#城中之城#
We always like to say: people only have a sense of living and understanding when they reach middle age. So what exactly does it mean to 'live and understand'? Isn't it that I have stepped on the road of life and stepped on the pit too much, stepped out of experience and understanding, and had the psychology of prevention and cautious behavior.
I have been hurt by the people closest to me, completely deceived by the people I trust the most, and ruthlessly abandoned by my partner who thought it was the most unbreakable; I have experienced what it means to be isolated, what it means to be in pain, I have tasted a bitter life that can no longer be bitter, and I have suffered unforgettable eyes and ridicule for a lifetime,......。
Beware of the criss-crossing scars on the heart, the old is not good, the new comes to cover, and after healing, it leaves a scar that will never go away, the years give people happiness and pain, but also bring the marks of the temples white, the eyes from the clear when they were young to become more and more firm and indifferent, and it is basically the time for people to reach middle age.
When life set a hurdle that he couldn't overcome, Zhao Hui 'lived and understood'.
The matter of treating Rui Rui is a key point in Zhao Hui's awakening. After Li Ying's death, the most important thing in Zhao Hui's life was Rui Rui.
Zhao Hui has always thought that his original intention in the pursuit of his career is the most important belief in his life. Therefore, life set up a game to test him, and after a long and painful struggle, he made an important choice, with his daughter first and his original intention coming last.
As long as you pass this test, in the next stage of your life, you will not only have a broader career and richer and more practical network resources, but also everything will go smoothly. On the contrary, if you can't pass the test, you will be stuck in 'this game', and your life will basically enter a dead end, and the rest of the time will be struggling.
Therefore, when you reach a certain stage in your life, your choice is particularly important. The choice is wrong, and all the efforts are in vain.
The author doesn't think that Zhao Hui's choice is wrong, because people, especially after becoming parents, always have to give up something for the most important person in their life to live a better life, such as Zhao Hui's career bottom line in the play.
Blindly bury yourself in the workplace, and your career is like that.
Friends in the workplace should have a sense that most of the middle and senior leaders of the unit have mediocre work ability and moral cultivation to be improved.
This is exactly the 'specialization in the art industry', because the people who are particularly capable at work prefer to prove themselves with strength and performance data. The other group of people in the workplace is the opposite, who can only whitewash themselves with flowery words and flattering smiles in order to hide the emptiness or ill-intentioned inside.
"City in the City" Li Sen, the former vice president of the branch of Shenmao Bank, this workplace executive figure is simply too realistic. At the meeting, he carved up the resources of Zhao Hui's branch and distributed the roles to other banks, and friends who have been in the workplace for many years will definitely have a very familiar viewing experience.
There are two kinds of ability in the workplace, one is called work ability, which is a manifestation of work ability. The other is called comprehensive ability, like Li Sen in the play, he can achieve the position of branch president, and he is definitely a person with outstanding comprehensive ability.
Before Zhao Hui was blackened, he belonged to the first type of people in the workplace with strong 'work ability', and after blackening, he belonged to the latter category with strong 'comprehensive ability'. In fact, this is mainly because Zhao Hui has become enlightened in his career development, and his thinking has been upgraded to a new height, which is what the author expressed in the previous paragraph, and his life has been upgraded.
Zhao Hui has adhered to his original intention in the workplace for so many years, he has the ability, talent and courage, but he has never been able to integrate into the high-level core group of career development. Therefore, sometimes, especially in the treatment of work, we can't keep our heads buried in hard work, but stop and think, summarize, and adjust the more suitable development path and direction.
People who are emotionally heavy are more likely to be hurt and will be more ruthless when they wake up.
Zhao Hui is a very emotional person, which can be seen from his attitude towards Zhou Lin, who resembles his deceased wife Li Ying, and his eldest brother Wu Xianlong, who has twice saved his life.
If Zhou Lin is here to soothe Zhao Hui's exhaustion, it will bring some beautiful romance and warm time to his stressful middle-aged life. That Wu Xianlong is definitely a catastrophe in Zhao Hui's life, the catastrophe of family affection, the catastrophe of feelings, and the catastrophe of repaying gratitude, which made him reshape his emotional world.
In fact, in the world of feelings, the most hurtful thing is not to lose, but to give richly, and then cruelly take it all. Wu Xianlong is exactly like this to Zhao Hui!
Although Wu Xianlong's kindness to Zhao Hui was also true and honest at the beginning, but as time went by, the focus of their respective living areas continued to change, and the two brothers' life pursuits became farther and farther away, and there were huge interests in the middle. In the final analysis, these two people still turned their faces because of interests. Decades of brotherhood can't withstand the temptation of hundreds of millions.
When a person who is particularly emotional, once he is despaired, there is no room for recovery in this relationship. Therefore, sometimes 'living and understanding' is really a painful realization.
TV series are all beautifying life.
At the end of the drama "City in the City", the bad guys are all punished, and Zhao Hui also paid the price for his actions and was punished.
The code of conduct set by the operating system of society is that 'in some cases, in order to suppress human nature and nature, it is necessary to follow the rules'.
When the author was chasing this drama, he expressed his understanding of Zhao Hui's choice to 'deviate from the right track' again and again in the later period, because in Zhao Hui's heart, it has been clear that 'the health of his daughter Ruirui is the most important', which is the human nature and nature of a father. Every adult bears the consequences of the choices they make.
The process of human life understanding is actually the process of making trade-offs. The process of choosing is also a process of family, friendship, money, fame, and status, which tests human nature. There is no right or wrong choice, you can choose to live with the consequences.