Have you ever struggled with a relationship whirlpool, trying to please but still feeling overwhelmed? Ever wondered why some people feel so natural and comfortable with others, while others make you feel stressed? In fact, the answer is very simple, the most comfortable relationship between people is just three words: not pleased!
Not flattering does not mean indifference or detachment, but a just right amount of ease and honesty. In such a relationship, we can express ourselves as much as we want without fear of being ridiculed or disliked. We can speak freely and share our inner joys and sorrows without pretending or hiding. This relationship makes us feel at ease, as if we are back to our original selves.
So, how do you build this thankless relationship? First, we need to learn to respect our feelings and needs. Don't sacrifice your principles and bottom line in order to cater to others. It is only when we truly respect ourselves that we can attract those who respect us equally.
Second, we need to learn to appreciate the uniqueness of others. Everyone has their own shining points and shortcomings, and we should learn to tolerate and understand, rather than blindly picking and blaming. Finally, we need to keep a normal mind and not force the outcome of any relationship. Fate is predestined, some relationships are destined to only be tasted at a superficial level, while some relationships will accompany us through a long time.
In the process of getting along with others, we also need to understand a truth: unilateral forbearance cannot be exchanged for sincerity. If we are always compromising and deliberately pandering to others, then the relationship is bound to be fragile and unsustainable. Because true affection is based on mutual understanding and respect, not one-sided giving and sacrifice.
When we learn to get along with people unpleasantly, we will find that our friends and loved ones around us will become more sincere and close. We can share the bits and pieces of life with them, whether it is joys and sorrows. This relationship makes us feel warm and reassured, as if we have the whole world.
In closing, I would like to say that the people who can really spend a long time with you must be the ones who make you feel comfortable. They don't make you feel stressed or constrained, but rather make you feel comfortable and relaxed. With such people, you will feel that life becomes more beautiful and meaningful.
So, stop wronging yourself in order to please others. Be brave enough to be yourself and be authentic about your thoughts and feelings. You will find that those who are truly worthy of your cherishing are actually always by your side.
Let's learn to get along with people without flattery, and enjoy that freedom and comfort! Because in this world, nothing is more important than having someone you feel comfortable with.