The best way to live in life: don't look around in other people's worlds, focus on yourself, and find your own mirror of life.
Thoreau once said, "Each of us has the right to live as our unique selves." ”
The world is its own, not about others.
Everyone has their own favorite way of life, has their own rhythm of life, and has their own life track.
Wearing your own shoes, going your own way, and not lingering in front of other people's mirrors is the greatest sobriety of adults.
1Don't measure your life by someone else's mirror
A very reasonable sentence: "Only those who are really suitable for you are the best, and you can't blindly follow the steps of others." ”
In life, we always like to envy the infinite scenery of others. As everyone knows, the life you envy may not be the way back you want.
I've seen a fable.
A crow that meets a parrot in a cage.
The crow is very envious of the parrot and lives a comfortable life all day long. Someone to feed when you're hungry, someone to take care of when you're sick, and someone to accompany you when you're lonely. Unlike himself, he sleeps in the open air, and he has to defend against the invasion of enemies, so he has to live in fear.
And the parrot did not think so, he envied the crow's chic freedom and unrestrained.
They yearn for each other's lives, so they propose to exchange lives.
The crow gained comfort, but it could not please its master, and finally died of depression; The parrot was freed, but lost its ability to hunt due to long-term captivity, and finally died of starvation.
Everyone has their own destiny, and forcibly changing it will only make you confused and fall into the abyss.
Mo Yan once said: "One person, one way to live." ”
No matter how stunning other people's flowers are, they may not look good on your head; No matter how noisy and lively other people's lives are, once you experience them, you may not be able to control them.
During the Tang Dynasty, Li Bai and Du Fu were a well-known pair of friends.
Li Bai is talented, informal, often travels in the mountains and rivers, and makes friends.
Du Fu not only admired Li Bai's talent, but also envied his unrestrained and uninhibited life.
Once, Du Fu met Li Bai by chance in Luoyang, and asked to follow Li Bai to find immortals and travel all over the world, and Li Bai readily agreed.
At first, Du Fu was very fresh and attractive to this kind of carefree, drinking and writing poems, but after a long time, Du Fu was a little tired and tired, and people became restless.
Although he can drink and write poems every day, he is happy and happy, but he wastes his time, so that he can't find the meaning of life.
He realized that this kind of life was not suitable for him at all, so he resolutely said goodbye to Li Bai and entered Chang'an City.
Walking in someone else's shoes will inevitably put your feet on your feet; Copying someone else's life and ending up making yourself at a loss.
I agree with a sentence: "You can't use someone else's ruler to measure your own life." ”
In life, everyone has their own track. Measuring one's own life without using other people's mirrors is the greatest sobriety for adults.
If you are on the track of others and live in the mirror of others, you will not be able to get your wish in exchange for a piece of chicken feathers.
Only by finding a path that suits you and moving forward with determination can you live your own wonderful life in the complex world.
2 To look at yourself in someone else's mirror is to lose your way
I have heard a saying: "If you use other people's maps to find your own way, you will only lose your own life coordinates." ”
Indeed, if you measure your life by other people's standards, you will only exhaust yourself and eventually die.
Xu Yan of the TV series "I'm Good in Another Country" is a girl who loves to compare and is very vain.
After graduating, she worked in a big city with a low salary, but she always wanted to compare herself to others and not let herself lose face.
When others travel, she also wants to go; Others carry brand-name bags, and she also wants to get one.
Once, her mother called and told her that the bag she bought for herself was compared to the LV carried by her cousin.
After Xu Yan heard this, he was very unhappy, and the heart of comparison came spontaneously, and he was also absent-minded when he returned to work.
Especially when I thought of my mother being compared to my cousin, the imbalance in my heart finally reached the extreme.
In order to earn more money for consumption, she rashly joined the swiping group, and in the end, not only was the money cheated, but even her boyfriend abandoned her.
In life, everyone has their own bitterness and suffering, as well as their own happiness and beauty.
And we often see the scenery in front of people, but ignore the unknown hardships and helplessness behind it.
Therefore, do your best, don't be envious, don't compare, move steadily in your own time zone, and you will eventually usher in your own bloom.
After Mo Yan became famous, a professor asked Mo Yan: "How are your achievements compared to Lu Xun?" ”
After thinking for a while, Mo Yan said that he was not as good as Lu Xun.
He loved Lu Xun's works and marveled at Lu Xun's talent, but he did not lose his direction.
Later, in an interview with his new work "The Late Bloomer", he said: "The most sober consciousness of a person is to know his position. ”
He does not look up to others, nor does he look down on himself, and always walks in his own time zone unhurriedly, ushering in his own tomorrow.
Zhou Guoping said: "Happiness is not to live like others, but to be able to listen to one's own inner life." ”
Along the way of life, the most beautiful scenery is unique to yourself.
Your life is not to live in the shadow of others, but to live your life the way you like.
You don't have to be a rose, if you like, you can be a grass in the cracks of the stones, an orchid in the hollow valley, and thousands of people in the world.
Although no one cares, you can rest assured that everything is the best.
3. Focus on yourself and find the mirror of your life
Writer Oscar Wilde was asked, "What is the scariest thing in the world?" ”
Wilde replied, "Too many people don't live like themselves." ”
When we were young, we were stumped by too many things, the evaluation of others, the noise of the crowd, and the worldly fame and fortune...... These are all burdens on our hearts.
Later, I realized that the best way to live in life is not to look around in other people's worlds, focus on yourself, and find your own mirror of life.
1. Don't open your mouth to explain other people's judgments
Writer Milan Kundera said, "Giving oneself to others is a source of insecurity and doubt." ”
In this life, there will always be people who will make irresponsible remarks and point fingers at you.
If we take it to heart and try to explain and correct it, it will only be in vain and will only increase unnecessary troubles and suffering. Only by not being entangled, not caring, and letting them judge their heads and feet, can they live a relaxed and free life.
Choose your own path, ignore the gossip of others, and be your truest self.
2. Don't reach out to meet other people's emotions
In the book "Breaking Away", it is written: "If a person always arouses your anxiety and you can't change it, maybe leaving is the best choice." ”
The instinct of human nature will always inadvertently accept the emotions of others, and then assimilate them into oneself.
And everyone's energy is limited, if you don't know how to block negative emotions, you will only let your energy be infinitely swallowed, and eventually fall into the abyss.
Only by knowing how to withdraw in time and spend time and energy on more important people and things, will the road of life become broader and broader.
3. Don't tiptoe to look up at other people's scenery
Luo Zhenyu said: "When we envy what others have, we often don't realize the price behind it. ”
In fact, behind all the glamorous and glamorous, there are extraordinary efforts and efforts.
In the world, there is no casual success, let alone unearned returns, and all gifts are secretly marked with a price.
Comparisons can only be made with the past self, and others will always have their own mountains.
Don't tiptoe to look up at other people's scenery, those hardships you have endured, the sweat you have shed, and finally become the only way for you to achieve self-achievement.
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There is a lyric in "Ten Years": "When I no longer look in the mirror of others, I understand that happiness is my own perception." ”
The truth of others is not necessarily what you are pursuing, but the perception of the moment is the most genuine feeling of yourself.
If you always refer to the lives of others, then you are not only trapped in shackles, but also hiding in the obscure darkness and unable to look directly at yourself.