The original partner's self-report: Encountering derailment in his fifties, how should the original partner choose?
When many women reach a certain age, they begin to seek stability.
Even if a man cheats, he is not willing to end the marriage easily,
Even if he doesn't love this man at all, he doesn't plan to tear up the mistress to save the cheating man.
Even if a man cheats, he won't get divorced, and he will continue like this.
But ignoring one point, if you don't do anything, it doesn't mean that the mistress and the cheating man will be honest.
If the cheating wife doesn't do anything, there is a high probability that she will be bullied home by the mistress.
For example, this is the case that the original match and Jiaxin said before.
She has been married to a cheating man for more than 30 years, and her children are already married and have children.
Her husband cheated on the neighbor's live-in nanny, and the junior is also in his forties.
This junior is very scheming, and he is a distant relative of the neighbor's family.
I have been hired to take care of the children for four or five years.
At that time, the children were still young, their parents had to work, and their grandparents had to manage the factory.
That's why a nanny needs to take care of her, and the junior is better to the employer's children than her own children.
The employer's family is also very satisfied with the mistress, because she is concentrating on her work.
As a result, it was later found that the child was taken by her and was not close to his parents and family.
I started to feel that something was wrong, and I wanted to get rid of her while the child was in elementary school.
The junior instigated the child to make trouble, and in the end he couldn't stand it, so he still left the junior.
I heard from my neighbor about this incident, and I was also very disgusted with the mistress.
She never thought that Xiao San was calculating not only the neighbor's house, but also her family.
During the epidemic, her son's family was sick, and she went to take care of her.
stayed for more than a month, and when she came back, her husband developed an extramarital affair with Xiao San.
Although the original partner was angry, he was also a little hesitant to solve the extramarital affair.
Because she couldn't put down her body to find the mistress, she only communicated with the cheating man, but every time there was no result.
The cheating man said that he didn't love the mistress, but he always insisted on having an extramarital affair.
said to the original partner that he had no plans to divorce, but he was already starting to secretly transfer his property.
In fact, this original partner knows everything, and he is also very clear about the actions of cheating men.
He should get a divorce, she also has the ability to divorce, and in the end she chose to hesitate.
It's because the original partner has other worries, such as the child's reputation. Such as future property and so on.
Jiaxin learned about the situation of this original partner, and actually suggested that this original partner divorce.
This mistress is definitely not a good stubble, the mistress doesn't just want an extramarital affair,
Looking at Xiao San's previous operation, she was very greedy and wanted a lot.
is even very unscrupulous, and it will imprison people's hearts.
Therefore, if the wives do not divorce, they must immediately separate the mistress.
If the wives refuse to separate the mistress, then the divorce is a stop loss.
On the one hand, it is because of the money of the little three, which can be seen from the work of being a nanny.
If the junior wants money, he will definitely find a way to ask the cheating man for money.
The degree of infatuation of the cheating man with the mistress may really keep giving the mistress money for the mistress.
This cheating man has proved with his actual heart that he is transferring property.
Therefore, the wives are worried that the property may not be given to the children after the divorce.
In fact, if you don't get divorced, your wives may not be able to keep your property.
If you get divorced, you will get more property and the wives will be guaranteed to have children.
But if you don't get divorced, I don't know how much the junior will take away.
Maybe the cheating man was instigated by the mistress, and a lot of property was given to the mistress, and it was still difficult for the children to get it.
So it's better to get a divorce early. It can also be regarded as a stop loss to avoid greater losses.
On the other hand, the original partner actually has no need to entangle with the cheating man and the mistress.
The cheating man and the original partner have a lot of property, and if they are really divorced, the original partner will get a considerable share.
The original partner also has a job and is about to retire, and his pension is also quite large.
The child also said that he hoped to live with his original partner, and his life after the divorce would not be too difficult.
Since you can live a good life, why do you have to guard the cheating man and then tear each other apart with the mistress?
This was originally equipped with the conditions for divorce, but what was lacking was the courage to divorce.
may think more traditionally, and think that divorce at this age is not good.
Jiaxin told this original partner that it was not the original partner who was really known by others to be bad.
It's a man who cheats in his fifties and divorces for the sake of the junior.
As well as being a junior, a third party who has exhausted his means.
Why does the original partner feel that he has a problem, only no face?
Sometimes caring too much about what others think is tantamount to putting yourself in a cage.
If you are embarrassed by your own pain, you may not be able to solve the problem.
It's better to look away, as long as you are comfortable, what do you care about what others say?
命运有三个转折点：
1. Family of origin;
2. Husband and wife partners;
3. Awaken yourself.
If you don't have a superior family, a wishful partner,
You must wake up that strong self and reshuffle the cards.
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I'm Jiaxin, a marriage defender who focuses on the separation of third parties.