Many women are spoiled as princesses in their parents' homes, but they are pinched as soft persimmons in their in-laws' families.
Marriage is a huge challenge for women. If you meet someone who is unladylike, you may bury the happiness of the second half of your life.
In addition to polishing your eyes to choose your in-laws, you must also start from yourself and be a woman that your in-laws dare not mess with.
Establish a sense of boundaries
In the TV series "The Old and the Young", Gu Xiaomeng was changing clothes in the bedroom, and her mother-in-law did not knock on the door, but broke in directly.
Gu Xiaomeng blamed her mother-in-law for going in without knocking on the door, but her mother-in-law felt that she was troublesome, and she could enter her son's room if she wanted to.
This is what many mothers-in-law think, they feel that they can do whatever they want at their son's house, and they don't take into account the privacy of the young couple at all.
There are also some mothers-in-law who are even more excessive, privately auto daughter-in-law's things, and completely disrespect each other's privacy.
If you want your mother-in-law to respect you, you must establish a sense of boundaries from the beginning, say a lot of ugly things in front, and say things you mind directly on the surface.
Only by showing the boundaries in advance can you keep the boundaries, otherwise you will only make the other party completely disrespectful to you.
Be brave enough to voice your dissenting opinions
In the in-law's family, the daughter-in-law is never a family.
The in-laws' family is a family in the real sense, and the daughter-in-law is the outsider who intrudes into his house.
Women should be clear about this first, and never try to treat you like a relative, this is simply whimsical.
But at the same time, don't exclude yourself, let alone look like you're submissive, only your mother-in-law's family is submissive.
Be brave enough to express your disagreement, even if everyone in his family agrees.
Be brave enough to say no, and dare to say no to all requests that make you uncomfortable.
The more you dare to insist on yourself, the more your in-laws will dare to ignore you.
Don't be afraid to tear your face
I have a friend who is soft by nature. Since I was a child, I have never had a quarrel with anyone or blushed.
has always been a look of hello, hello, hello, everyone, and would rather compromise in exchange for a superficial peace.
The mother-in-law just grabbed her and pinched her like a soft persimmon.
Even her daughter-in-law was despised by her mother-in-law.
The mother-in-law is patriarchal, and she dislikes her for giving birth to a girl, which is a loss of money.
The friend endured it again and again, in exchange for more vicious words from the mother-in-law.
In the end, my friend finally couldn't bear it anymore, quarreled with her mother-in-law, and said the dirty words and vicious words that she had never said in her life, and she felt refreshed.
It's not that they are easy to bully, but they care too much about what others think, for fear of tearing their faces, looking up and not looking down, which is too embarrassing.
Good temperament should be reserved for worthy people, and in the face of mother-in-law's provocation, it should be scared.
Learn to be rotten, don't be too diligent
I've seen a story:
After the woman married into her in-law's family, in order to leave a good impression on her in-law's family, she took care of the housework at the beginning.
After a long time, her mother-in-law's family took her contribution for granted.
I can't see her tiredness, I will only pick and choose, no one helps, everyone pushes the work to her. Once something is not done properly, it will be exchanged for criticism and accusations.
People's hearts are like this, no one will appreciate your efforts, feel sorry for your fatigue, and will only get an inch.
In marriage, women should not be too diligent, but be appropriately lazy.
Learn to mess up, don't do housework if you can, learn to pretend to be deaf and dumb if you can, and don't interfere if you can.
Too diligent woman, wait, there is a steady stream of trouble.
Be sure to have a source of income
Women, you must have your own income, which is the key to your in-laws' eyebrows.
The greatest joy of many mothers-in-law every day is to manage their daughters-in-law. Especially when it comes to spending money on daughters-in-law.
When I saw my daughter-in-law buy something and enter the door, I would immediately watch.
I dislike my daughter-in-law for spending money lavishly, I think they don't know the tiredness of their son, and they only know how to spend money every day.
When you don't have a job and no income, your mother-in-law has a lot of control over you. Look, if you buy something, you'll make irresponsible remarks about you.
If you have an income, you can generously say "I bought it with my own money", and you have confidence to think about it.
Otherwise, you will speak in a slightly shorter tone.
Financial independence is the top priority of not being relaxed by the in-laws, and women must have their own jobs.
You don't have to make a lot of money, but you must have the ability to support yourself, and don't beg others for a living.
Be the heroine of your own life, control your own life, and control your marriage.