Two days ago, the "three children" policy was introduced.
Then stir up the problem of marriage and love.
Sir should say that before discussing the matter of the child, it is better to make the matter of two people and one person clear and clear.
A drama tells you that Zhen Guan has 3 children and still has 9 grandchildren.
Most importantly.
Before that, learn to "be alone" —
If it's a person
A recent inconspicuous Taiwanese drama.
No big coffee, no big hit.
But the story is delicate, the painting style is fresh, and the score of the dark horse posture is rushed to 8.4.
Reviews have said it is "bland and powerful".
Plain and easy to understand——
In the play, it is a delicate daily life between couples, and the water is long.
How can it be strongly understood?
In Sir's view, although it is bland, it does not dodge or beautify reality.
Regarding "loneliness", the episode asks three questions.
One more than the other.
01
Is it strange for a person to eat hot pot?
Fang Jiaying (Sun Kefang), 28 years old, works as a text editor in a company
A girl who is afraid of being lonely and needs someone to accompany her at any time.
Restaurant eating.
The boyfriend was half an hour late, and she insisted on waiting, just not moving the chopsticks.
angry?
No, be afraid.
The boyfriend asked her why she didn't eat first, and she replied—
I don't want people to feel it
I came alone to eat the spicy pot
Not only does she care about the eyes of others, she also worries about others.
Seeing that there was a girl at the next table (Lin Xinru cameo), eating alone, she sighed sympathetically:
So pathetic
A man who longs to hold a group.
It is often easy to attract another person who is equally afraid of loneliness.
This matter also starts from the first encounter between Jiaying and her boyfriend Yang Dahe (Lin Zihong) -
At a friend party, Jiaying arrived late, and after sitting down, the boy next to her politely said hi.
The two had a great conversation.
I exchanged contact details.
One wants to be in love, one will pick it up, and it will be a hit.
In this way, secret feelings, love, cohabitation.
The honeymoon period is like a conjoined baby, eager to be with the same hand and foot all day.
Eat breakfast together, do housework together, and even brush your teeth together.
But over time, a series of signs of burnout period also came.
A bed, each with its own quilt.
Eat breakfast and look at each phone.
It's always coming.
One day, through a quarrel, the boyfriend proposed to break up.
The reason is --
I want to live alone
It's not that I don't love anymore.
It is when love becomes a habit, and no one can fully adapt to the sharp cooling of feelings.
The beginning of a relationship often begins with one party being afraid of being lonely and wanting to find someone to accompany.
When people with the same idea appear, they think that they have met the true destiny, but perhaps, it is just the illusion that impulse brings affection.
A year after the breakup, Jiaying planned a magazine feature -
It's nice to be alone.
Is one person really good?
At least on Jiaying's body, there was no sign of enjoying celibacy.
Originally, she liked to cook, but after breaking up, she also lost the heart to cook.
The reason is that doing more waste, there are no people to eat together.
The female boss woke her up with a word:
I like to cook alone, and cook a lot
If cook a lot of times
I'll ask some of my friends to come and eat with me
But I would never ask my friend what they like to eat
I would ask myself what I wanted to eat
Doing one thing, Jiaying always habitually cares about others and ignores her own feelings.
For her.
The definition of a person's life: a person eats, a person watches a movie, a person who is drunk and does not worry, because no one is waiting for you to go home.
You let her enjoy a life alone.
How can it be?
People live to be connected with others, to be needed, and to be valuable.
In the year after the breakup.
Jiaying's life and "one person" are on the bar.
Don't you want to live alone?
Well, the old lady can also be alone, or she can live a wonderful life alone, and live better than you.
Unexpectedly, there are always accidents, which make people break the defense for a second.
02
Will you attend your ex's wedding alone?
When Jiaying went to eat the spicy pot alone, she bumped into her ex-boyfriend and found that the other party was more confident and promoted.
But I myself, my mouth said that one person was living well, but I still missed the days of two people.
The ex-boyfriend had a birthday party and she went.
Originally with the intention of compounding, the result -
This is my girlfriend
She was still immersed in the memories of the past, but received a wedding invitation from her ex.
Instantly turned into a Taiwanese version of "Your Wedding"?
Jiaying did not stage a self-touching drama.
She finally understood that her reluctance and waiting were just a one-sided waste of time.
After being matched by friends, Jiaying was pulled to go on a blind date.
The other party is called Ding Zhiming (Song Baiwei), who opens an organic farm of his own.
Zhiming has an easy-going personality and is very good at adjusting the atmosphere.
Everyone ridiculed Jiaying, and Zhiming brought a vegetable and fruit gift bag, urging her to take out the gift in return.
ZhiMing picked up a bottle of essential oil produced by Jiaying Company with a super exaggerated expression.
Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
He has an open-minded personality, but keeps a sense of distance from everyone.
It can be said that Zhiming and Jiaying are diametrically opposed people.
Compared to dealing with people, Zhiming is really enjoying a person's life.
Once, he did an experiment about a person.
Eat alone.
He himself is comfortable, but the person who can share the table is so embarrassed that his eyes do not know where to put it;
One person takes the bus.
Do not sit in an empty seat, sit next to a man, the other party has a confused face, and the embarrassment index escalates.
Inner OS: No, no, no
Zhiming finally concluded:
People don't like to be "alone".
Just prefer "yourself":
What two people are together
Live happily ever after
How can it be
Two people together is the beginning of a quarrel and a cooperation with each other
In the end tired gave up
Simply forget what happiness is
I forgot what I wanted
In fact, we are all one person
It's the same when you come and when you leave
People don't dare admit it
But the subconscious mind likes to be alone
Well, here comes the new question.
Is one's life really as he says, absolutely free?
Not necessarily.
Jiaying is reluctant to attend her ex's wedding alone, just as Zhiming is unwilling to face the past abandoned by her mother.
On a person's road, there are always obstacles that cannot be crossed.
There is no customs clearance secret language, and you can only honestly upgrade the level.
03
Do you enjoy being alone?
Most of the time, we are alone.
Even when two people are together.
For example, he sleeps and you are not sleepy; you work overtime, he waits at home; sits at the same dinner table and looks at their respective phones...
So since they are all one person, what is there to be depressed about?
Zhiming's feelings were too rational and too impersonal.
In fact, he seems to live through, but he is also a person with a story-
When he was a child, his father abandoned their mother and son, and his mother made a new boyfriend who planned to get married and threw him to his uncle to raise.
He deliberately chose a university far from home, and after graduation, he wandered around the world.
Independent, alienated personality.
It's actually an escape.
As long as you accept the reality of being alone and do not expect others, you will not be disappointed.
There is another hidden plot behind it.
Once, Jiaying fell ill and was hospitalized, and Zhiming accidentally saw his mother wearing a hospital gown in her selfie.
Her ovarian cancer reached stage THREE and her entire uterus was removed.
When Zhiming was sent to her uncle's house, it was also because she had severe depression and was afraid that her son would suffer with her.
Unable to raise children due to his own illness, he asked his brother to raise children.
Whether this is feasible is not what the play "If It Were a Person" is going to discuss.
It embraces different values, rather than overturning different views.
On her deathbed, her mother apologized to her son for not being brave enough.
I know now
What a blessing it is to be able to love someone
Because we are not alone
Abandonment of dependency or joint responsibility.
One person or two people.
Choose differently, regardless of right or wrong.
If, you want to watch a sweet love drama, this drama is obviously not suitable.
Sir felt that "If It Were a Man" was a salt life drama.
What is salt?
It has no suffering, no sourness that cannot be sought, and certainly no sweetness that is too good to be true.
In its place is a faint salty taste.
After careful chewing, it has been precipitated for a long time and becomes the most vivid taste memory.
Although Jiaying is alone, she cares about her girlfriends, her colleagues who weigh her, friends who can talk, and confidants who understand each other with one eye...
This drama uses light brushstrokes to let the audience follow the footsteps of Jiaying's growth, and inevitably think of a time alone.
One spends Christmas alone; one goes on a trip; one gets sick and hospitalized...
There must be sadness and frustration, and looking back now, it has become an experience.
A person.
It can be a noun or a verb.
It can be either a state or a capability.
Before meeting the right person.
Before thinking about the annoyance of "giving birth to a few".
Why not enrich yourself first.
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Editorial Assistant: Brad Tepi