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If you want to gallop through a first-tier city, you must climb three mountains.
Positioning, concept, choice.
These three mountains, one is more difficult to climb than the other. Let's start with the first one:
Repositioning!
In the past half of my life, I have been in contact with a lot of small-town problem-solvers, whether it is in the original unit, or among relatives and friends, one by one.
Objectively speaking, in the small town, there are good ones, and even those who are like fish in water and dive into the sea.
These three mountains, they turned over as soon as they turned their legs, their personal qualifications are different, their growth experiences are different, and some small towns are miscellaneous. In addition to doing the questions, they are also clear about other social survival rules, which can be described as all-rounders!
So what mountain, in front of the all-rounder, it's all a matter of bias. But the problem is that for the average small-town problem-solver, the first mountain to face when entering a first-tier big city is to reposition yourself!
It is a mountain that is difficult to climb.
Because you have to make a cut with your previous image.
What is a small town problematic?
My cousin once told me something that I remember vividly.
Size. A few years ago, I married a daughter-in-law, and I heard that she came from a county-level city in Jiangxi. Before I saw his daughter-in-law, he said to me:
Hehe. Nun. That stupid girl in my family can't handle it, she can't look good, she can't have a brain, she is stupid, but don't say it, I like her stupid appearance!
After his introduction, the image of a big silly girl immediately popped up in my mind.
Bai Bai chubby sat there, didn't look up the snacks, and ate them for a long time. You ask her what her name is, who she is, where she lives, and it takes a lot of effort to talk.
But the problem is, when I really see this girl, I will know, oh, either she is humble in size and size, or she is not knowledgeable in size, and this girl is a very beautiful kind of person at first glance.
There is a sense of clumsiness and wisdom, and some people are smart and exposed, and their eyes are rolling around, but their stomachs are actually empty. And some people are real fools, and they put it there like a scale.
This girl is neither. She looks very quiet, not saying much, but between the words, the corners of her eyebrows and eyes can show a spirit!
So I started talking to her.
It turned out that this girl's academic performance was very good since she was a child, whether it was primary school or middle school, she was a top ranking, and later went to university at Zhejiang University. I studied at Jiao Tong University. Or the other way around, the undergraduate is Jiaotong University, and the graduate study is Zhejiang University. I forgot.
To be honest, it can leave a school mark on my mind. There are only Beiqing in China, and there are only a few abroad!
Don't look at me, although I am not very good, I have no culture, but the problem is to move a bench and sit in Haidian. On Zhongguancun South Street, on Metro Line 4. A billboard came down, and it had to smash four doctors. In Haidian, Beijing, where intellectuals gather, there are only a few schools that can really make people's eyes shine.
The vibe is different.
For example, my aunt and I went to college in the late 80s, and before a girl in our dormitory went to school, their family set up a banquet for her!
Another student in my class was in Beijing, and the whole village had a big meal for three days!
But what about me? When I was in college, no one asked, so I rode a bicycle and carried a bedding roll, and of course there was a background to it. My father had just passed away, and the family was in a hurry, but even if he hadn't died, he wouldn't have done a big celebration for me.
Because isn't it normal to go to university? There's nothing surprising about it. It's like the aunt in our building who collects health fees with a red hoop and asked me:
Hey, where did you get into college?
You see, Aunt Honghoop acquiesces, I have to go to college, it's just where to go.
After I told her, she nodded and said:
Be! If you're like this, you have to go to college in Beijing to take care of your family!
This is the situation in the first-tier cities, how to say? When those small town writers come here, it's like a river fish entering the sea.
By the way, do you know why crucian carp is full of spines, while salmon is not pocked?
That's because there are so many obstacles in the river, crucian carp swim flexibly, but what about salmon? In the sea, it's okay to rush forward like an arrow, there are no obstacles here.
This is the difference between the river and the sea, and this is also the difference between the original environment of the small-town problem-solver before the age of 20 and the working environment after the age of 20.
It's like the female school bully who takes the size
After they got married, they once accompanied their newlywed wife back to her parents' house, it was a Spring Festival, and his wife took her to the middle school where she studied.
Look at the size of that, heh, it's not bad, there are several buildings in the school, and the playground is quite spacious, but the door is locked.
So the size was going to leave, but who knew that his wife walked to the door and said a few words to the uncle in the communication room, and when the uncle saw her, he actually said with a smile:
I'll open the door for you, and you can go in.
This makes the size quite strange,
But soon he understood.
Oh, it turns out that my wife is a goose in this school, and there is a corridor on the west side of the school's teaching building.
What kind of school history exhibition is displayed in the corridor, there is a photo of his wife on it, and there is a text below to introduce what awards she has won, what honors she has won, what university she was admitted to, what year she entered the school, and which year she graduated.
The size later said to me:
In my mind, only academicians and the like can be displayed. Even Qing Beisheng can't display it.
Indeed, they studied in a famous middle school in Beijing, and they really had a lot of talents there.
But looking back, the school building of my wife's school is not smaller than that of her alma mater. I guess there are no fewer students than their schools.
He suddenly realized a problem, where did his wife's usual stubborn conceit, those indignant anger, and those depression in the workplace come from?
That is from his wife's previous rankings and positioning.
In this town, my wife has always been one of the best figures, she has solved countless problems in her studies, and used her own methods to overcome one obstacle after another. Her way of thinking, her philosophy of life, has been recognized as the correct answer again and again!
It turns out that the wife is the real tyrant!
The overlord of the overlord, but when this overlord arrived in Beijing, in the eyes of the big and small, he became a stupid little cutie, what is the reason?
It's just because she's not tall, just because she's combing her mushroom hair, a bit like a cherry ball, and her real shining points, the size is not noticed at all!
Because in the big and small work, with the platform of a big bank head office, the technical elites of those large factories to connect with are all extraordinary!
Therefore, people like his wife, who used to be one of the best people sitting on the spire of the pagoda, were moved to the environment of Beijing and fell off the pedestal of the pagoda all of a sudden.
And they will feel that climbing the pagoda is a very difficult thing, and this kind of gap will really torment people
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So he figured it out later, and he felt that his wife's inferiority and conceit, arrogance and stubbornness, sensitivity and depression actually had a reason and a background.
Because the environment has changed, the gap is too big, and I used to be a princess.
Note that the princess here is an academic princess who is pampered by her teachers in school.
To take the simplest example,
This academic princess is known and known to the principal.
I heard that once, when the principal took them to the province to participate in a competition, he invited them to dinner.
Oh my God, I've been in school for so many years, not to mention that the principal knows me, I don't even know the principal!
Why?
Auntie, I've always been at the level of slipping. I've always felt like a little humble!
At most, we have been a team leader, but it was still a real team leader, when I was riding a tricycle to deliver textbooks, I was hit by a motorcycle, and everyone was knocked away, my brain hit the ground, and my elbow was shattered and broken. Follow your doctor's advice and take a year off from school at home.
It was only the next day after the "Huanggutun Incident" that I came out to be ordered to preside over the overall situation!
Ah. I was very nervous! While snorting, I assured the teacher that I would be determined to complete the task!
So you can understand why people like Aunt and I can mix well everywhere.
Of course, when I say that I mix well, I don't mean that I will be promoted and get rich, but that I am self-consistent and relaxed and lively.
That's because I've always been bad.
I've been in the middle of the middle in the rankings of the big sequence, in the words of my own nephew Ermonkey:
For people like us, there is a lot of room for improvement! There is little room for regression!
Yes!
As a slippery element who has a lot of room for progress and has nothing to retreat from, I can live with a wide range of skies, and I can live without burdens.
You can even live without any self-esteem.
So I set myself a very low KPI in life. Because I didn't have any hardware conditions, I could fight with others!
Take academics, for example.
Let's talk about foreign languages, I remember that among my friends at that time, one of them knew four foreign languages, one knew three, and one knew six languages!
Really, Six Gates!
English, French, Japanese, Malay, Cantonese and Chinese.
And me, I'm a mute.
Well, you guys should treat me as dumb, because I don't even dare to turn over the real English professional materials!
You must know that in the business posts of the central government, who is cowardly, everyone is an elite.
And in this circle, I just got the ticket by luck, so here, I don't have any image, burden, rolling all over the ground, slipping around or playing tricks, we just focus on a casual and relaxed, no matter how bad it is, it can't be bad!
So I can do wrong things, not get entangled, and not be sudden when I encounter difficulties. I'm not discouraged when I lose, and of course sometimes I get lucky and succeed, so I'm really happy because I know I'm not worthy.
For all setbacks and difficulties, I have enough psychological preparation and perfect psychological construction to deal with!
Our mantra at the time was one sentence:
It's not a problem!
And this kind of relaxation is not found in many small towns.
They are consistent and scramble.
They are habitually successful,
has been like this since childhood, and now think about the little daughter-in-law who was stupid in the mouth, and once served as a captain.
My God, I think the captain is a man who walks through the campus with clouds. At that time, when I was in elementary school, I participated in an event and went on stage side by side with the captain, and I felt a little excited in my heart!
As for the captain, what the deity thinks, we don't dare to think about it. That's not the same species as us!
But if you think about it, suppose that captain goes to a new space, let's say to the United States. Yes, I heard that the captain of our elementary school actually went to the United States and started from scratch, just like the Pekingese played in New York.
Xiao Wang, the principal violinist of the orchestra, Li, the director of the system, and the big doctor, finally met in the back kitchen of a Chinese restaurant.
Of course, the group of people who went abroad in the 80s at that time were ready to start all over again, and they went to the foreign queue.
But that's not the case with a lot of small-town problem-solvers. They came to the big city, and they also wanted to make contributions and make a great progress, but in the face of infinite difficulties and embarrassment, they really had those two words in their hearts:
Defy!
Why didn't the ways I solved problems in the past work?
Why is all the aura on my body gone?
Why are all the good luck in the past lost?
Am I wrong, or is the environment wrong?
Should I feel inferior, or should I feel self-pity?
Many psychological problems originate from this, to put it bluntly, I can't accept the gap between the society in my mind and the society in reality!
Don't look at it, repositioning is easy to say, but hard to do. It took millions of years for fish to travel from the bottom of the sea to the land. As for the small town problem, it may be directly mentioned in a big city by an admission letter.
Then they want to settle down here and work hard. This momentary change is too sudden for many people, equivalent to a crustal movement, and they are overwhelmed!
And in this suddenness, under this kind of stunnedness, they are prone to make the wrong choice.
For example, I found some difficult life topics for myself. It's like the suicide of a university teacher that was hotly discussed by everyone some time ago. Many people say that he does not have much advantage in the key universities in first-tier cities with a bachelor's and master's degree from Peking University. Therefore, it is normal to fail to meet the assessment standards of flying up and leaving, and unfortunately fall into the ranks of those who have gone.
But the question is whether he can meet the standards in scientific research, just talking about the bachelor's and master's degrees of Peking University, isn't it a fairy for many people? How did you get to your school? Daxian has become a little ghost!
Who the hell am I?
Where is my ability?
What should my targeting be?
These topics are bothered, and those who are still young in small towns are problematic.
And when they are suffering from these problems, they do not get help and explanation from others.
Of course, there is another mountain that involves the small town as a problem-solver, that is: concept!
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