What makes you healthy and happy? What is the most important goal in life? More than 8 in 10 people surveyed among millennials said that their most important goal in life is to be "wealthy", while 5 in 10 said their main goal was to "enjoy fame". As a result, most people work hard to achieve better, but they fall into the predicament of the authorities, the future is always unpredictable, and we often lose ourselves on the road of life. If there were a large study that could be conducted from people's adolescence to aging, we would be able to see more objectively what factors actually make people happy and healthy.
The most important thing in a happy life is intimacy
In 2016, 60 of the 724 men were still alive, most of whom were in their 90s, and Robert Waldinger (professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School), the host of the "fourth generation" of this research project, told everyone what is the most important factor in a happy life.
The participants in this study spanned World War II, economic depression, economic recovery, financial tsunami, marriage, divorce, promotion, office, failure, comeback, or a slump... Someone retires peacefully; Some people die young; There are also people who become old drunkards. If you were to annotate this 75-year career study, Robert said, "In life, good relationships sustain your happiness and health." It's not money, it's fame and status, it's intimacy. The researchers also summarized the following 3 key factors of "having a good life", and the last point makes single people panic!
Key to a good life 1: People who are happily married are happier and live longer
A happy marriage is the strongest protective shield of the human body. Studies have shown that people who are also 80 years old, and those who have a happy marriage will not be affected by their emotions even if their bodies are declining; On the contrary, the elderly who are not in harmony in marriage are doubly miserable physically and emotionally. Studies have also found that those who have good relationships with family members are healthier, happier, and live longer than those who are unsociable and loners!
The key to a good life 2: Interpersonal relationships are more important than quality
However, one plus one is not necessarily greater than two, and being married does not mean that you are necessarily happy. A noisy family all day long, a marriage without love, a superficial relationship with many friends... These low-quality interpersonal relationships hurt more than the loneliness and divorce of a single person.
Key 3: The sooner you find true love, the greater your chances of success in life
It is reported that according to the study, people who are close to their mothers earn an average of $87,000 a year, and those who love their siblings earn an average of $51,000 a year. The average annual salary of the 58 people with the highest score in "intimate relationships" was US$243,000, while the average annual salary of the 31 with the lowest score did not exceed US$102,000. So, finding true love at the most explosive middle stage—a supportive partner, friends, and family—can help boost your wealth or achievement. If it is said that attitude determines a person's height; The chosen other half is the biggest propeller that determines the direction of your life.
I say this because a loving intimate relationship will directly affect a person's coping mechanism with life: when you encounter difficulties, you have a significant other to comfort and seek advice; When we feel happy, we can share with our other half, and with the company of our other half, we can feel love and be loved, run-in and tolerance, and become more mature and stable.
"It is a truth that a happy marriage is good for health, and that will never change." How to build a good relationship with people? Robert Waldinger said, "Maybe you're 25, 40, or 60 now, and the easiest thing is to stop talking to the screen and talk to people." Mark Twain was quoted as saying, "Life is short, and we have no time to waste on quarrels, apologies, heartbreak, and blame. Time should be used to love, time is fleeting, so be bold and love."