The stars are moving, and the sun and the moon are like shuttles. Time flies like a white horse, and in a flash, we are old and enter the sunset red.
When people are old, they must know how to respect and love themselves, handle the relationship with their children, and everything will prosper in their family and talents! So what can you do so that you don't get disliked by your children? I think the following six points are inseparable:
First, there must be a sense of boundaries
This point should always be remembered, and don't think that children are born and raised by themselves, and they can live together for a long time without boundaries. Keeping a certain distance from your children is the key to maintaining a good family relationship!
Children, grown up, they are an independent individual. They want to have their own lives and futures.
They need to live their own space and don't want to be disturbed by others. This also includes their parents.
Don't be like my colleague Sister-in-law Xu, who lives in the same neighborhood as his son, and often goes to his son's house to help clean up when he has nothing to do. It's mopping, laundry, grocery shopping.
On two occasions, Sister-in-law Xu actually took her daughter-in-law and son out of the bathroom and washed them and dried them on the drying rack on the balcony. It was this operation that caused great dissatisfaction among his son and daughter-in-law, who felt that there was no personal living space and no privacy at all.
Later, one day, my son's family secretly changed the combination lock, and the password was not told to her.
Second, pretending to be deaf and dumb and stupid
Go to the children's house, whether it is a small residence or a permanent stay. We all have to be self-aware, and what we should say, let's say. If you shouldn't say it, let's not say it.
Seeing that they dismantled the express until they were soft, we didn't see it. Seeing that they just buy it, they don't eat it, the food has expired, and they haven't opened the package yet, even if they throw the whole package out, don't feel distressed, and you don't chatter. As soon as you chatter, you will blow up your hair! People are upset, you are distressed, people say it, and they don't spend your money.
In this case, you have to pretend to be deaf, dumb and stupid. The money they earn themselves, and they decide what to buy, that is, they swipe their credit cards, borrow flowers, and spend in advance. We also have to turn a blind eye, don't care.
When you go to your children's homes, remember to be less nosy and more worked. Don't work and don't do less, your mouth is still pouting, but no one reads you well!
Third, dress neatly and cleanly
When a man is old, he must also dress up and keep himself clean. Don't build it all day long, don't say that others are annoying, and you can't look at it yourself.
It is necessary to take a bath frequently, change clothes and socks frequently, and don't let your body smell of old age.
I dressed it cleanly, fitted and generous, and it was also a glory for my children's faces. Otherwise, what you have made all day long will be like a rag, and the children will look at it, can they not dislike you?
Fourth, do not mix with intergenerational education
Speaking well, children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren, and do not be horses and cattle for children and grandchildren. It is better to interfere less in the affairs of the children's family. The education of grandchildren should be left to their parents, and we must not mix it.
They will enroll their children in any cram school they want. If you are willing to learn any special class, you can learn what special class. If we have the ability, we will give them some money and support them. If you don't have the ability, you must learn to stand aside, learn to shut up, and don't get involved.
The grandchildren's affairs are arranged by their parents. It's better for our old guys to mix less, and mix more, it's all a thing.
Fifth, do not depend on your children, do not gnaw on your children
As long as you are in good health, don't rely on your children too early. Children also have difficulties for their children, and they also have to find a place to eat food! They also have to feed their next generation.
As long as you can take care of yourself completely, don't rely on your children too early. Becoming dependent on children too early is bound to cause them financial stress and mental burden. Do this as much as you can, so that your children will dislike you, and you won't have a chance!
The best ending is that the old don't gnaw the small. The small ones don't gnaw the old ones, and they are safe.
Sixth, be in good health and cause less trouble to your children
When people are old, they should pay attention to their physical health, and having a good body for themselves is to cause less trouble to their children.
Otherwise, you will be sick and crooked all day long. Can children not worry about you? If you are bedridden, don't you have to be your own children who are suffering and tired, and who serve before and after the bed?
You know, there is no filial son in front of the bed for a long time. Serving a bedridden patient for many years, everyone has to be annoyed.
Therefore, having a good body is to reduce the burden and trouble for your children!
When people are old, if they want not to be disliked by their children, they must keep a certain distance from their children and have a sense of boundaries. Don't get involved in the private affairs of the children's family, don't rely on the old and sell the old, don't rely on the children too early, take care of your own body, and don't cause trouble to your children. If you do all of the above, it will be difficult for your children to dislike you!
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