Li Hande, who is now in his sixtieth year, looked at his wife lying on the hospital bed, and thought of the pair of children who were not angry, and he really wanted to cry without tears.
Crawling on the face full of wrinkles, the Tao is the vicissitudes of life.
He should have had a peaceful old age, and he and his wife have a pension of more than 3,000 yuan every month, although it is not particularly high, but it is already very good for them living in a second-tier city.
He and his wife are old employees of the old state-owned enterprises, and his wife has retired peacefully as early as 5 years ago, although she is retired, but she is not idle, but chooses to go to the canteen of a kindergarten not far from home as a cook, 2,500 yuan a month.
In this way, he and his wife have a stable income of more than 8,000 yuan per month, and the old couple is happy in their hearts, feeling that the days after retirement are really good days.
His son works in a public institution, which is responsible for managing the city's buses and taxis, although the salary is not very high, but the welfare package is very good, and the overall salary is not bad.
The daughter-in-law is a bus driver in the city, and her monthly income is also good, but she is a little busy, but her parents are retired cadres and love their little grandson very much, so the life of the son and daughter-in-law is relatively comfortable.
My daughter was recruited as an accountant in a state-owned enterprise through a relationship, and after so many years of conscientious work, she finally mixed up a system.
Nan Huaijin, a master of Chinese culture, said: "Seeing profit is not working for pre-establishment, and not being chaotic in distress is determined." ”
Li Hande worked hard for this family for most of his life, worked hard in the unit, survived most of his life, and finally survived until retirement.
As Tao Yuanming said: "After being in the cage for a long time, you can return to nature." ”
Retirement is a new stage in life, one wrong step, one wrong step. Many times, you don't have your own opinions and judgments, blindly follow the trend, do a lot of foolish things, and it will be difficult to be at peace in your old age.
Li Hande never imagined that his old age would be such a bleak scene.
In the final analysis, it was because he didn't force himself to complete these things as soon as possible, thus ruining his otherwise happy old age.
01. About the location of the pension: Retired couples, instead of hesitating whether to go to the countryside for the elderly, it is better to try to go to the countryside to live for a while.
Li Hande, who left his hometown in his 20s, came to the city to join his uncle, and with his excellent electrical skills, he gained a foothold in a state-owned enterprise.
From a small electric power apprentice, to becoming an independent engineer, and then to the workshop power supervisor, he took one step at a time, steadily and steadily, relying on blood and sweat.
He remembers that when he was young, in the workshop, he was not only responsible for the power pipelines of several workshops, but also when the work was busy, people and machines did not stop, and he and his colleagues stayed in the unit almost all night to ensure that the problem of the circuit was solved as soon as possible to ensure the normal operation of the workshop.
The large steel plate weighing hundreds of tons in the workshop, a safety accident, fell down and smashed into the person's body, which will directly smash the person in half, and the scene is extremely tragic.
One of his colleagues, because he was too sleepy because he stayed up all night, took a nap, his mind was not clear, he took the wrong tool, and almost lost his life.
Back then, when he was penniless, he came to a foreign land to join his uncle, and the taste of being under the fence was not comfortable, he had to be able to speak, he had to have vision, and he had to rush to do more work.
Although he bought a house in the city, settled down, married and had children, his life was not easy, so deep in his heart, he still had a deep hometown complex.
After retiring, he has been thinking about returning to his hometown to retire, but after leaving his hometown for many years, his parents and relatives are long gone, and the old houses in his hometown are also depressed and unable to live in.
When he told his son and daughter about the idea, the siblings were unanimously opposed and did not approve of him going back.
In the eyes of the children, there is no affection for their hometown, they will not go back, there is no one they know when they go back, and there is no common language.
Li Hande listened to the words of his children and felt very desolate in his heart, but he had made up his mind, so he and his wife returned to their hometown, spent a month, and spent 50,000 yuan to repair the old house.
The two happily retired in the countryside, however, what he didn't expect was that he offended a large circle of people because he refused a relative's request to ask him to help find a job for his son.
The relative went around saying bad things about him, saying that he had mixed up outside, and when he came back, he turned his face and didn't recognize anyone, and he forgot who gave him the money to go to his uncle, etc.
Many other relatives also chose to distance themselves from him after hearing these bad remarks, which made him feel very depressed, and there were few people in the village who knew him, and the young people did not know much, and there was not even a chatter person.
The relatives also listened to the wind and rain, indiscriminately, and no one came to the door, he originally wanted to come back to contact relatives and friends in his hometown.
Unexpectedly, because of a trivial matter, all expectations were lost, and within 3 months, he and his wife felt that their faces could not be hung up, so they left quietly overnight.
After returning, the son and daughter not only did not comfort him, but also counted him down, and let himself reveal his financial resources in front of his son and daughter-in-law, who were testing his savings both inside and outside the words.
Tao Yuanming once wrote in "Words for Returning": "When the turmoil was not calm, and he was worried about serving far away, Peng Ze went home for a hundred miles, and the benefits of the public land were enough for wine." So I asked for it. and a few days, there is a feeling of return. ”
Facts have proved that after Tao Yuanming and his wife returned to their hometown, they had a good life and were on the right path.
After arriving at his hometown, Tao Yuanming wrote: "Planting beans in the south of the mountain, the grass is full of beans and seedlings. Morningside is desolate, and returns with the moon and lotus. ”
All the people who insist on returning to their hometown to retire for the elderly probably want to live a comfortable retirement life like Tao Yuanming, but they ignore two things: first, they don't have the good attitude and transparency like Tao Yuanming, and secondly, the current rural atmosphere is no longer so simple.
As someone once said, "Why leave the small place? Because the small local temple is small and the demon is windy, the pond is shallow and the king is eight. The most terrible thing is not that you can't make money, but that people's hearts are not right, and there are many things. Dogs bite people, they bite raw people, and people bite people bite acquaintances. Staying in a small place, the body is comfortable, but the heart is tired, and struggling in the big city, although the body is tired, the heart is free. ”
After retirement, people have free time and want to live a different life, but after all, they have been in the city where they work and live for most of their lives, and this is the most suitable place for their retirement.
The hometown in my heart is just the beauty of my imagination, I can go back to live for a while, just as I went out for a vacation, and I must not have too much hope for the people and things in my hometown.
Because, when I actually go back to live, I will find that the greater the hope, the greater the disappointment.
Pension, whether in urban or rural areas, the key is to be the best for yourself.
02. About family economy: Retired couples, instead of hesitating to continue working, it is better to force their children to earn some money.
After Li Hande came back from his hometown sullenly, he rested at home for two weeks, and felt very bored, so he chose to re-employ.
Through an acquaintance, he went to a private manufacturing factory to work as an electrician engineer, and he was mainly responsible for the maintenance and repair of circuits in the office area and canteen of the company's headquarters.
This is something that can be easily dealt with for him, after all, these circuits are still relatively simple, and they are mainly some complicated work, with low professional requirements, such as being responsible for checking and turning off the lights after work, purchasing electricity, daily maintenance of circuits, etc.
The work is relatively easy, there is no need to stay up late, there is no need to socialize, just do a good job and get the salary he deserves, for him, he is very satisfied.
My wife also returned to the kindergarten where she used to work and continued to work as a cook in the cafeteria.
Life finally returned to the previous stable state, he thought that the world would be peaceful from now on, but what he didn't expect was that the divine operation of his son and daughter-in-law disrupted his peaceful retirement life.
One day he was working in the company, but he received a call from his son, and he hurriedly said "Go home after work, and discuss with him if you have something", and hung up the phone.
He began to mumble in his heart, his son rarely called him on weekdays, what was the matter with him today?
As a result, after work, when he returned home, his son and daughter-in-law had already come to the house, and as soon as he entered the door, his son smiled and said: "Dad, I am in urgent need of money, you lend me 200,000 yuan, and I will return the principal to you even with interest, and you will not have much interest on the bank." ”
As soon as he heard this, his brain buzzed for a while, and for the sake of safety, he didn't talk immediately, but walked to the living room sofa and sat down and said, "How can I lend you so much money, don't you have to continue to save the pension money for the rest of your life with your mother?" ”
The son was immediately unhappy and said: "Dad, who believes you if you don't have money, I didn't let you come back home to care for the elderly some time ago, don't you also take out more than 50,000 yuan to repair the house in minutes?" When you come to me, you will cry poor, am I your own son? I'm not too old anymore, and I don't want to stay in that unit that doesn't starve to death and can't make a fortune. ”
Li Hande sighed, didn't have anything to refute his son, and asked: "Your job is a stable job, don't think about those useless jobs, you won't have the life to make a fortune, working steadily in the unit is the right thing, I don't have money for you." ”
"Then you won't have my son in the future!" After saying that, he pulled his daughter-in-law and slammed the door.
Li Hande and his wife were choked with anger, and his wife secretly shed tears. He thought that this was the end of the matter, but he didn't expect that the bigger thunder was still behind.
Two months later, one day, the daughter-in-law suddenly appeared at the door of the house, knelt down with a crying voice and said, "Dad, please save Dazhi." ”
"What's wrong?" Li Hande asked.
"He partnered with someone to do business, and he lost all of it, and the money for doing business was the money from the mortgage loan on the house, and now the repayment period is coming soon, and if he can't pay it, his home will be gone."
"How much did this bastard borrow?" Li Hand's blood pressure soared instantly.
"400,000."
Li Hande stomped his feet angrily, and he said regretfully: "Why did I go home to repair the house again, and work hard to go out to work again, it was really better to retire at home in peace and stability, and don't give him these unwarranted fantasies, thinking that I still have a lot of savings in my hands, and all the savings I and your mother can't fill this hole in you!" ”
In the end, he took out all the pension money and paid off the arrears for his son, but the second half of his life with his wife was miserable.
Tao Yuanming wrote in the article: "The Yu family is poor, and cultivation is not enough for self-sufficiency...... The uncle was poor, so he saw it used for Xiaoyi. ”
Although his career in the second half of his life was not smooth, he was very wise about the education of his children.
He wrote his parenting insights: "Ah Shu is twenty-eight, and he is lazy. A Xuan Xingzhi learns, but does not love literature. Yongduan is thirteen years old, and he doesn't know six and seven. Tongzi hangs nine years old, but looks for pears and chestnuts. ”
No matter how prosperous his life was later, he would let his children study hard, seriously learn the ability to survive independently, and warned his children that sooner or later they must rely on themselves, and don't expect to rely on their parents.
After retirement, you must retire with peace of mind, take care of yourself, stop thinking about making money, and don't give your children the opportunity to gnaw at old age in disguise, otherwise it will ruin a happy life in the second half of your life.
Forcing their children to make more money, if they don't have the ability to make money, forcing them to continue to study and learn a skill. It's really not good, it's right to go to work, and working hard is the right way.
03. About gregariousness or not: Retired couples, instead of looking for square dancing and mahjong parlors, it is better to care for their families.
Li Hande and his wife, since helping their son pay off his debts, have almost no savings in their hands, and can only live on pensions every month.
He once regretted that he had gone to work in the first place, but now they have to continue to work and save their own pension money for emergencies, because their son and daughter cannot be counted on.
The daughters and sons-in-law work very ordinary, just ordinary clerks, just enough to support themselves.
He and his wife were busy with their own work every day, and after a year of hard work, they finally saved another 80,000 yuan.
After the Spring Festival, my wife felt that her body was a little unbearable, so she quit her job and went home to rest, but she couldn't stay at home, so she went to square dance.
As a result, unexpectedly, she became obsessed with filming Douyin, and she was curious and interested at first, but later she was brainwashed by some bad people.
said that he wanted to make money by filming Douyin as an Internet celebrity, and he did not hesitate to spend thousands of yuan to buy courses, and studied from morning to night like a student, not even cooking, and not caring about housework.
When Li Hande came back from work, he had to be responsible for cooking and cleaning up the house. His wife was obsessed with filming Douyin all day long, and he thought at first that it would not be a bad thing for his wife to have something to do.
But unexpectedly, my wife took it seriously, spent money to buy classes, and spent money to buy a lot of equipment and clothes, but in the end nothing came true.
After finally feeling that I had been cheated, because I was worried about money and was in a hurry, I suddenly suffered a stroke and became hemiplegic, and one side of my body could not take care of itself.
Li Hande was really in pain, because he had no savings in his hand, he couldn't quit his job, but he had to take care of his wife, so he had to insist on going to work, hurried home at noon to take care of his wife for lunch, and then hurried back to the company.
After getting off work and rushing home, he was about to be unable to hold on to such days several times, but he could only grit his teeth and persevere.
He didn't expect that when he reached old age, he would have to run so hard.
Tao Yuanming once said: "When you bring your children into the room, you will have a bottle of wine." Introduce the pot to drink yourself, and the court is pleasant. ”
He also told himself, "I want to cut off my friendship with the world." ”
Many people, after retirement, gradually streamline their social circle and live their own small life quietly.
In the future life, whether you want to dance or play mahjong, you should respect yourself, not who will invite you, just be embarrassed, force a happy face, and make do.
After retirement, the best way to live is not sick or disaster, not to lose yourself, not to fall into the trap, to completely return to the family, and to care for the family, which is the most important thing.
After retirement, the best pension state is to "talk about multiplication and return to the end, and Lefu's destiny will be ridiculed".
Don't blindly follow the trend in the place of retirement, the place you are most familiar with is the best.
Don't disclose your money to your children too early, let your children take care of their own lives, so that they can survive independently in the future.
For external social relationships and external desires, we must learn to break away, learn to streamline, know how to return to the family, care for the family, and care for the wife.
Retirement is a major turning point in your life, don't lose yourself, but a bright village.
Such a happy old age is the only one who is happy.