It's really not that simple to leave.
Even if you are in a wrong relationship or relationship, you know the drawbacks well, but too often you still can't stay away so simply, not because you are not brave, but because you think too much.
Once you take into account the hard work you have made and the unforgettable memories between the bits and pieces, you will often disturb your thoughts, and you will want to let go of it happily, but you will be unwilling, so you can only let yourself wander between the two extremes.
The more this is the case, the more physically and mentally exhausted you will be, and you will never be able to make the final choice in the repeated pulling.
The key is that in the repeated entanglement, the torment brought by it makes people unable to sleep at night, and they always sigh in the spiritual internal friction.
No one is born brave, they are all ordinary people with soft hearts, and if they want to leave in a really chic way, they never think about it repeatedly, but they will drag on for longer and longer, and the more they can't get out of the haze of life.
In my opinion, a woman who dares to leave, the real confidence comes from the following four words, in order to truly say goodbye to yesterday and welcome the light, which is really not simple.
1 Stop loss in time and say goodbye to being consumed
The host Bai Yansong once said:
"The reason why we live a tired life is not that we are too mean, but that we are too easily infected by the atmosphere of the outside world and swayed by the emotions of others."
When we really can't say goodbye to a wrong relationship or relationship, in fact, the main reason is that we are affected by various emotions, including disturbances from the outside world, and inner ups and downs.
Because of this, it is easier to be unable to let yourself pull repeatedly, and you have been reluctant and unable to let go.
If you want to dare to leave, you must stop losses in time, and you must clearly tell yourself that the past is in the past, and no matter how unwilling and reluctant you are, you will only be consumed by all kinds of bad emotions.
The more you think about it, the more you hesitate, the sunk cost of yourself increases, and it will make you even more unable to let go, and you will lose more, and it will be irretrievable.
Those women who really dare to leave are not cold-blooded and ruthless, but follow the principle of timely stop loss, know how to treat themselves well, and don't want to continue to pay more for the wrong people and things.
If you don't like it, you don't like it, and if you don't like it, you don't like it.
Let yourself say no in time, no matter who it is, it is a good end, the key is to let yourself pay for your mistakes is the biggest unworthiness, not to let yourself be consumed, is the biggest sobriety at this moment.
2 Let go of dependencies and live an independent life
There is a saying:
"You can't live too much inseparable, in fact, you are too dependent."
If you think about it, it does.
Some women know that this relationship is not suitable for them, and they can't leave because they used to rely too much on each other, so that they lose their sense of security when they think of separation.
This kind of dependence is more from spiritual attachment, and it is also a small detail in daily life, which has become my precious memory, and once I think of it, I can't let it go.
Once, when I encountered something, I thought of asking the other party for help; In the past, no matter what problems I encountered, I would confide in each other.
It is precisely because of the long-term mental dependence that I became flustered for a while, and I didn't dare to face what to do after losing my dependence.
In fact, only when you really let go of dependence and live an independent self can you really leave, and you will not be bound by the wrong people and make your life dull.
No matter when, you have to give priority to the truest feelings in your heart, don't be reluctant, don't embarrass yourself, since you feel the pain, since there is no tomorrow, it is better to let yourself live better, and you will meet a more suitable person in your life.
When you dare to be independent, it is actually the beginning of the true awakening of self, you will not live in the shadow of others, but become stronger yourself, and making yourself live a better life is the most important pursuit in life.
You have to tell yourself clearly that dependence will only make you worse and worse, it is better to live more independent earlier, make yourself more valuable, live as a light on the road of life, and light yourself up to have more choices.
3 Passerby's mentality will make you see more clearly
There are ancient poems:
"I don't know the true face of Lushan, only because I am in this mountain."
There are some women who can't really leave, and look at the problem more from their own point of view, if they can adopt the mentality of passers-by, they will often make themselves more rational and can see the problem clearly.
The so-called passerby mentality, also known as the bystander mentality, is to let yourself think outside the box and look at problems from someone else's perspective.
The advantage of thinking in this way is that you can get answers from different perspectives, and it is easier to let go of the entanglements in your heart and make more informed choices.
For example, when you meet the wrong person or relationship at the moment, if you just stand on your own position, you will definitely have a lot of thoughts and entanglements, but when you jump out, you will find that when you look back and think about it after the time has passed, this is not an insurmountable gap, just a small wave of life.
When you think about it like this, you will be calm in your heart, and you will not let yourself continue to be entangled, or sigh all day long.
Saying goes:
"The authorities are confused, but the bystanders are clear."
No matter who you are, you will often be obsessed with a difficult situation, but when you can step out and look at it from a different perspective, you will easily break the game.
4 Uncle Zhihe said
Life will inevitably go the wrong way, and this is all understandable.
But you must not let yourself continue to make one wrong step, one wrong step, this is the worst result, you will only waste your good time and waste the most beautiful years.
Every woman is not born brave, and it is normal to hesitate in the face of leaving, don't blame yourself, let alone be sad.
We can use the above three methods to make ourselves truly say goodbye to mistakes, no longer continue to pay for unworthy people and things, but organize our thoughts and start again, and we can still achieve steady and far-reaching results.
May you be able to become a brave person in life through experience, be able to have fun in every encounter, and leave with dignity when parting, meet the most beautiful self unexpectedly, and embrace the beauty of the world affectionately.
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