Liang Shiqiu said: "The fun of middle age lies in knowing life, knowing yourself, and enjoying the life you can enjoy." ”
When people reach middle age, they will go through many changes as they get older. I have been disappointed, I have been happy and painful. There are gains and losses, joys and sorrows along the way.
Especially when we enter the stage of 60 years old, we will gradually look down on many things and think about many things clearly.
At this stage, we should pay more attention to our lifestyle and quality of life, so some common habits also need to be adjusted.
When people are over 60, try to visit their siblings as little as possible. It's not that the relationship between siblings has faded, but that each has its own family and a different life.
Maintaining a certain sense of proportion and boundaries helps to maintain a harmonious relationship.
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After the age of 60, we will meet again and part
As the old saying goes: life and death are fate, and wealth is in the sky.
Life is in a blink of an eye, coming and going in a hurry, and no one knows when their life will end. At the age of 60, it is like entering the second half of life, and it is inevitable that you will face the death of your loved ones.
And the older a person gets, the sadder he becomes. Watching the relatives and friends around me pass away one by one, I will feel lonely and sad in my heart.
Brothers and sisters are the closest people in the world, destined to be inseparable, and they are connected by flesh and blood.
When I was a child, my family was poor, and my older brothers and sisters let my younger brothers and sisters always leave the best food for them. When they grew up, they started their own families, went their separate ways, and began to shoulder the burden of the family.
Gradually, the number of meetings is also decreasing, the contact is not close, and the relationship seems to be slowly fading. But when we meet again, we are still cordial, because there is the same blood flowing in our bones, and our hearts are connected to our hearts.
As the saying goes: the most memorable thing for people is childhood, and the saddest thing for people is old age.
When I was 60 years old, I saw my brothers and sisters one day less. When they are still alive, you will feel very normal, you can make phone calls when you are free, and you can discuss things when you have something.
When they leave the world one after another, the world is full of loneliness, some hearts are no longer told, and some feelings can no longer be released.
Only when people are in a desperate situation will they understand the value of family affection.
In the last years of the wind and candles, it is a luxury to see each other. If we visit our siblings frequently, we may gradually become dependent and be overly sad when we part, which will put a lot of stress on our hearts.
You have to understand that loneliness is the norm in life, and everyone has to go through life on their own.
We should spend more time with ourselves, understand ourselves, and adapt to loneliness, which is also to better enjoy the rest of life.
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After the age of 60, the body can be clean
Mr. Yang Jiang once said: There are two strokes of human characters, one to write the first half of life, one to write the second half of life, the first half of life to write perseverance, and the second half of life to write relief.
In the second half of life, we should learn to focus on ourselves. Don't visit your siblings too often, as it may disturb our rhythm of life and affect our physical and mental health.
Especially if there is some discord or conflict between siblings, this frequent interaction will only add to your troubles. If you are doing well, you may be jealous; If you don't have a good time, you may be looked down upon by others.
After the age of 60, we should pay more attention to our physical health and personal life. After a lifetime of struggle and hard work, it's time to put down your busy work and enjoy your own life.
Wu Yanshu, an 86-year-old "fashionable" grandmother, has turned her solitary life into a poem.
She doesn't like to trouble her siblings, and she doesn't want to drag her children down.
She enjoys alone time, never limited by age, and pursues more possibilities in life.
She loved her acting career and won Best Actress at the age of 84. In life, she loves sports, likes flower arrangement, and lives a good life alone.
As the saying goes, time never defeats beauty, even if wrinkles crawl all over her cheeks, we can still see her beauty through the years.
Ji Xianlin, a master of Chinese studies, once said: In old age, no matter whether you have money or not, you should not get too close to your brothers and sisters, this is not a cautious eye, but a vision.
After the age of 60, appropriately reducing the number of times we see our siblings and focusing on our time and experiences will help us maintain our physical and mental health and lead a more stable and comfortable life.
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After the age of 60, the most important thing is to keep a small family
There is a saying: "Everyone sweeps the snow in front of the door, and does not care about the frost on the tiles of others." ”
After the age of 60, people should no longer get involved in the family affairs of their siblings. Every family has a scripture that is difficult to read, and the more you meddle in other people's affairs, the more you make mistakes.
Your honey, his arsenic.
No matter how close brothers and sisters are, they also have their own families and lives, and if you take it upon yourself to get involved in other people's family affairs, you think you are helping, but in fact it will bring trouble to others.
People over 60 years old, each for their own family, less mixed in trouble, is the best respect for others and for themselves.
Whether it is the family affairs of siblings, or the affairs of children, as well as the affairs of neighbors and villagers, try not to disturb them.
If you interfere in other people's family affairs, once things are messed up, then others are likely to blame you for all the faults, so that you are not human inside and out.
The so-called everything has a degree, and distance produces beauty. Sometimes ignoring it is the real care.
Life is short, we should put our energy and time into our own small home, and enjoy the good time of our children and laughter.
Mr. Yang Jiang said: The world is one's own and has nothing to do with others.
If you have time to take care of the affairs of your brothers and sisters, it is better to love your family, cultivate some hobbies, sing songs, drink tea, and listen to music.
When people are old, they should take care of their mouths, guard their hearts, and don't worry about it and mix it indiscriminately.
Being an old man with a sense of proportion is the treasure of the family.
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Some people say: a distance that is too close is not a distance, it is interference, an invasion; Too far is not a distance, it is indifference, estrangement.
The relationship between people can only last if you keep an appropriate distance. Otherwise, even if the blood is thicker than water, the family affection will be consumed.
When you really see through the world, you will understand that it is not a good thing for siblings to get too close.
When people are over 60, the best relationship between brothers and sisters is to go with the flow. Show up when you need it, and worry about each other when you don't.
The fate of brothers and sisters is really rare in the world. We must cherish it and keep an appropriate distance, so that this fate will become deeper and deeper!