Sweet love depends on hormones, and a happy marriage depends on management.
In the besieged city of marriage, every woman hopes to be favored by her husband and enjoy sweet love, but everything in heaven is secretly marked with a price, and when you are favored, you have to pay the corresponding price.
In life, we must know how to manage marriage, know how to use "careful opportunities", let these little interests add vitality to our lives, and use these "small actions" to increase our marriage.
1. Know how to be coquettish at the right time and give life a different experience.
As the saying goes, "A coquettish woman is the best." ”
As a woman, coquettishness is your killer weapon and a sharp weapon for you to manage happiness. In life, we must use this weapon well in order to achieve the greatest victory in marriage.
Some time ago, an elderly couple quickly became popular on the Internet.
In the video, it is obvious that grandpa has endured a lot of hardships and done a lot of work, but grandpa is happy every day, and some netizens shouted, "After watching grandma's operation, who is not confused." ”
This grandmother can be said to have used "coquettishness" to the extreme, and no matter what grandpa does, she can do fancy compliments - making people sound comfortable and real.
If grandma wants something, she will turn on the coquettish mode, and the most important thing is that there is no "clip sound" artificiality, no pretentiousness, and some are just "serious" reasoning, and "seeking truth from facts" is demanding.
Finally, I sprinkled the ancestral "dipping sauce" - this thing is related to you, and then Grandpa happily went about doing things.
Experiments have shown that men need more attention than women in life.
A woman who knows a little "careful" is often better at grasping her husband's "weakness" and satisfying the other party's vanity while satisfying her own "selfish desires".
As the ancients said, "Tenderness is like water, and the best time is like a dream." ”
A woman who knows how to be coquettish and knows how to show weakness, what man doesn't want? Therefore, every woman will have some "coquettish" skills and know some weak skills, so as to make her marriage happier and her life more harmonious.
2. Keep the mystery and surprise your husband more.
There is a saying: "A good woman is like a good book, each page has its own scenery, and each chapter has its own charm." ”
This is the curiosity that the unknown causes, and this is the benefit of mystery.
It has been many years since I finished watching "The Legend of Zhen Huan", and there is a sentence in it that I still remember vividly.
At Princess Wenyi's birthday banquet, Cao Qinmo and Concubine Hua laid out and set a "trap" for Zhen Huan to fall down, just as Zhen Huan said, "Where do they want to see the 'Amazing Dance', they obviously want to see the 'Frightened Bird'." ”
Because this so-called "Thrilling Dance" is the patent of the emperor's "White Moonlight" Empress Chunyuan.
Back then, Queen Chunyuan took great pains, modified it several times, and practiced for a long time before it had the effect of dancing the world later. If Zhen Huan wants to dance well, it is estimated that she will have to practice for a few years, and Zhen Huan has always regarded people with poetry and books, and has never shown her talent for dancing.
Cao Qinmo saw this point, so he put the note in his hand for a long time, putting Zhen Huan in a dilemma.
If you don't dance, you don't care about Princess Wenyi's birthday banquet, which will be true. danced, that's even more of a big article. If you don't dance well and fall into laughter, you are in danger of falling out of favor. Dancing well and being suspected of plagiarizing the original work is a great disrespect to the former empress, and there is also a risk of violating the emperor's taboo.
However, Zhen Huan stepped on this opportunity and successfully turned the tables around, adding chips to herself with a stunning "Amazing Dance".
Even the emperor watched Zhen Huan's amazing dance, and said to her emotionally: "Huan Huan, how many surprises are there that I don't know?" ”
It can be seen that such a small "accident" will make the relationship between husband and wife more harmonious and make married life more interesting.
If marriage wants to be fresh, and love wants to be sweet, then you need to maintain a certain sense of mystery.
3. Pay attention to your own growth and make marriage the icing on the cake.
There is such a saying: "No matter who you marry, you are actually living with yourself." ”
A person who is happy in his heart will be happy no matter where he goes; An independent person can live a good life no matter who he marries.
Whether a marriage is happy or not, to a large extent, depends on oneself. Only if you don't give up on your own growth and continue to extend your tentacles of perceiving happiness, can you be happier.
After the "diving queen" Guo Jingjing and Huo Qigang got married, they did not give up their self-growth and did not stop moving forward.
After Guo Jingjing retired, she went to the UK to further her studies and broaden her horizons; Through hard work, he was admitted to the FINA Diving Technical Committee and held this position.
In addition, Guo Jingjing actively participates in public welfare activities, warms the society with her influence, and contributes to the development of diving. It has achieved a magnificent transformation from an athlete to a public welfare ambassador and an FINA official.
Guo Jingjing's series of arrangements did not affect the relationship between husband and wife at all, but made their relationship between husband and wife better; did not affect Guo Jingjing's status in the Huo family, but as her influence in society increased, the more respected she became in the Huo family.
In the final analysis, no matter who you marry, you are actually living with yourself.
At all times, we must understand that marriage is not the end of life, but a new beginning.
Therefore, a girl with "scheming" will always pay attention to her own growth and constantly improve her ability and charm.
In marriage, the first thing to consider is to take care of yourself, and the second is to manage the marriage well. Only when we keep working hard and constantly improving, can we find the person who is in tune with our soul and with our lips and teeth.
Write at the end.
Nobel laureate economist Becker wrote in "On the Family" that marriage is a cooperative alliance, and both husband and wife maximize the interests of the family by taking what they need and giving together.
Marriage is a cooperation, and only by helping each other can we achieve a win-win situation.
You have to know how to be coquettish at the right time, surprise your partner, and give life a different experience; Maintain a sense of mystery, leave yourself a killer feature, and give the other party a "surprise"; Pay attention to your own growth, give yourself the confidence to live, and make marriage the icing on the cake.
As a woman, you might as well have a little more "scheming" in your marriage and manage your marriage with your heart.
When you use wisdom and strategy to get along with your husband, you will find that your marriage has changed in a different way. And your husband will be cute because of it.
For the rest of your life, may you find that person who is worth your trouble, and then join hands for a lifetime and be happy for a long time.