Zhang Ailing's wisdom: Love is not only his good
In the bustling city, we are often surrounded by all kinds of emotional stories, and the most heartwarming and confusing of them is love. Zhang Ailing, known as "an outlier in the history of modern Chinese literature", reveals the truth of love for us with her unique brushstrokes.
She once said, "You can make a man rich and handsome, but you must not just want him to be good to you, because this is the easiest and least expensive to disguise." This sentence is like a beacon that illuminates our way forward on the road of love.
Love, the most complex and beautiful emotion in the world, originates from the collision of hearts, but transcends material boundaries. We often say that love does not distinguish between rich and poor, does not care about beauty or ugliness, it is only about the mutual attraction of two hearts. However, in real love, we are often attracted by certain qualities of the other person. He may have enviable wealth or a charming look, but what makes us feel the most is often his kindness to us.
This kind of goodness is warm, delicate, and makes us feel cared for and cherished. In love, we all want to be a unique existence in each other's eyes, hope that every detail of ourselves can be noticed by the other party, and hope that every emotion of ourselves can be responded to by the other party. Therefore, when a man treats us well, we feel immensely happy and satisfied, as if the whole world is a better place because of him.
However, Zhang Ailing reminds us that this kind of good is often the easiest to disguise and the least costly. In the world of love, some people will deliberately try to please each other in order to get what they want. They will put in a lot of time and energy in a short period of time, making us mistakenly think that this is true love. However, when they get what they want, this goodness quickly disappears, leaving us alone with an empty heart.
So, how do we keep a clear head in love? First of all, we must understand that love is not a one-sided giving and taking, but mutual understanding and support between both parties. A man who truly loves you will not only be good to you, but will also respect you, understand you, and support you. He will lend a helping hand when you need it, be forgiving and understanding when you make mistakes, and share joy with you when you succeed. This kind of goodness is sincere, long-lasting, and cannot be disguised.
Secondly, we must learn to think independently and not be easily fooled by the sweet words of the other party. In love, we have to have our own judgment and choice. When we find that the other party's good is only superficial, short-lived, and conditional, we must bravely stand up, say our true feelings, and safeguard our dignity and rights.
Finally, we need to cherish those who are truly good to us. On the long road of life, it is not easy to meet someone who truly loves you. When we meet such people, we must know how to cherish and be grateful. We should respond to him with the same goodness, so that love becomes more beautiful and strong in mutual giving.
Although Zhang Ailing's sentence is short, it has far-reaching meaning. It tells us that in love, we can't blindly invest in feelings just because the other person is good to us. We need to see each other for what it really is and understand the true meaning of love. Only in this way can we go further, more stable and happier on the road of love.