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When a smash hit celebrity gets caught up in emotional disputes, it often causes an uproar. In the marital crisis of Lin Dan and Xie Xingfang, we see the complexity of human nature and the fragility of marriage.
The Lindane Hotel incident has caused the sports star to lose his image. The incident was caused by a set of photos of Lin Dan's intimate interaction with his fellow villager woman exposed on the Internet, and what is even more shocking is that it all happened during Lin Dan's wife's pregnancy.
As a public figure, Lin Dan should be a role model for society, but he did not fall down the red flag at home, and the colorful flags fluttered outside, openly betraying his marriage and family.
In the face of her husband's cheating behavior, Xie Xingfang chose tolerance and forgiveness. She said on Weibo that marriage needs to be managed, and one person's mistakes cannot represent the whole story.
This reaction caused an uproar in the outside world, with some agreeing with her tolerance and others questioning whether she was too weak.
In fact, Xie Xingfang paid a huge price. From an excellent singles player to Lin Dan's sparring partner to an obscure housewife, her role status has been declining.
Lin Dan's derailment brought her great mental trauma, but she still chose forbearance and tolerance, and resolved the turmoil with a broad mind.
Time flies, eight years have passed. When they are in the same frame again, we find that the love is gone, and only exhaustion and disappointment remain.
Xie Xingfang chose to forbear, but this does not mean that she will always be passive. On the contrary, this experience has transformed her from the inside out, allowing her to find a new orientation and value in life.
Through the creation of the maternal and infant brand "Du Fen", Xie Xingfang regained her independent life and was no longer just a woman behind Lin Dan.
She found herself in the midst of loss and reconstruction, showing the strength and wisdom of a woman. This is just like what Ma Yili did in the "articlegate" turmoil.
Faced with the scandal between her husband's article and Xiaosan Yao Di, Ma Yili did not choose to divorce or blame, but temporarily forbeared, giving the article a chance to reform itself.
Behind this forbearance is her cherishing of her family and her expectations for a better life in the future.
As Ma Yun said: "If you are a lowly little woman when you get married, rather than a modern woman with independent consciousness, independent ability, and independent financial resources, then you are easily played by men."
"Only by having an independent self can we strive for self-improvement and phoenix nirvana in the adversity of marriage.
In addition to Ma Yili and Xie Xingfang, there are many other women who have chosen forbearance in the marriage crisis. They used great wisdom and foolishness to resolve family conflicts and win the opportunity to start anew.
For example, the famous host Chen Luyu, after her husband cheated, she chose tolerance and tolerance. Although she was in pain for a while, she realized the damage that divorce would have on her children and decided to work hard to keep the marriage going.
Through self-regulation and mutual understanding, their relationship finally regained trust, and the marriage rekindled the flame of hope.
Another example is Yang Lan, the host of Xiaoyan Night, whose husband has been photographed in close contact with many women. In the face of doubts, Yang Lan said frankly that there will inevitably be stumbles in marriage, and the key is to believe in each other and tolerate each other.
Her tolerance not only resolved the family crisis, but also gave her husband a chance to be a new person.
In fact, in real life, there are many examples of this around us. A divorced lady admitted that the reason why she chose to forbear was because the child was still young at the time, and she didn't want the child to lose his father's love when he was growing up.
It wasn't until the child grew up that she embarked on a new path in life.
Another woman said she was heartbroken when her husband cheated on her, but ultimately chose to forgive because the focus of her life was no longer on love, but on the future of her children. In order for her children to have a complete home, she is willing to work hard to maintain this marriage.
As can be seen from these examples, forbearance often stems from responsibility and love for the family. In the traditional concept, women are the greenhouse of the family, and they are more willing to tolerate and tolerate for the sake of their children.
But this forbearance is not weakness, but a kind of wisdom, a trade-off for a better future.
Of course, everyone reacts differently to a marital crisis. Some people will divorce outright, and some people will choose to forgive.
Whatever choice you make, the key is to respect everyone's choices and use empathy to understand the situation of others. After all, the road to marriage is never smooth sailing, and it requires both parties to manage it with love, patience, and wisdom.
For those women who choose to forbear, the wisdom and foolishness they show are not blind superstition, but out of rational trade-offs.
They understand the hardships of maintaining a marriage, but they are more eager for the hope of love to be restored in marriage. Therefore, they are willing to endure and wait, surround their families with love, and look forward to a better future.
This kind of wisdom comes from the cultivation of traditional culture, but also from the innate wisdom and courage of women. They know how to take a step back at a critical moment, but they never give up hope.
As a divorced lady said: "I forbear for the sake of having a complete family for my children, but it does not mean that I am silent forever, just waiting for a new beginning."
I hope that Lin Dan can recognize his mistakes and actively reform himself.
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