Recently, major colleges and universities across the country have held graduation ceremonies, and students have said goodbye to each other in reluctance, and walked to the next destination in their lives. "The future is like the sea, and the future is long." Liang Qichao's words and sentences written in "Young China Says" are often popular gifts in the graduation season.
Some people say that the parting of "the coming day" is for a better meeting next time, and there will be a period later, and there will always be a goodbye; Some people also say that "the coming days are long" is the biggest lie when parting, because many people have passed for many years, and a farewell may be forever.
How to retain the friendship of classmates in this youthful years? Will you see you again after graduation?
Source: Visual China
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Recently, the graduation message of the president of a university became popular: "We don't drink chicken soup, we don't complain about death, in the new volume of your life that you are about to unfold, I just want to write 4 words of chivalry for you: the end of the sword world!" "Looking forward to the future is certainly full of pride, but when the moment of parting really comes, many people still wet their eyes.
In the face of the parting as scheduled, some people burst into tears at the last class reunion, talking about the past time; Someone is singing "Goodbye" in KTV, and his voice is hoarse, and it doesn't hurt to break the sound; Some people choose to leave silently, unwilling to arouse too much sorrow, and regard the quiet as a parting shengxiao.
Milan Kundera said: "It's a world where it's fashionable to leave, but we're not good at saying goodbye. In the face of the coming separation, the feast that has never been dispersed in the world can only promise "see you next time" with dignity and restraint.
A boy in Guangdong turned around and burst into tears after sending his classmates on the train during his graduation season; A college boy in Shandong dragged his luggage to say goodbye to his younger brothers and sisters, whispering that he was worried that he would never see him again in his life; There are also many graduates who take photos with their roommates before leaving the school, and record all corners of the dormitory in the video...... At every parting, we cherish each other's classmate relationship, vow to meet again, still care for each other and wait, and make an appointment to "be rich and noble, don't forget each other".
However, the river of time flows into the sea, and no port stays forever. We grew all the way, separated all the way, met new friends along the way, and said goodbye at the next intersection. Each of us is the protagonist of our own stage, and some of us, like other characters in the script, once we leave, there is no return.
We subjectively want to maintain this friendship, but for various reasons, we can't come and go often, and finally we break up and fade. Come to think of it, how long has it been since we've been in touch with our old classmates? When was the last time we met? The former best friend has also become a "like friend", look at the dynamics in the circle of friends, and become the most familiar stranger.
Zhejiang Sci-Tech University 2024 Graduate Graduation Ceremony Source: Zhejiang Sci-Tech University WeChat official account
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When we parted, we always thought that we would be able to get together again after graduation. But in this world, I don't know how many times there will be a period in the future, and in the end, it will be over. Why is it that a few years after graduation, many students have less contact with each other and their feelings are weakened? What's so hard about saying goodbye after graduation?
The barrier of mountains and seas. After graduation, we are scattered all over the world, each running around in the journey of life. Even if the heart is full of longing for reunion, it is often difficult to get out for various reasons, some work pressure, and some family burdens, so they have to give up together. So "take the time to get together" has become a polite greeting, and you can only sigh "The love is separated by mountains and seas, and the mountains and seas are not flat". That once deep friendship, also in the passage of time and the barrier of distance, became the white moonlight driven away by the "sixpence", and gradually became blurred and distant.
A life of different paths. After graduation, students who are engaged in different jobs and have different life trajectories may gradually change from the most empathetic friends to passers-by who do not share the same joys and sorrows. Some people have become elites in the workplace, some have become family breadwinners, some have become backpackers, and some have studied in ivory towers...... I want to get in touch but I am choked by the worries in my heart: shouldn't I bother if I don't mix well? He's a "big celebrity" now, will he still remember me? Work and life are very different, can we still talk together? After graduation, the roles are different, which creates more estrangement between former classmates.
Strange timidity. After graduation, we grew up in the torrent of time, and changes quietly happened. The faces that were once familiar may have been stained with the wind and frost of the years; The once shared dream may have been shattered by reality. This kind of feeling that things are human often makes us feel an indescribable sense of loss and fear. Even in the mirror, they have changed a lot, who can guarantee that they have not changed as peers? In order to avoid this embarrassment, some people choose to escape, preferring to cherish the good memories in their hearts rather than face each other, and not disturbing is the last tenderness.
At the graduation ceremony of Zhejiang University of Technology, the graduates took photos and recorded Source: WeChat official account of Zhejiang University of Technology
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No matter how the times change and how the years wash, the friendship between classmates is a precious friendship in everyone's life. Whether we can see each other again after graduation and how to meet better are particularly important in three sentences.
Disparities should not be a concern. The key to the difficulty of saying goodbye after graduation is not the "physical distance" between cities, but more the "psychological distance". There is an opinion that the gap between peers widens mainly after graduation, especially three or four years after graduation. Some have a very high starting point, and they will go to a big factory and a big platform after graduation, and their development prospects are envied by many people; Some choose to return to the county to settle down, work hard for their dreams in their posts, have a little more stability and calmness, and there is no lack of small luck in life; Some have been wandering and confused, "jumping sideways" between different fields and cities. In this way, people who were originally on the same starting line started a staggered life.
There is no definition of high or low in life, and the same is true for the criteria for success. No profession or path is necessarily superior to others. As long as you work hard, as long as you are good, everyone who is useful to the country and society and works hard to manage your own life is a person who "mixes well" in front of her classmates. With the gradual extension of graduation time, life experience and experience tend to be richer, and compared with the external career, income, and status, inner stability and calmness are more rare.
Always keep the purity of classmates. Without this, it is easy for people to have a rejection mentality about seeing each other again after graduation. In real life and various film and television works, there are not many "strange episodes" and "famous scenes" encountered by classmates reuniting. Some people lament that many class reunions seem to have changed their taste, not looking back at the friendship of classmates and sharing the bits and pieces of life, but becoming a carrier for comparing each other and showing off their wealth in a fancy way. "The defense of adults starts with a class reunion", "I am noisy for a few hours, and I don't live my own life after I go back", "I get together once, and I don't want to go again".
The friendship formed in youth should be pure and simple. You can't change to another look just because time has passed, or put on a mask to deliberately perform, which completely deviates from the original intention. Every telling, listening, looking at each other, even if it is an "awkward chat" for a moment, is actually a breeze that stirs up the memories of youth, which is what a reunion should look like.
Don't let the coming day become a sigh of regret. Although after graduation, people will eventually have to return to their own life tracks. But whether it is full of scenery along the way or muddy roads, I believe that the concern and wish from my classmates will always make people's hearts surge, and it is also a great motivation for a person to move forward. As the saying goes, don't wish to blossom after the flowers, and meet again is still the same, and the wordless tacit understanding between classmates is like this.
The calendar is turned page by page, and many people have become "unfinished" after graduation. In this fast-paced era, everyone should learn to stop, set aside a little time, to cherish and care for classmates, only by taking the initiative to write a more moving story, don't let a sentence "the future is long" become a sigh of regret.
Source: Zhejiang Propaganda WeChat public account