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Tolstoy once said: "Happy families are all similar, and unhappy families have their own misfortunes." ”
We all want to have a happy marriage and family, so what do they have in common?
In my opinion, it is undoubtedly communication, because people who are good at communication can make two people find common ground, resolve the crisis, and promote family harmony.
Communication between husband and wife is indeed an art, and in the face of their lovers who get along day and night, they must not only pay special attention to communication and communication, but also communicate effectively.
By reaching understanding in communication, coordinating with each other from understanding, and those who cannot be coordinated, we must also learn to be tolerant in order to reduce friction, increase mutual trust, and stabilize your love and marriage.
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Talking is the basis of a marriage, and a marriage without words is prone to illness.
There is such a couple in the entertainment industry, they are Yu Qian and Bai Huiming of the old husband and wife.
Yu Qian was 30 years old when she got married.
For him, love is definitely not the main reason why he entered the marriage.
But because of a serious illness, he changed his mind.
At that time, Yu Qian had a high fever for 3 consecutive days, and he couldn't get out of bed at all, and there was no one to serve, at this time Yu Qian felt that feeling of helplessness.
The desire for companionship and care is greater than the desire for emotion.
With such a thought, Yu Qian wanted to get married.
Just at this time, Bai Huiming appeared in Yu Qian's line of sight.
At that time, Bai Huiming was 9 years younger than Yu Qian, and she was still in college.
At that time, she was recommended by her teacher to be a mass actor in Yu Qian's "Red Print" crew.
Bai Huiming stayed in the crew for four days, and also had a phone call from Yu Qian, and then the two talked about love.
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However, at that time, Bai Huiming's parents obviously would not agree to such a marriage, the gap between the two grades was too large, and Yu Qian was engaged in literature and art, and needed to run everywhere.
However, at that time, Bai Huiming had already been blinded by love, and he didn't think so much at all.
She just wanted to be with the boy who was willing to rush to buy two flowers at the subway station to see her.
Although the parents did not agree to the marriage, they agreed to the daughter's request.
At the age of 20, she and Yu Qian finally got married.
At the age of 26, the eldest son, Yu Yunting, was born.
They lived a plain, ordinary life, and the two never quarreled.
Bai Huiming said that what she missed most was the days when she lived in the Qi family.
Bai Huiming stayed at home quietly, waiting for her husband's return.
They cared for each other, understood each other, and lived a very comfortable life.
But then Bai Huiming became pregnant, and Bai Huiming gradually felt that Yu Qian was no longer so spoiled by himself.
It just so happened that the Deyun Society exploded at that time, and Yu Qian was too busy at work to take care of Bai Huiming.
It was not easy to meet, Bai Huiming wanted to talk to Yu Qianduo.
However, Yu Qian, who was focused on his work, was not as attentive as before.
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In these 20 years of marriage, Bai Huiming gave almost all of his time to Yu Qian.
However, Yu Qian always found various reasons to shirk it, and after a long time, the feelings of the two people faded.
From Yu Qian and Bai Huiming, I seemed to see the shadows of my parents.
The nagging mother, from time to time pretending not to hear the father.
Everyone has lived a life like this, and it seems that there is no problem.
But there is no efficient communication, or even no communication, the problem is here.
So, how can couples communicate more effectively? What about resolving unnecessary conflicts?
First of all, we need to figure out the reason for the contradiction, whether it is the family purchasing or the focus and position of the problem, or the purpose that we want to achieve is different.
Sometimes for a thing, in a short period of time, it is true that there is no obvious benefit to the family, and even bring inconvenience, but in the long run, there is still a benefit, as long as there is sufficient communication, opinions can be reached.
Secondly, both husband and wife should learn to respect each other and tolerate and understand each other.
In the way of understanding and communication, understand each other's intentions, if the intentions are consistent, what kind of way to achieve this goal, you may as well go their own way and use their own methods to achieve the goal.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="47" > conclusion</h1>
In short, to deal with family conflicts, we must strengthen understanding and communication under a normal mentality, and try to let all members of the family work hard for common goals. In contradictions and disputes, we find the common goals, value orientations and behaviors of both parties.
Where there are differences in the living habits and emotional habits of the two sides, we must also tolerate each other, as long as it does not involve the issue of principle, it is completely possible to "reserve differences".
Let people's feelings tolerate those things that they can't understand or small shortcomings that can't be changed, and use positive factors to eliminate negative factors, in order to achieve the purpose of reconciling relationships, resolving contradictions, and maintaining family harmony.
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