In our hometown, there is such a simple rural saying: "When marrying a wife, you must look at the mouth, and the husband must look at the hands first." This seemingly simple sentence contains the precipitation and understanding of people's wisdom in marriage for thousands of years. Let's talk about the story behind the "mouth" and "hand" today, and see if there is a truth that we modern people can resonate with.
In rural areas, "mouth" refers to a person's speech and behavior, that is, emotional intelligence and communication skills. The ancients said: "Words are the voice of the heart", a good partner must first be able to empathize, know how to listen and express. If a person has a sweet mouth and speaks appropriately, can resolve conflicts in life, and bring harmony to the family, then this "mouth" is an important consideration in marriage. After all, marriage is not only a matter of two people, but also the integration of two families, and good communication can make life smoother.
Looking at "hands" again, this does not refer to fist and foot kung fu, but to diligence and craftsmanship. The ancients said: "Skillful hands and soul", a capable husband can not only support his family, but also create happiness with his hands. In rural areas, men plough and women weave, and craftsmen are the pillars of the family. A diligent and capable man can not only give his wife a sense of security, but also bring real material security to the family. The value of this "hand" is self-evident.
Of course, this is not to say that we should take these two points as the only criterion, marriage is a long-term companionship, and it also requires understanding, respect and mutual growth of both parties. But it is undeniable that these seemingly trivial details can indeed affect the quality of life to a large extent.
In retrospect, this proverb is actually telling us that when choosing a partner, we should not only look at the surface, but also have a deep understanding of the other person's personality and abilities. After all, "marriage is like a shoe, only you know whether it fits or not." This sentence is equally applicable to both a wife and a husband.
In today's society, although the material conditions have been greatly improved, this ancient wisdom still has its far-reaching guiding significance. We still need a pair of discerning eyes to find the person who knows how to speak and can run a family, because "a good partner is the palette of life and the harbor of the soul".
Friends, the next time you hear this sentence "marry a wife first look at the mouth, marry a husband first look at the hand", you might as well think about it, is there a little resonance? Remember, marriage is a long journey, and choosing the right partner can make this journey even better. Let's use this wisdom to find our own happiness!
Finally, don't forget to like and forward, so that more people can feel the wisdom from the people, and let this old saying continue to shine in the new era!