The parents' meeting attached to the National People's Congress is out of the circle, and the famous school in the universe has not disappointed......

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2024-05-31 09:00Posted in Beijing, creators in the field of parenting

Text | Mi Li's mother

A few days ago, a picture at the parent-teacher meeting attached to the National People's Congress was spread crazy in various parent groups.

The famous school in the universe has never disappointed, this one by one, one by one, is heart-wrenching and true.

Maybe the baby at home is still young and doesn't have such a deep feeling, and when the child reaches the fifth or sixth grade, he will find that whether it is learning or living, what parents can help and do, is becoming more and more limited.

Isn't there a chain of contempt circulating in parental circles all the time? (Nothing to do with education and wealth~)

At the top of the chain of contempt are parents whose children have been admitted to college, who have nothing to do, who have money and leisure;

The second top is the parents whose children have not yet gone to school, who have no pressure to go on to higher education and choose a school, and take their children to various interest classes, looking forward to going to Tsinghua University or Peking University in the future, and mixing the art circle or going to competition;

"Third-class citizens" are naturally the parents of elementary and junior high schools hahaha, each with their own humility.

Primary school can also guide children's learning, occasionally Hedong lion roars, and when it comes to junior high school, parents have only one: make the meal well!

After reading the PPT picture at the parent-teacher meeting attached to the National People's Congress, I have to say that a famous school is a famous school, and the requirements for parents are different.

The saying "students are drivers, parents are co-pilots" is too vivid, and you can get the essence in one second.

Let's take a look at them one by one-

Remember not to grab the steering wheel, don't keep talking about the bad driving next to you, otherwise you will go;

When we lament that our children can't get into a prestigious school and miss 985, we also have to think about whether we were admitted to Qingbei that year.

Okay, maybe you are a parent in Qingbei, maybe it is still "Sanqing", such parents grab a lot in Haidian, a combination of various famous schools, what Tsinghua master's father + Renmin University doctor mother, Chinese Academy of Sciences doctor father + Ivy League school mother......

We often say that it is difficult for their children to be admitted to their alma mater, which is the knot of the vast majority of the imperial capital's "second generation", not that one generation is not as good as the next, but precisely because one generation is better than the next, the cow babies are inflationary, 100 points of cattle have become ordinary, and there are more 200 points and 300 points of cattle around.

Then we have to talk about -

Don't repeat the experience of driving a tractor back then, now it's a tram;

One thing to say, back then, as long as the family paid attention to education, it would not be too bad to go to school and work. Where did we have any "big language" at that time? I started learning English in the fourth grade of primary school, and I have already won at the starting line. In junior high school and high school, the school is justifiable, sets up an experimental class, uses the best teachers, eats the most luxurious small stove, and recommends you to take the prestigious school.

I think mothers are still relatively restrained, but they silently doubt in their hearts who their children's IQ is with. But many fathers really like to tell their children the stories of their "effortless" admission to Qingbei Resumption of Diplomatic Relations, winning awards in competitions, and protecting research institutes.

Times are different, and the requirements for children are different. In the past, "a noble son from a poor family", how can it be so easy now?

I shared with you before in "I read my father's college entrance examination papers, and then look at my son's homework, I was messy", Mi Li's grandfather was the first college student after the resumption of the college entrance examination that year, and he was also admitted to one of the top universities in Hubei that year, but I once secretly looked at Mi Li's grandfather's college entrance examination papers, and I was really stunned!

For a while, Grandpa Mi Li's file was in my hand, and when I rummaged through the drawer, I found that the side of the kraft paper file bag had worn out, so I quietly took out the file inside and saw what was there.

It doesn't matter if you don't look at it, there is actually a college entrance examination paper for Grandpa Mi Li. I remember the math paper very clearly, there is a question that is sin30°+cos60°...... At that time, I thought to myself: It's also the college entrance examination, right?

Grandpa Mi Li later found out, and began to recall to me: their rural high school teachers themselves had never gone to college, so he and three other rural boys who wanted to go to university skipped class, went to the back mountain to review, explained to each other, and discussed with each other

Therefore, Grandpa Mi Li often sighs that it is too difficult and tiring for children now.

That's right, now children, every family has a booster, all kinds of famous teacher classes, all kinds of original books, and some parents can also go to the field to tutor, but why not say, now the requirements for children are also high.

My colleague said that one day her 5-year-old son asked her: Mom, do you know the "Anshi Rebellion"?

My colleague said, of course I know, An Lushan...... Before he could go on, his son asked again, do you know who "Shi" is? The colleague was stunned. She studied science and engineering all the way, and when she studied history in middle school, she was the focus of the teacher's paintings, and she was completely impressed.

Her baby blurted out: "Shi Siming", and then talked about the Anshi Rebellion before and after.

In fact, there are a lot of such moments, I often read the questions made by Mi Li, the books I read, and I silently benchmark what I was doing when I was so old.

Today's children, in the first and second grades, hold the original English version of "Harry Potter" to gnaw, know astronomy and geography, 9 out of 10 can play musical instruments, and the small ancient texts memorized are what we have not learned, let alone heard......

So, don't show superiority in front of your children, and don't give blind guidance. Times have changed, and tractors are now not on high speeds.

Silently look at the navigation, pay attention to the surrounding road conditions, and remind you when you go on a wrong step

When the child is a small baby, we parents are the feeders and nurturers, paying attention to eating, drinking, taking medicine when sick, and sleeping with them at night.

The children are going to school, we give them a good driving school, a suitable instructor, a teacher to teach driving, we do sparring, usually when practicing the car, give some experience guidance, traffic laws to help more familiar. When you reach senior school and middle school, parents should learn to let go and keep their mouths shut at the right time.

But not outright exit.

Before we reach adulthood, we still have to watch the navigation and pay attention to the road conditions, so that they don't go the wrong way, or go in a ditch.

That's all.

I have already made a mistake, so I quickly said: "It's okay, why don't you go around a few more kilometers!" ”

The child is pro, even if he goes the wrong way, it is useless to complain.

Do a good job in psychological construction and give enough emotional value. Middle-aged people know best what "emotional stability" is.

Adjust navigation in a timely manner.

Recently, among young people, isn't there a particularly popular saying - life is a wilderness.

When can we middle-aged people have this "sense of relaxation".

But sincerely, I hope that the children should work hard and relax, which is what I often say "chicken process, Buddha fruit". After working hard, the result may not be satisfactory to you for the time being, but if it doesn't come to the end, who can easily draw conclusions, this is not the best arrangement.

Today's children are under great pressure to study and have greater psychological pressure, and often some children are sensitive and careful, and finally close their doors to the world

So, if your child is driving the wrong way, tell them quickly: it's okay, what does it matter if you go around a few more kilometers, and there are wonderful scenery that should not be let down.

I especially hate that the co-pilot doesn't do anything, and sleeps a lot and brushes Tik Tok

This is actually the most basic requirement for parents.

When I was a child, Grandma Mi Li accompanied me to write my homework until high school, but she didn't care what I wrote, just held a book, sat quietly next to me, and read by herself by the light of my desk lamp.

I remember that many of my classmates would complain that their parents let them brush up on questions and do homework in the room, but they watched TV in the living room, and "Dang" in "Huanzhu Gege" remembered over and over again, who can write into the homework......

Parents are not required to sit next to them to work or study, but at least they are not disturbed. A friend of mine often complains to me, she accompanies the child to do homework every night, her husband brushes Tik Tok in the living room, laughing hahaha, and finally my friend can't bear it anymore and agrees with her husband: If you can't keep quiet at home, stay in the garage, and come back when Tik Tok is enough.

When opening a snack or peeling fruit, hand some food to your mouth

In fact, after the child goes to middle school, there is really not much that parents can do.

If the child needs to make up the lesson, he will find a teacher; The child shouted that he was hungry and hurried to cook; The child asks his classmates out and gives more money; The child has something on his mind and listens silently (if someone is willing to tell you).

If the logistics are done well, it is enough.

See? When your children are older, you can't help but quit, so while they are still old, lay a good foundation, develop good habits, and most importantly, maintain a good parent-child relationship.

Mi Li's mother has seen such a paragraph before: raising a child is like launching a satellite, and it takes more than ten or twenty years of hard work to ensure the accuracy of every link and data.

If you are admitted to university, even if the satellite is successfully launched, it will slowly disappear into the vast outer space, leaving only some faint signals sent back from time to time...... Tick the money...... Tick the money......

You sent the money over, all kinds of advice, the satellite disappeared again, and after a long time, some faint signals were sent back...... Don't babble...... Don't babble......

Think you're funny and sad, don't you?

What's even more tragic is that when the signal is stable, you have to take out most of your family funds and happily build a space station for others

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