I saw such a thing on the Internet before, and I had mixed feelings after reading it.
A mother who has just given birth to a child, when feeding, because the baby bites her too hard, she loses control of her emotions for a while, and even picks up scissors and scratches the baby's face.
Hearing this, you may think, "Why is this mother so ruthless?" ”
In fact, when I heard this, I didn't understand, no matter what, they were all their own children, how could they do such an irrational thing?
But seeing her experience, I felt that she was a poor person.
Her mother-in-law is patriarchal and wants a grandchild. So, her mother-in-law coaxed her son to give birth to a second child.
But after the child was born, the mother-in-law found an excuse to go back to her hometown and threw the responsibility of taking care of the two children to the mother.
Women who have just given birth are already weak and emotionally sensitive. And she has to take care of two children by herself, and she doesn't even have a helper.
There is no helper, no one to share, no one to understand, and the chicken feathers of life make her emotions nowhere to release. So when the baby feeds too hard, all her anger explodes.
As if she had lost her mind, she picked up the scissors and scratched the baby's face. But when she came to her senses, she immediately regretted it and was so distressed that she burst into tears.
It's been 4 years, what is the current situation of this boy who breastfeeds too hard and was scratched by his mother with scissors?
Maybe this incident taught her mother a big lesson, and she has been guilty since then, so she is extra careful with the baby.
The wound on the baby's face was treated in a timely manner, and although there was a slight scar, it was not noticeable. Four years have passed, and the scratched baby is growing up healthy and happy, and the scars on his face are almost invisible.
One: Understand Mom
Every time I see my mother do something irrational because of her emotions out of control, I feel very heartbroken. I feel sorry for both my mother and my child.
Many people will scold their mothers on the one hand, thinking that there is something wrong with them, they can hurt themselves, but don't hurt their children.
But in fact, many times, my mother can't help herself.
One of my cousins is also a chicken feather in the family after giving birth, her husband is not sympathetic to her, and her mother-in-law is also abandoned. During the whole confinement period, no one took care of her, and she cooked by herself while taking care of the baby.
The baby is reversed day and night, she can't sleep well all night, and often breaks down and cries. She often told me that many times she was lying in bed, she felt that life was meaningless. As soon as the baby cries, she thinks she's going crazy and just wants to keep the baby's cry away from her.
Many times she almost lost control of herself, but reason stopped her.
Some netizens also said that they used to think that postpartum depression was hypocritical, but after becoming a mother, when they were cranky in confinement, crying and aggrieved at a little thing, they realized that many things and emotions were not under their control.
At this time, what mothers need most is the understanding and tolerance of their families.
In fact, to protect the mother is to protect the child, that is, to protect our family.
When a mother gives birth, what should we do if we want our mother to be in a good mood?
Two: Protect your mother
If you want your mother to be in a good mood, what can we do as a family member?
(1) Be patient and caring
Bao's mother has just given birth, and she is in a very sensitive stage, both physically and emotionally. At this time, the care of family members, especially husbands, is very important.
With the support of her husband, her mother will feel very down-to-earth, no matter how tired and annoying she is, she will feel that she has something to rely on.
On the other hand, if the husband is always busy with socializing, or feels that taking care of children is a woman's business, then the loss and grievances in the mother's heart will be doubled.
(2) Do housework together
With the arrival of new members in the family, the housework will definitely increase.
Feeding bottles should be sterilized, diapers should be washed, and children should be put to sleep...... If these things are all on Bao Ma alone, it is really unbearable.
The housework is shared by everyone, and the mother is in a much better mood and recovers faster after childbirth.
(3) Express emotions in a timely manner
Mothers sometimes feel that they are very lonely, especially when they are breastfeeding in the middle of the night, and there is only themselves and their children around. At this time, it would be much better if you could find someone to talk to and talk to you.
My sister-in-law often complained to me: "I'm really tired and doubt life!" "Every time we finished talking, she was a lot more relaxed.
She also participated in a mother group, where everyone supported each other and shared their experience of raising a baby, and she suddenly felt less lonely.
When the mother gives birth to a child, her temper suddenly becomes particularly "bad", we should not feel that she is unreasonable, but more tolerant, more understanding, and more caring.
When a family is happy, the mother is happy, the child is happy, and the family can be harmonious and happy.
What do you think?
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