalow and live a luxurious life after marriage.
However, when married life was functioning normally, Lu Xiaoman began to find its pain.
Due to job transfer, Lu Xiaoman followed Wang Geng to Harbin, and since then he has lived an extremely cold life without relatives and friends.
She once wrote in her diary that she didn't like glory and wealth, and just hoped to have a satisfactory partner to live a life of ups and downs.
But Wang Geng is a person who doesn't understand amorous customs and doesn't understand romance, so she clamored to go back to Beijing to fill her spiritual vacancy.
Wang Geng, who couldn't rest assured of his wife, asked his friend Xu Zhimo in Beijing to help take care of Lu Xiaoman.
What he never imagined was that it was this move that inadvertently buried his marriage.
The talented two fell in love at first sight after meeting and got along well, Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman have common interests and literary and artistic opinions.
At the same time, Xu Zhimo's pursuit of Lin Hui was hopeless, and in a blink of an eye he met a beautiful woman like Lu Xiaoman, and the two of them were grinding their ears and temples, and they gradually fell in love.
But from an ethical point of view, this is inappropriate. is like when Yu Dafu described Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman in love:
"Loyal and soft as Xiao Man, warm and sincere as Shima, when they meet together, they will naturally send out sparks and burn into a piece, where to take care of the Gangchang Rites, where to take care of the patriarchal family style?"
After a long time, the two gradually found that they began to be inseparable from each other, and Lu Xiaoman finally decided: divorce.
Wang Geng, who was in Harbin, never thought that he would be betrayed by both his wife and friends.
But he still loved Lu Xiaoman deeply in his heart, so he had to agree, and then Wang Geng never married for life.
It is difficult to lose Xu Zhimo from luxury to frugality
On the Qixi Festival of the Lunar New Year in 1926, Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman finally got married in Beihai Park, and the officiant was still their teacher Liang Qichao.
However, marriage and love are not the same experience after all, precisely because of the habit formation of the family from a young age and the adaptability of the first marriage.
After coming to Shanghai with Xu Zhimo, Lu Xiaoman still continued her previous habits, with countless maids, nannies, and drivers at home, going in and out of high-end places, and consuming luxury goods without restraint, which is an extremely normal thing in her eyes.
In order to support his wife, Xu Zhimo had to work several jobs at the same time, write articles in his spare time to earn manuscript fees, sell antiques, calligraphy and paintings given by his father, and even work as an intermediary to earn commissions.
Even if he is willing to be a son of a cow, he is still stretched thin and difficult to meet his wife's expenses.
In desperation, he once proposed to Lu Xiaoman to spend money in moderation. But Lu Xiaoman, who abandoned money and chose love, immediately said angrily:
"If you can't afford it, why should you ruin my marriage, why do you want to marry me!"
As a university teacher, Xu Zhimo's social status and salary level were already at a high level in the society at that time.
Relevant information records that at that time, a professor at Peking University had a monthly income of 300 oceans, could support a family of several people, and employed servants, drivers, etc.
When the two people from famous families live in such a tight situation, why didn't the Lu family in Jiangnan subsidize Lu Xiaoman?
It turned out that the Lu family was very disappointed in Lu Xiaoman because of their daughter's cheating, thinking that she violated ethics and misbehaved, and cut off all her financial support for this.
And the Xu family was the richest man in Haining at that time, but they were not satisfied with a new-school woman like Lu Xiaoman, thinking that she was not a good match for Xu Zhimo.
In the eyes of Xu's father and Xu's mother, only Zhang Youyi is worthy of being his daughter-in-law.
Losing the support of his elders and his salary being unsustainable, Xu Zhimo's life became more and more difficult, and after marriage, Lu Xiaoman insisted on staying in Shanghai, while Xu Zhimo taught in Beiping.
Therefore, Xu Zhimo's round-trip from north to south is a common thing, and he can't afford to sit on the plane, and sometimes he doesn't even have enough money for train tickets, so he has to borrow money from friends often.
At that time, Xu Zhimo borrowed and lived in Hu Shi's house, 500 yuan a month, only 30 yuan was kept, and the rest was given to Lu Xiaoman.
The huge black hole of consumption that was difficult to support made Xu Zhimo miserable, and at first he gently persuaded Lu Xiaoman to control himself, but it had no effect.
And Lu Xiaoman, under the influence of the masseuse Weng Ruiwu, began to smoke opium, and the cost was already beyond imagination, and the two began to fall into endless quarrels.
After a quarrel, Xu Zhimo got on a plane to Peking and was unfortunately killed.
It is worth mentioning that it is precisely for economic reasons that Xu Zhimo will take this free flight, but he will lose his life because of it.
After Xu Zhimo's death, the grief made her depressed from then on.
And how did Lu Xiaoman, who lost his family support, continue to live?
Self-willed depravity is hard day by day
It turned out that since Xu Zhimo's death, Weng Ruiwu has been staying with her in the name of taking care of Lu Xiaoman.
This person is a versatile and elegant person, and his interests and hobbies are very similar to Lu Xiaoman, good at calligraphy, likes acting, and can massage, and the two are very close to each other.
In the seven years since Xu Zhimo's death, Weng Ruiwu, who often came and went to help Lu Xiaoman massage, inevitably had physical contact with Lu Xiaoman, and he had a different kind of affection during massage.
Weng Ruiwu used the name of massage, came and went, and actually lived with Lu Xiaoman in a grand manner.
But the two could not register their marriage, because Weng Ruiwu was a married man, and the scandal once spread throughout the literary world.
A friend persuaded Lu Xiaoman to marry Weng Ruiwu, but Lu Xiaoman directly refused, and she only recognized Xu Zhimo as her last husband. Regarding this matter, Lu Xiaoman's attitude is even more surprising:
"I only have feelings with him (Weng Ruiwu), not family affection." doesn't care about his mistress status.
After Xu Zhimo's death, Lu Xiaoman and Weng Ruiwu mingled all day long, and without a stable financial source, she could not support her huge expenses.
Weng Ruiwu used his salary and even sold his property to support Lu Xiaoman. Serving tea and water, he took very careful care of Lu Xiaoman, who was addicted to smoking on the sickbed.
But Weng Ruiwu is also a frail and sickly person, how can he be better than Lu Xiaoman? At the same time, Weng Ruiwu did not abandon his wife, so the two of them were even more stretched.
But how can Lu Xiaoman, who is used to living a luxurious life, adapt to this kind of life.
At that time, even Xu Zhimo's friend Hu Shi couldn't stand the difficulty, and proposed that if Lu Xiaoman left Weng Ruiwu, he was willing to bear all her expenses, but Lu Xiaoman politely refused.
She knows that she no longer wants to be a burden to others, and has been committed to Weng Ruiwu as a mistress for 33 years.
After Weng Ruiwu's death, she became more and more aware that there was no one to cling to, and Lu Xiaoman had to pick up the brush again and make a living selling paintings.
Relatives and friends also lent a helping hand to her, actively introduced her to work, and helped her rebuild her confidence and become independent.
Although she quit drugs, her life was still difficult, and even when she died, her friends rummaged through the house without a single new dress.
It was Weng Ruiwu's old friend who sent a new dress to be able to barely enter the burial.
Looking back on his life, he was infamous
Looking back at Lu Xiaoman's life, this kind of ending is inevitable.
During her marriage to Wang Geng, as the general's wife, she still lived the same life as her previous upper-class habits, and she also had a partner who loved her.
But she is not satisfied with the only warmth, and longs for the love of the wind and snow.
Since she gave up her luxurious life, she met Xu Zhimo, who could give her endless love, but she was not satisfied with her greed.
She has to choose both and more, Xu Zhimo's death is a natural disaster, but her fate will most likely be in this direction.
Lu Xiaoman has experienced many relationships in her life, and it stands to reason that in the process of continuous selection, it should get better and better, but why did she end up like this.
attributed to the love when you have money, you want to be in love; With love, material things are not satisfied, and eventually they are willing to degenerate, and even smoke opium to eliminate their spirits.
The death of her lover hit her hard, but she couldn't support herself, so she could only commit to being a mistress, and finally left the world hastily.
Born into a famous family, she eventually became a spurned mistress and her reputation was ruined. Lost the title of general's wife, lost her lover, and lost her own children.
Lu Xiaoman has experienced too many people and things in his life, but he came from a piece of light and disappeared in a piece of darkness, and no one cared about him.
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[Editor|Chang Gung]
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