Have you ever had the experience of doing your best, but being in deep pain and anxiety because of a casual comment from someone else? Many times, we always care about other people's opinions and eyes, as if we are living in someone else's world, forgetting our true selves. So, why do we always evaluate the unexpected world like this?
In fact, this concern often stems from our deep inner insecurity and lack of confidence. We are afraid that our choices will not be understood, that our values will be contrary to others. So, we try to meet the expectations of others and try to get their approval. However, such a way of life makes us lose ourselves and become exhausted.
True maturity is to learn to be a person with a stable core. We don't have to demand the understanding of others, let alone care about other people's eyes and opinions. Because everyone's life experiences and values are different, we can't expect others to fully understand our choices and decisions. We should follow our hearts, not to please or pander, but to leave the choice to ourselves and act according to our own values.
In the face of other people's different ideas, perspectives and choices, we must learn to be tolerant and respectful. Don't try to change others, let alone dictate their lives. Everyone has their own way of life and pursuits, and we should respect their choices rather than impose our own will on them.
Especially as a manager, you should remain calm and rational in the face of different work attitudes of employees. We can't think that our employees are wasting their talents and lives just because they are perfunctory and fishing. Everyone has their own pace and way of growth, and we should give them enough space and trust, instead of blindly blaming and criticizing.
In the adult world, there is only screening and selection, no education and change. We should allow ourselves to be ourselves and allow others to be others. When we are able to let go of the expectations and judgments of others and truly focus on our own inner needs and values, we will find that our lives become easier and more comfortable.
So, stop being trapped by other people's opinions and be brave enough to be yourself! Make our lives more exciting and fulfilling!