1. Qiao Yu's greatest regret before his death, Tong Qi has been with him for 68 years to witness the eternity of true love
On June 19, 2022, the famous lyricist Qiao Yu passed away, and the general public lamented and regretted. Qiao Yu has created many popular works in his life, such as "Let's Swing the Sculls", "My Motherland", "People Say Shanxi is a Good Scenery", "Unforgettable Tonight", "Young Hero Little Nezha", etc., accompanied by the growth of countless Chinese, full of feelings and warm hearts.
What is regrettable is that in the artistic life of this great poet, there is an important person who has contributed to it - his beloved wife Tong Qi.
Tong Qi has accompanied Qiao Yu from beginning to end, and is his biggest supporter and source of motivation. The 68 years have witnessed the sincere love of this loving couple who are tolerant and considerate of each other.
Although the two have vastly different family backgrounds and personality habits, it is precisely because they have each other's true love in their hearts that they can walk together through thick and thin and spend the ups and downs of marriage together.
Along the way, in the face of big and small differences and contradictions in life, Qiao Yu and Tong Qi have learned to resolve differences with love and tolerate each other's shortcomings with tolerance. Tong Qi is considerate and always pays attention to her husband's needs, while Qiao Yu also trusts his wife wholeheartedly and is 100% at ease with her.
Whenever he finishes writing, the first person to share his work is inevitably Tong Qi. If Tong Qi proposed any modifications, Qiao Yu would accept them humbly and have no complaints.
It is with Tong Qi's full support and encouragement that Qiao Yu can devote himself to creation and show his talent to the fullest. In the interview, Qiao Yu once confessed emotionally: "In the military merit medal, there is half of me and half of you."
It can be seen that Tong Qi is of great significance to his creative career.
Second, 10-year-old Qiao Yu is already a "prodigy", and Tong Qi is still a newborn baby
In 1937, Tong Qi was born in a prominent family in Beijing, and grew up in a privileged environment since he was a child. At the same time, as far away as Jining, Shandong, 10-year-old Qiao Yu is already a high-profile "prodigy" among local children.
At the age of 4, he knew more than 3,000 Chinese characters, and after entering the school, he was excellent in character and learning, and won the first place in his grade every year. In order to reward this student for showing outstanding qualifications at an early stage, the school even waived his tuition fees.
The backgrounds of the two are very different, but they are a pair of people with completely different life trajectories, and they are finally closely connected and become husband and wife.
3. They met in 1954 and became husband and wife
In 1954, Qiao Yu was transferred to the Third Creation Studio of North China University and began to engage in professional writing. By chance, under the introduction of a colleague, he met Tong Qi, who was born in a famous family.
Although there is a world of difference between the two in terms of family background and personality habits, they are pulled by an indescribable wonderful force and get closer and closer.
It was this year that Qiao Yu got the opportunity to create an interlude for New China's first campus children's feature film "Flowers of the Motherland". But after thinking about it for days, I always felt that I couldn't grasp the inspiration.
On this day, Tong Qi was considerate, and in order to relieve Qiao Yu's creative pressure, he took the initiative to ask him to go to Beihai Park to go out in the wilderness.
Watching a group of "red scarves" happily swinging their sculls and playing, Qiao Yu suddenly became enlightened, and inspiration surged like a spring. After a while, the lyrics full of childlike vitality "Let's swing the oars, the boat pushes the waves... And so it was born.
The appearance of Tong Qi has become the biggest inspiration to awaken Qiao Yu's creative inspiration. A few months later, the two joined hands and entered the palace of marriage.
Fourth, there are many estrangements in married life, but the two resolve the conflict with "forbearance" and "letting".
The life after marriage opened the eyes of Qiao Yu and Tong Qi, and the two of them were indeed too different.
Tong Qi has always been very particular about what he does, and he is very disciplined in everything he does. Even if the shop is right at your doorstep, you must hire a tricycle to go to the largest department store in Beijing at that time to shop and dine.
On the contrary, Qiao Yu buys whatever is close to him, and brings whatever is convenient, and never pays attention to it.
What makes it even more difficult for Qiao Yu to adapt is Tong Qi's cleaning habits that have almost reached the point of "cleanliness". She washes her hands several times a day, and her husband Qiao Yu has to be forced to "do the same".
Every time I come out of the study, I have to wash my hands, I have to wash my hands before I go into the kitchen, and I have to wash my hands again when I get out of the kitchen... Qiao Yu is used to living casually, how can he tolerate this, so he often does some small "resistance".
But every time he resisted, Qiao Yu would eventually choose to back down and compromise. Because he loves Tong Qi so much, he doesn't want to hurt Tong Qi's heart because of these little things.
Even in a special era, when others criticized Tong Qi for wasting water by washing the balcony every day, Qiao Yu also excused her everywhere and relieved her, just in exchange for the understanding of others.
Tong Qi, a "Gege" with a prominent background, resolutely took care of the housework after marrying Qiao Yu, making soup for her husband every day, and taking care of her.
In decades of married life, Qiao Yu has never accompanied his wife to go shopping once, nor has he bought anything, because Tong Qi has taken care of all this.
Their family has also moved several times, and each time Tong Qi was busy and never let Qiao Yu interfere.
In some major matters, Tong Qi will also unreservedly trust her husband's judgment, such as what clothes to wear when getting married, and Qiao Yu is solely in charge, and Tong Qi has never objected.
It is precisely because of the full support and careful care of such a virtuous assistant Tong Qi in the family that Qiao Yu can devote himself to creation, and over time, his creative reputation and achievements have become more and more brilliant at home and abroad, and his reputation is full of China.
He not only wrote popular classics such as "My Motherland", "Unforgettable Tonight", and "Song of Peony", but also award-winning masterpieces such as "Red Child" and "Liu Sanjie".
Seeing her husband's successful career, Tong Qi was naturally sincerely happy. When Qiao Yu praised his wife, he once said with emotion: "In the military merit medal, there is half of mine and half of you."
This sounds really sincere and moving.
Fifth, the years have precipitated, the roles have been reversed, and Tong Qi is tolerant and willful of his wife
Interestingly, when he was young, Qiao Yu had a good temper, no matter how hard Tong Qi competed, he would be tolerant again and again and never return the favor. But when he got older, Qiao Yu began to become a little willful and petty-tempered.
At this time, Tong Qi took the initiative to take on the role of tolerance, and accepted Qiao Yu's various small problems without complaint.
In an interview, the couple personally "exposed" the "secret" of their happy marriage - Qiao Yu is "forbearing", while Tong Qi is "forbearance and forbearance".
Tong Qi explained that when you meet someone who is most suitable for you and you love the most, you should cherish each other and cherish this fate when you come together.
And Qiao Yu sincerely said that to truly love someone is to join hands with her for a lifetime to grow old, don't change it halfway, if you change it, it won't be a lifetime.
In the bits and pieces of getting along with the couple, both of them have learned to resolve differences with love and accept each other's shortcomings with tolerance. Tong Qi is considerate and always pays attention to Qiao Yu's needs, while Qiao Yu trusts his wife wholeheartedly and is 100% at ease with her.
After Qiao Yu finished writing his work, the first object to share was inevitably Tong Qi. If Tong Qi proposed any modifications, Qiao Yu would accept them humbly and have no complaints. When her creation encounters a bottleneck, Tong Qi will also be patient and never give up, providing her husband with inspirational nutrients.