01. Introduction

Marriage is like a bridge. This head is a romantic flower before the moon; Over there, it's a dull fireworks routine.

When the foundation of a marriage begins to crumble, many details of life are foreshadowed.

The indifference and alienation between each other, the inner estrangement, and the disregard for the bottom line of marriage are disintegrating the marriage little by little.

A man often posts these in the circle of friends, indicating that he has run away from home.

02, has no sense of boundaries, and posts photos of other people of the opposite sex

One of my buddies, Xu Yi, rarely posts on Moments.

Even the daily life with his wife and children is rarely shared in the circle of friends.

Once, when the company organized a sports meeting, Xu Yi posted some clips of the sports meeting.

It seems to be a snapshot, but in fact, the protagonist of each photo is the same woman.

His wife felt a little uneasy, but she couldn't speak. Later, she watched the long video sorted out by the company repeatedly, and finally found some clues.

In between Xu Yi's games, it was the woman who handed him water and helped him wipe his sweat. The two also drank the same bottle of water and had a lot of physical contact.

The wife took these clips and confronted Xu Yi. He didn't defend it at all, saying, "yes, I'm just in love with someone else." ”

The content of a person's circle of friends is nothing more than about his work and life.

A married man who posts photos of other members of the opposite sex in the circle of friends is a very boundaryless behavior.

Either his emotional intelligence is too low, or his heart is no longer at home, and he begins to test the world outside of marriage.

A man has no sense of boundaries with other members of the opposite sex, and publishes photos of the opposite sex in the circle of friends because his heart has run away from home.

He began to play ambiguously with the opposite sex, not caring about his wife's feelings. wantonly challenged the bottom line of marriage, and didn't want to live a good life at all.

03, in the circle of friends, slandering his wife, I don't care

Moloya said: "There is nothing in the world that lasts long in oblivion, and when a house is abandoned, it decays, when it is discarded, when friendship is abandoned, and when love is discarded, it dissolves." ”

Husband and wife are one, and they must share weal and woe and support each other.

Even if there is a conflict, we must communicate calmly, actively solve the problem, and maintain each other's feelings.

If a man slanders his wife in the circle of friends and says a lot of ugly things, it means that he has long been out of love.

He did not treat his wife as a future partner and was unwilling to give her respect and protection. For a trivial matter, he will hold a grudge and want to find an opportunity to take revenge on her.

He didn't care what others would say, what kind of situation his wife would fall into.

It's as if it has nothing to do with him at all.

He and his wife have long become incompatible enemies.

No matter what his wife does, he doesn't like it. If his wife achieves results, he will hate her out of jealousy and want to destroy her.

When men behave like this, it means that the love for each other is gone.

He didn't want to continue to manage this marriage, he didn't want to stay with his wife, he just wanted to vent his dissatisfaction and hatred.

04. If you file for divorce at will and don't want to live

I have a male colleague who has a bad relationship with his wife.

He always clamored for a divorce in the circle of friends at every turn, saying that his life would not go on.

He portrays himself as a victim of marriage and makes others think that his wife is a very bad woman.

His wife, because she was overwhelmed, had no choice but to agree to the divorce and return his freedom.

But it didn't take long for others to find out that the male colleague was in a close relationship with a woman.

When they were drinking together, he accidentally said that he had slipped his mouth, and it turned out that he and this woman had already developed feelings. The content of those moments of friends is just to put pressure on his wife to sign the divorce agreement earlier.

If a man still has an attachment to his family, no matter how difficult life is, he will find a way to get through the crisis. When two people quarrel, he will also take the initiative to give in and cherish this fate.

When a man's heart is far away, he will casually mention divorce, complain and vent in the circle of friends, and stir up his life to everyone.

Some men have a deep mind, and in order to achieve their goals, they can use many means.

For example, in order to let his wife leave, he complains casually in the circle of friends, accuses his wife, or complains that marriage has become a cage, etc.

When his heart has already left, no matter how much his wife tries to redeem and plead, it is useless. Women, plan more for yourself.

05, Wen Qiusheng's message

When happiness is around, men always don't know how to cherish it, and they always feel that this is not the life they want.

can be tossed and tossed, and in the end, you will find that it is still the wife who is good, or the family can give you the most warmth.

You must learn to run a family, learn to maintain your feelings, and take the initiative to share the burden for your wife.

Be considerate and tolerant of each other, and ride out the storm together.

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About the author: Wen Qiusheng, make a living from words. Autumn wind and rain, a glass of sake, three or two stories, on the lonely road with you as a companion.