Sometimes, we may feel that if we have not yet stepped into the palace of marriage and have not become parents, it seems to be a special arrangement of fate. Why? Because it acts as a barrier against the many challenges and pains that may come with it.
1. Emotional bondage and freedom
Emotional bonds: Since birth, everyone has been endowed with various emotional bonds, such as family, friendship, love, etc. These emotions are like threads that connect us to others and form the most precious part of our lives. However, when these emotions change or break for various reasons, we often feel deep pain and helplessness. This is the bond of emotion, which is both a source of happiness and a source of suffering.
Breathe freely: However, when we are not yet bound by the chains of marriage and have not yet taken on the responsibility of parenting, we have more freedom and space to explore ourselves and pursue our dreams. This freedom allows us to stay awake in the ocean of emotions and avoid losing ourselves by overdwelling on a relationship.
Second, six relatives are shallow and blessed
Six shallow kinship: In Buddhism, "shallow kinship" is often seen as a blessing. It means that we have a relatively weak emotional connection with our loved ones, but that doesn't mean we lack love and care. On the contrary, it makes us more independent and self-reliant, and we can focus on self-growth and improvement. We don't have to be burdened by complicated family relationships, nor do we have to grieve excessively over the loss of a loved one.
The embodiment of good fortune: For those who are small and helpless and grow up alone, the shallow relationship of six relatives may be a challenge, but it is also an opportunity. It helps us to learn to face life independently, to develop a resilient will and a spirit of self-improvement. In the end, we are often able to rise in the face of adversity and achieve magnificent transformation.
3. Resolve feelings rather than break them
The wisdom of empathy: The Buddha taught us to "stay away from upside-down dreams and attain nirvana", which does not mean that we should cut off all emotional connections, but that we should learn to face and deal with emotions with a wise mindset. We must understand that all emotions are born of the harmony of conditions and will eventually be extinguished by the harmony of circumstances. Therefore, we don't have to be too attached to a relationship or an emotion, but we need to learn to let go and let go.
Accept all feelings with no emotion: When facing various emotions such as family, friendship, and love, we should maintain a calm mind, neither overly enthusiastic nor indifferent and detached. We must accept and cherish every emotional experience with a mindset of nothing to ask for, and at the same time, we must be ready to let go at any time. In this way, we can soar freely in the ocean of emotions and not be bound by any emotion.
epilogue
Emotions are an integral part of our journey in life. However, we also need to learn to find a balance between emotional bondage and freedom. When we have not yet entered the palace of marriage and have not yet had children, we might as well cherish this rare time of freedom; When we are in the whirlpool of emotions, we might as well use the wisdom of the Buddha to resolve the confusion and pain in our hearts. Eventually, we will be able to ride the waves and move forward in the ocean of emotions.