Brush up on a video:
An 85-year-old lady is seriously teaching her grandson how to choose a mate after taking the college entrance examination.
"If you want to find a girl with a good wife and mother, you must love her own career, and she must not be narrow, stingy, and unkind. This kind of girl...... No matter how good her home is, you can't ask for it! The most important thing is the family, and you should be good to the family. ”
This video was posted by the old lady's granddaughter, and she said that the old lady usually has a good personality and is quite cheerful.
My younger brother just came back from the college entrance examination recently, and the old lady suddenly told her grandson this, and the family was quite surprised.
I didn't watch the original video, and I don't know what the girl's original intention was in posting the video.
But she didn't expect the video to make her grandmother suffer a lot of abuse, so she deleted the original video.
"Enterprising and a good wife and mother, which means making money, taking care of the baby, laundry and cooking, one-stop service package, you can't be angry, you have a good temper, you have to listen to your husband in everything, and your husband is okay lying at home and playing cards."
"It's that you have to go to work to earn money during the day, go home at night to do housework and take care of the children, and take care of your in-laws."
"I can't imagine what life this boy's mother used to have."
"While asking others, you have to look at yourself, accept that the woman has her own career, she can't teach her husband and children at home, and if she is a good wife and mother, she must accept that she has no career."
"In short, when you come back from work to do laundry and cook, and honor the elderly, it's best to raise her together."
"Economic value, fertility value, labor value, emotional value, all values are eaten and wiped clean."
"Just asking for others, this requires me to think that my grandson is the boss of the novel!"
Regarding the blogger's behavior of deleting the video, some people joked that the old lady was scolded to withdraw from the network.
Why does an old lady who teaches her grandson who is about to go to college what type of girlfriend to find cause so much public outrage?
All of this is actually due to the 7 words "career-oriented good wife and good mother".
Because it's like a sharp sword stuck in every woman's heart!
For a long time, a good wife and mother were the requirements of the whole society for girls.
From the moment a girl is born, she has been burdened with the mission of marrying into a man's family and raising her husband and children.
Therefore, parents will ask girls to learn how to serve people early, not only to serve their husbands and children, but also to serve their in-laws.
At that time, the fate of a girl's life was in the hands of others.
Before you get married, you have to listen to your parents.
After getting married, everything is up to my husband and parents-in-law.
A good wife and mother are the destination of almost all girls.
But with the development and progress of society, the fate of women has changed greatly.
In addition to serving the whole family at home, they can also work to earn money, and even many girls give up their families and marriages because of their careers and become career-oriented women.
The ancients said that you can't have both fish and bear's paws.
It's so difficult for a person to balance family and career!
If you want to fight for your career, you will inevitably be absent from your family;
can take care of the family, and the career development will inevitably be affected.
Originally, no matter which choice women make, they are essentially paying for the family and should be respected.
But the reality today is that once a woman gives up her job and returns to her family, she often faces a huge risk.
If the husband cheats, he can't even get custody of the children after the divorce, etc., and finally ends up with no personal wealth.
And if a woman chooses to continue working, she will be scolded for not caring for her family, and she is not a good wife and mother.
Therefore, many women who insist on working after marriage are often in this state:
I am physically and mentally exhausted when I go to work during the day, and I have to take the baby to do housework when I get home from work, and I am so tired that I don't have time to catch my breath.
And this is what the old lady called "career-oriented good wife and mother".
It actually refers to the fact that the woman alone bears everything.
Marriage is the union of two people, and the responsibilities of the family should also be shared by the husband and wife.
But the old lady said those demands, as if everything was a woman's business.
Which woman is not angry or sad when she hears it?
If she teaches her grandson first and gets married later, she not only has to work hard to make money, but also share the burden with her wife to do housework and take care of the baby, and then ask the woman under this premise, it is estimated that everyone will praise her for being transparent.
It's a pity that many people tend to want and want others, but they don't demand anything from themselves!