These two days
College entrance examination scores across the country have been announced one after another
Regardless of the outcome
Be proud of your children
Remember to talk to him
You are excellent
If you happen to have a college entrance examination family around you
Please don't disturb people's happiness
Just care silently
01
[Your excessive concern may become a burden to others]
I once saw such a story:
After the college entrance examination results came out, I clicked on my colleague's WeChat.
Her children also took the college entrance examination this year.
Out of concern for her colleagues, she wanted to ask about her children's grades.
I just typed in the words "Your child's results are out, how did he do in the test", and I haven't clicked send yet.
Suddenly found that her avatar had changed to the words "Don't ask about grades".
At that moment, I was embarrassed with a capital letter.
What I thought was concern turned out to be the trouble of others.
There was such a question on Zhihu: "How to politely ask a person about his college entrance examination results?" ”
The most upvoted response was: "I think it's polite not to ask." ”
There is a kind of politeness called not to inquire about other people's college entrance examination results.
If people don't talk about it, let's not ask.
Unless people are willing to tell you.
If someone else takes the initiative to say it, you can rejoice or comfort it.
If others don't take the initiative to say it and avoid talking about it, then don't bother easily.
Giving others time and space is the kindness that people should have.
02
[Your "showing off" may become a disservice to others]
When I was shopping at the supermarket, I heard two mothers chatting.
"How much did your daughter score in the exam? What school can I go to? ”
"I did well in the exam, 3 points more than the first line."
"3 points is good, my son is a few points higher, I'm angry!"
The mother politely complimented her, and then said no more. The corners of his mouth, which had been raised, slowly drooped.
The road to the college entrance examination is never easy, and it is not easy for every child.
Just keep your own happiness, and don't destroy the happiness of others because of temporary pride.
If you can't applaud, then keep silent.
03
[Please don't disturb the happiness of others]
When I was in school, a female classmate took advantage of the long vacation to go out of town to get together with her boyfriend. I heard that she went in a hard seat for more than 20 hours, and my classmate couldn't help but say: If I were her boyfriend, I would definitely buy her a sleeper!
Unexpectedly, this word reached the ears of the classmate, which made her very uncomfortable. Although happiness depends on everyone's own psychological adjustment, they must also learn not to disturb the happiness of others.
Emotional expert Zhu Jing wrote in the article "Don't Disturb the Happiness of Others":
What you see may be a kind of suffering, but in the eyes of others it may be happiness.
This kind of happiness has nothing to do with glory and wealth, nothing to do with reputation and status, but only a kind of telepathy and tacit understanding.
This kind of happiness, like a flower blooming, is silent, but the fragrance lingers and ripples in each other's hearts, turning it into an eternal and eternal life.
Everyone has their own happiness and their own way of happiness.
As a bystander, remember: appropriate silence is a form of demeanor.
Inner self-sufficiency is happiness, which is not enough for outsiders.
Life is open, but happiness is oneself.
Don't disturb the happiness of others, happiness is also a person's privacy. What you see in your eyes is a kind of suffering, and in the hearts of others it may be a kind of happiness. This kind of happiness has nothing to do with glory and wealth, nothing to do with reputation and status, but only a kind of telepathy and tacit understanding.
This kind of happiness, like the opening of flowers, is silent, but the fragrance lingers and ripples in each other's hearts, turning it into an eternity and eternity in life.
The college entrance examination is over, if you are a candidate, whether the results are satisfactory or not, please move forward firmly.
If you are a parent, please hold your child tightly.
If you are a teacher, if a child takes the initiative to tell the college entrance examination score, no matter how much, give him the best wishes!
Then say from the heart: "Child, hard work, you are great!" ”
If you are a bystander, please be silently concerned.