For many professionals, the most tiring thing is not work, but the interpersonal exchanges with colleagues in the company, especially the happy events of the boss or leader's family, which is even more headache. Gift is a matter of both affection and strength, less seems insincere, and more makes people feel distressed about their wallets.
Xiao Zhang has been working in the current company for more than three years and is a veteran employee. At the end of this month, the boss's daughter was going to get married, and as soon as the news spread, the office immediately exploded. Everyone discussed how much money to have, some suggested 300 yuan, and some thought 500 yuan was more appropriate. After discussing for a long time, I couldn't reach an agreement, and finally decided to go our own way.
On the day of the wedding, the whole office went to attend. Xiao Zhang discussed it with a few colleagues, and everyone unified 300 yuan, which not only seemed to be intentional, but not too expensive. However, when they arrive at the wedding site, the unexpected happens. Xiao Li, a colleague of Xiao Zhang, took out a red envelope of 20,000 yuan and handed it to the bride in full view.
This move stunned everyone present. A satisfied smile appeared on the boss's face, while the other colleagues looked at each other. Xiao Zhang secretly complained in his heart, this was obviously to slap the boss, but it also put other colleagues in an embarrassing situation. Everyone muttered in their hearts, how should the rest of the people deal with this?
Suili is an unavoidable social etiquette in Chinese culture, especially in the workplace, and the amount of gift money often represents how much you value the relationship. However, the pressure of the gift should not be underestimated. Nowadays, it is almost impossible to get a wedding gift of less than 300 yuan, and if there are two or three weddings a month, the money for the gift has become a big burden. Many people's daily expenses are already not small, and they have to repay mortgages and car loans, plus the money that comes with gifts, and the money that can be saved at the end of the month is really not much.
In the workplace, many people think that ability alone is not enough, emotional intelligence and relationships are also needed. As a result, some people began to tie up with the leadership, trying to get promoted and reused in this way. But this kind of behavior is often unpopular among colleagues, and even attracts resentment. After all, everyone is a competitor, and blindly slapping the leadership can be counterproductive.
After the wedding, Xiao Zhang and his colleagues were talking about Xiao Li's generosity. Some people say that he is clever and will come to things; Some people feel that he went too far and broke everyone's tacit understanding. What's more, he directly ridiculed Xiao Li in front of the boss, asking if he had taken the wrong red envelope. Although the boss responded with a smile, he obviously felt that it was a bit too much.
On the way home, Xiao Zhang has been thinking about how to deal with this relationship with his boss and colleagues in the workplace. He believes that although leadership can sometimes bring benefits, what can really make you stand firm in the workplace is your ability and actual contribution. Although Xiao Li's approach has attracted the attention of the boss for a while, it may not last long.
Have you ever encountered a similar situation at work? How do you deal with it? What do you think of the kind of people who are everywhere in the workplace? Feel free to share your stories and opinions in the comment section!