When eating at a fast food restaurant, I heard a few boys next to me talking about female classmates, and some people said that XXX only fell in love with boys who had money in the family, which was too vain and superficial.

It seems that this girl doesn't favor him and just doesn't have vision.

I'm funny to hear it, in reality, many people have this mentality, they find their own psychological balance, if they have a lot of pockets, I'm afraid it's a different idea.

When people are poor and weak, their hearts are the most sensitive, and if they are particularly self-centered, it is easy to distort themselves.

It can be dangerous for the partner.

"Phoenix Man" has good and bad ones!

Although many people on the Internet say bad things about "Phoenix Man", I have to say that the experience of poverty and diligence is a great tempering for people, and some talents are indeed more resilient, and they are honest and kind, willing to care for others, and people who have been drenched in the rain always want to hold an umbrella for others.

So it shouldn't be labeled, besides, who is not from a bitter background? Everyone is a farmer in their ancestors, and no one is superior to the other, and looking down on others is actually looking down on themselves.

But it is also true that some "phoenix men" are very selfish, they think that they are smart and capable, and they are a potential stock, if there is a girl who likes herself, it is that she has a vision, climbs herself, and counts her luck.

I had a friend who met someone like this when she was younger, she went to her boyfriend's rental house every morning to bring breakfast, helped with cleaning, did laundry, and took care of his daily life, and the other person took it for granted, as if she had given her a great gift.

Later, her family got married, and the man felt that he had suffered a loss, so he should write his name on the real estate certificate and accompany a car. Soon after the marriage, the two quarreled, and after two or three years of persistence, they divorced. When I came to my senses, my friend sighed that he was lost in the first place and couldn't see through this person.

"When I am down, you accompany me to make a comeback, and when I am brilliant, you accompany me to reign in the world?"

This is the story of another friend, she reads a lot, is very obsessed with the romance of "the wife of the chaff does not go to court", she knows a man with strong self-esteem or ego, and she has paid a lot for this relationship.

She thought that as long as she was a good "bad wife", the other party would be able to die and be loyal. It turns out that she was wrong, she invested her best time and all her enthusiasm when the other party was at his most down, but when the other party developed, she held a grudge against her and did not have the slightest gratitude.

"Because I've seen his weakest, most unbearable and embarrassed side, he runs away from me, like escaping from his past self, in short, I think wrong, I see the wrong person......"

My friend was very sad when she said this, she thought that she loved this person by fate (no regrets), but if she started from scratch, she would take a different approach:

This kind of man is utilitarian, as long as I can help him, he will not leave me, but I used to be too naïve and took feelings as everything.

People are not the same!

Couples who share ups and downs along the way will form a stable foundation and bond, they have experiences and feelings, they have survived ups and downs together, and they can be unsuspecting each other, which is difficult to find from others.

Meeting the right person at the right time is a rare fate. This not only refers to love, but also friendship, making friends is to make friends at the end of the time, at this time you pay, and wait until the other party is developed and then pay, there is definitely a big difference.

Of course, you may also meet the kind of people who are "expensive and easy to make friends, rich and easy to wives", but most people still do not forget the friends of the poor and the lowly, after all, it is difficult for the people you meet after development to establish a sincere and stable relationship.

The state of the world is tending to be inflammatory, you must know that the "icing on the cake" is certain, and the reason why "sending charcoal in the snow" is rare lies in the risk, who knows what you will be like in the future? Success requires a foundation, people believe because they see it, if there is no benefit, who cares about you?

How exactly to choose, what kind of attitude and way to approach the relationship, the main thing is to ask yourself how your heart is.

Stay away from the pitfalls: Actually, "superficiality" can also play a positive role!

For women, "superficiality" is also a kind of underlying logic and sensible strategy, although it is risky to follow one's own vanity and deal with rich men, but there is no risk in suffering with men without money? It's weird.

In reality, the latter is more risky. After all, your youth and beauty have a shelf life, and when you survive until you are a man and you have become a yellow-faced woman, can you pin your hopes on the other party's gratitude and feelings?

Therefore, when women stay away from those poor men and phoenix men, they are not far away from the trap.

In fact, smart women know the situation they are facing, and the more they see through human nature, the more they understand that no one can be trusted, and what man will not change his mind? As long as the temptation is big enough, it will be difficult for both men and women to stick to their hearts.

The relationship between people is good in moderation. It can't all be true, it can't all be false, half-truths or more truths, it's already pretty good.