"Kid Brother" "Kid Sister" who was matured

New Weekly

2024-06-13 21:34Published on the official account of Guangdong New Weekly

The "child brother" and "child sister" who are matured, the childhood surrounded by the Internet, and the students who are troubled by bullying...... Today, the question of how we defend our children will not remain unanswered.

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We have to ask: how do we defend our future?

In a rapidly developing society, it seems that even children's growth has been accelerated.

It has been said that today's children are a precocious generation, both physically and psychologically. But here, precocious puberty is not a morbid or derogatory term, but a natural manifestation of the appearance of a group. They have a superior level of intelligence, a more mature mental state, have their own opinions on people, things, and things, and their logic is self-consistent.

They are a generation we have not seen before. They were born and grew up in the era of mobile Internet, as if the times are the hands that "help the seedlings". They show their edge and face reality earlier than the children of the past. But at the end of the day, they are still children, and they have not been able to have a sound mind. Behind the rapid growth, there are many predicaments that they have no time to break free, and they are urged to mature. Nowadays, the problem of children's "mobile phone addiction" is becoming more and more serious, and the news of school bullying is not uncommon...... All of this is a signal and a warning to society and the adult world, prompting us to think: how can we defend our future?

It's okay to be a "brother" or a "sister",

But don't "artificially ripen"

"Your childhood, my childhood/It seems to be the same/Small shoulders, big schoolbag/Go to school......" If the theme song of the sitcom "Family with Children", which became popular at the beginning of the 21st century, sings about the childhood of the post-90s, then the latter sentence "New Era, New Ideas/New New Look" is more like a prediction of the spiritual outlook of the post-00s who are "rectifying" the workplace and the post-10s who are "reforming" the world.

Perhaps, compared with the "predecessors", the children born in the new century have entered the next level, both physically and mentally, and their "new" is well deserved. Today's children have taller and more mature faces, and even the school uniforms on their bodies can accurately identify middle school students. Their spiritual world is also often amazed by onlookers as "30 years ahead", so they have gained the prestige of "child brother" and "child sister".

It seems paradoxical to reorganize the child with the "brother" and "sister", but the reality hidden behind it has to convince you. When adults in the workplace are still thinking about 800 hearts and minds, these children have long learned to "defeat magic with magic" and begin to "straighten out" society. You say you don't like the color of my card, I really say "color", "Why do you want to like it?" ”； If you say my clothes are ugly, I will wear the same style every day until you get used to it; If you have to grab the sports venue with me, then I will "go crazy" first and occupy the upper hand in public opinion......

(Photo/"Pyramid Game")

The generation that was born and grew up with the rapid development of the Internet has expanded and spread their "sense of transparency" beyond their age through the Internet. At a time when the Internet has a strong ability to create memes, "Brother Kid" and "Sister Kid" have become hot words on the Internet, and they have also delineated the behavior of a group. As a result, we continue to see that children with full skill points are either full of golden sentences, or "stunts", or they are well-versed in the world and act as "spiritual mentors" for adults on the other side of the screen like little adults.

In fact, we have no intention of criticizing the maturity of "Brother Kid" and "Sister Kid". They are the "natives" of the Internet age, and they are born with social media, which is an inseparable part of their childhood life. It is in this way that we get a glimpse of a new generation created by a new era, and their social media accounts are the "passport" of the times.

However, behind the huge syndrome of the times, mud and sand are also the norm. Addicted to the Internet, signing companies, and live streaming...... There are always some "child brothers" and "child sisters" who have changed their taste under the coercion of traffic, their golden sentences are no longer childish words, their human feelings are sophisticated and greasy, and their "unique skills" seem blunt and deliberate. These children do not understand the complex interests of the adult world, but they become the product of "artificial ripening" by adults.

Is this still a child's world? Apparently not. Adults, with their selfish intentions, invade their childhood. This kind of invasion is sudden, and although the children are the protagonists, the final understanding of being indoctrinated and trained, with the child's mental level, can only be plausible. This is not because of the "open-mindedness" and "transparency" obtained by understanding life, but it will make children confused in the process of imitating adult thinking patterns.

Every generation has its own "plastic children"

The post-80s and post-90s generations have been labeled with various labels in their childhood, in addition to the "Beat Generation", "Little Emperor" and "Little Princess", there are also "plastic children" shaped by the communication environment.

The term "plastic children" comes from the writer Sanmao's article "Plastic Children". This is Sanmao's observation of urban children who grew up with the popularization of television at that time. These children live in cities for a long time, surrounded by TV, animation, etc., lack communication and interaction with nature, and are vulnerable inside.

As a writer, Sanmao is sensitive and meticulous in his insight into life. This phenomenon appeared earlier in the more technologically developed United States, which is not difficult to understand - the development of electronic information technology in different regions is not synchronized, with the continuous development of new technologies, some regions will even achieve corner overtaking, and its impact will appear one after another.

(Photo/"Pyramid Game")

Communication scientist Harold Adams Innis has said that changes in communication technologies have invariably produced three outcomes: they have changed the structure of people's interests (what people think), the types of symbols (the tools people use to express their thoughts), and the nature of community (where ideas originate). Put simply, each machine represents an idea, or a mix of ideas.

According to the article "Family Education in the Digital Age: The Impact of Parents' Media Intervention Methods on Children's Exposure to Electronic Products", the "2020 National Research Report on Internet Use by Minors" shows that the scale of underage Internet users continues to grow, and the trend of young age of Internet access is more obvious. In 2020, there were 183 million underage Internet users in mainland China, with an internet penetration rate of 94.9%. More than one-third of primary school students start using the Internet before school age, and this proportion is increasing year by year, with children first accessing the Internet at an increasingly young age. In addition, in 2023, Guangming Daily, together with relevant experts, will conduct a sample survey of preschool children's families in 31 provinces, autonomous regions and municipalities across the country, and the results show that 70.4% of preschool children have begun to contact and actively use mobile phones and other mobile terminals.

The problem of Internet addiction among teenagers is not a new problem for a long time, but has become a chronic social disease. Over the past ten years, all kinds of bizarre radical methods to quit Internet addiction have emerged one after another, and even caused deaths; Games account for an increasing proportion of children's world, and interpersonal communication in reality is translated to the virtual game world, where the space for eating and going to the toilet is also online; Many children switch between various social media more freely, brushing short videos until they can't stop, watching all kinds of anchors "squabble flowers and gradually charming eyes", and have a natural worship for traffic, so that since childhood, their dream is to be an Internet celebrity and bring goods live broadcast......

"Five Elements Academy" is based on the Internet addicted teenager who was sent to the "Yuzhang Academy". (Photo/"Director, Please Advise")

We acknowledge that electronic devices have become children's external "eyes" and "ears", expanding their access to information and interpersonal communication. This is due to the trend of the times and technological developments, and we cannot refuse, but the problems caused by overuse should not be underestimated.

A study was published in The Lancet Child and Adolescent Health. Studies have shown that electronic devices have advantages in helping children absorb knowledge, but they may interfere with the process of integrating and internalizing information. One of the main reasons for this is that electronic devices can cause distraction and playfulness, which in turn reduces the effectiveness of learning.

Nowadays, we stand at the forefront of the Internet and look back on the past, and it is not difficult to find that when communication technology has advanced to the stage of television popularization, the process of children's "plasticization" has been accelerated. After entering the Internet era, under the bombardment of information, fragmented communication means make the attention span of children addicted to it shorter, and the thinking mode shows a more entertaining tendency, and even hinders their deep thinking.

How do you behave on campus?

At present, in addition to the obvious "disease of the times" brought to children by the Internet, bullying may be another more glaring existence.

Even if you've never experienced school bullying, you'll always know a thing or two from movies and TV dramas. The American film "Wallflower Boy", the Korean film "Earthworm" and the Japanese film "All About Lily Chow" all reveal the hidden and cruel side of teenagers. Of course, the later domestic film "Young You" once again tore this scar in front of the Chinese people.

(Photo/"Juvenile Court")

In this movie, Chen Nian, played by Zhou Dongyu, said something like this: "All of you are murderers." "Although this is just a line in the film, which makes people sound creepy, art comes from life, and it gives us an opportunity to reflect. Perhaps real-life school bullying may be blatant, or undercurrent, but it cannot be denied that it may be more difficult and "bloody" than in film and television dramas, and the parties involved, such as schools, teachers, parents, students, relevant departments, etc., are also facing more complex and difficult to solve the real problems.

A father in Tianjin, in a fit of rage, took 10 parents to court because his child was bullied by classmates at the school gate; In Shaanxi, because his son was repeatedly extorted from his classmates for cigarettes and money, his father drove more than 1,000 kilometers to ask the school for an explanation.

Fortunately, the two fathers mentioned above were brave. But we often see such parents who do not respond appropriately to their children's distress signals, or even ignore or run away from them. Their responses to their children are either blaming them for being cowardly; Either uphold the "victim guilt theory" and say to the child, "If you don't provoke others, how can you be bullied?" cross-examination; Either cowardly and evade, tell the child to endure it if he can, and not to cause trouble; Or treat bullying as a joke between children and skip it lightly.

(Photo/Huang Dong)

The ivory tower of the campus can in a sense block all kinds of distractions in reality, but it is also a system of its own. Children have not yet formed mature thoughts and three views, and when a certain atmosphere ferments in this relatively closed environment, it often forms an "underground war", and the wind of bullying prevails. In the age of the Internet, in addition to verbal and physical bullying, perpetrators of school bullying often use social media to commit online violence against victims.

After the release of "Young You", the "People's Daily" once published such an article, which wrote: "The phenomenon of school bullying is just a shell after all. Beneath this shell are the loopholes in the operation of the campus and social systems, the convergence of different encounters of social students, the different inner worlds and cries of the people involved, the darkness of human nature, and the common pain of the campus and society. ”

"Young You" cannot give the final solution to end school bullying, such film and television works can only keep throwing out problems and let the society face them; Those brave parents only give their best solutions within their ability. Recently, the General Office of the Ministry of Education issued the "Notice on Carrying out the Action of the "Standardized Management Year" of Basic Education", which clarified the "12 negative lists", including "it is strictly forbidden to bully more and few, bully the weak, and bully the small with the big on campus, or teachers ignore and condone student bullying". We will eventually see that the question of how to defend and save children will not remain unsolved.

(Photo/"Young You")

Operations: Lu Zirui; Typography: Sweet

This article was first published in the 660th issue of "New Weekly" "Defending Children"

Original title: "Defending Children"

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