For children, family is the best harbor, and parents are the best guides.
Whether a child can win at the starting line, whether he can fully develop his or her talents, and become productive in the future, the family environment plays a key role.
As a parent, my greatest expectation is to raise excellent children.
So, how to cultivate excellent and promising dragons and phoenixes? Many parents may say:
"Of course, it is to let the children study hard, be admitted to key middle schools, enter experimental classes, and receive the best quality education!"
However, have you ever thought that the best education is actually home education from parents.
Children can study hard and excel in their grades, and the most fundamental reason lies in the teaching and subtle influence of parents on their children's words and deeds.
Parents' lifestyle, way of thinking, way of education and way of dealing with the world will play a decisive role in the character, psychology and behavior of children, and will have a long-term and far-reaching impact.
So, what kind of family can raise excellent children?
The following families have already booked a place for a successful child in the future, regardless of whether they have money or not!
Let's take a look:
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A family with quality parents
The famous writer and educator Spencer said:
"We may not accumulate much wealth or prestige in our lifetime. But every parent has accumulated some good experience and conduct through life, give these to their children, and they will use new life to amplify and shine. ”
Yes, the world is not fair, and the conditions given to children will be different.
But there is one thing that every parent can give, and that is character.
And all relationships in this world, no matter what they start with, will eventually fall on character.
Parents have different personalities, and what they bring to their children may be very different lives.
A netizen shared a story about his parents:
My parents weren't big people, they were just beef vendors, but my beef was always more expensive than other people's.
When I was a child, I couldn't figure it out, but later, I finally found the answer.
It turned out that several other vendors in the vegetable market were pouring water into the beef, and two taels of water per pound of meat were cheaper, but they could earn a lot more.
I was puzzled and asked my father why we didn't fill it with water.
My father touched my head and said, "Be kind, not conscience."
Besides, no one is stupid, you have lost your conscience and your character, who will dare to look for you in the future.
Later, I found that the vendors in the market came and went several times, but my business was always the best.
Although my parents are ordinary people and cannot give me superior conditions, their personality and conduct will always be engraved in my heart.
Leo Tolstoy once said:
"All education, or 999 out of 1,000 education, comes down to example, to the uprightness and perfection of the parents themselves."
If your child is in trouble outside and someone accuses your child, they will say, "This child really has no tutor!" ”
And when children grow up, problems must also be the root cause planted by parents.
The success of a child is closely related to whether parents have a correct home education for their children.
What can really make a child successful is his character that has something to do with his life.
The establishment of character comes from the power of example, and parents cannot escape as role models for their children.
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A loving family of parents
"The experience of parental affection is an experience that I will not have in this life, and I hope that my children will be able to answer this question in the future."
There is no specification of affection, which is higher than the affection of parents, and there is no temperature of happiness that transcends the harmony of the family.
The best thing a father can do for his children is to love his mother, and the best education parents can give their children is to love each other!
After many families have children, the children become the center of the family, and the other half is always the one who is relatively left out relative to the children.
In fact, the best state of the family is that dad loves mom and mom loves dad, and it shows it anytime and anywhere, so that children can feel the warmth and happiness of the family.
Huo Siyan and Du Jiang are models of loving couples in the entertainment industry.
When Du Jiang entered the door, he always hugged his wife first, and then hugged his son. The husband and wife hugged in front of Hum without hesitation, showing their affection.
Growing up in such an environment, he will spoil his mother as a little princess, will think about bringing candy to the veterinarian, and will take the initiative to care for others, he is not short of love, so he is not stingy with love.
In family life, what children hope for most is the love of their parents.
Because, when parents quarrel, children will be in a dilemma; Children can't bear the arguments they have to get from their parents; Children from families who love to fight and quarrel will become sensitive and vulnerable, and there will be no happiness at all.
Hellinger, the founder of the famous family arrangement system, proposed that a happy family relationship is like this:
The couple stood intimately side by side; The child stands in the middle position in front of the parents, forming a stable isosceles triangle relationship. Husband and wife are life partners and people who share the same fate.
Of all family relationships, the relationship between husband and wife comes first.
When you put the relationship first, the child will naturally not be self-centered.
Family harmony is a beautiful and happy family for children. Parents love and don't quarrel is the best education for children.
So, love your children starts with loving your partner.
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