In our Chinese there is an old saying that "there is no filial son before the bed of a long illness". Anyone who takes care of a patient for a long time will inevitably suffer from physical and mental devastation, and the end result will be that they will not be able to provide the best care for the patient, and they will also face the risk of collapse.
In real life, there are indeed a large number of cases of collapse due to caring for patients. Some of them even chose a decisive way to end this care by taking the sick to their death, and of course ended up sending themselves to prison.
We have to ask, why is this state formed? What is the process of physical and mental changes for the family members who have been taking care of the patients? Why did they go down the path of killing their loved ones? More importantly, we want to explore not only the status quo, but also whether there is a possibility to change this status quo in real life, whether there is another way for patients to receive better care, and to free the families who care for patients from tragedy.
NHK's special program recording team focuses on the real problems of Japanese society, and digs deep into many issues that are closely related to people, but are often overlooked, so that they can be presented to the world, and this book "Is Family, but also Murderer", so that this situation can get more attention and find solutions.
For desperate caregivers, it is those who are in pain in the process of caring for the sick and cannot extricate themselves, and even choose to kill their own loved ones. The recording team also carried out follow-up reports, tracking more than a dozen murderers who actually killed their loved ones, exploring their mental journeys, and exploring how they went from being full of warmth and hope to despair.
I believe this part of the content will have a strong resonance for the vast majority of readers who have sick relatives to take care of. For example, when some patients have problems, they are no longer their amiable and respectable relatives, but become extremely strange, extremely painful, and even have violent tendencies, which makes the people who care for them also suffer from this negative emotion.
In these cases, we see the truest feeling of taking care of: "At that time I thought she was a monster in my mother's skin". And with this thought, the caregiver finally killed his mother in an unbearable situation after several months of care.
What about the other cases? They all have a lot of similarities and differences, all of which are long-term single efforts without any return, and finally let themselves fall into a mental breakdown, and finally choose the wrong way to end it all.
But this should not have happened, and there should have been a better solution. This is true for the patient, and the same is true for the family members who care for the patient. So what's the solution? In this book, the author also gives us corresponding advice. For example, caring for the sick should not be the responsibility of one person, but the responsibility of society. If this pain can be shared and more people can bear it, then these conditions will inevitably be effectively resolved.
Of course, the premise is that this status quo can be truly seen. And this reporting team in Japan and the words presented to us by this reporting team are the best way for more people to see this state of affairs. The same is true for us in China, there must be a group of family members who must take care of their loved ones, they should also be seen and cared for, and their psychological problems must be effectively solved. Let everyone see the problems in our society and find solutions to them under the concept of this book. #纪实##照护# #