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My name is Chen Jing and my family lives in a small township. When I was in school, my grades were not good, and I had no intention of studying, so after graduating from junior high school, I went out to work to earn money, and I didn't get married until I was 28 years old.
The family was in a hurry, so I asked someone to give me a blind date.
I met my husband during the blind date, and after getting along for a while, I felt that he was easy-going and honest, and he was a person worthy of trust, and he got married soon.
After we got married, we lived with our in-laws. At first, we lived a relatively harmonious life, but after a long time, we realized that there were many problems.
My father-in-law has a strong desire to control, and he has to hold all the big and small things in the family in his own hands. Especially for your own children, you have to meddle in everything.
As the second brother-in-law, he can still rebel one or two, so his father-in-law's desire to control is placed on his eldest son, my husband.
My husband is honest and obedient, and over time, he has formed a habit of listening to his in-laws for everything.
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When we get ready to get married, we have to take wedding photos.
My husband and I went to several stores, compared the price and the quality of the photos, and settled on one that met our expectations. Then I searched for a lot of styles and types of wedding photos on the Internet.
We were just about to make an appointment with someone. My husband received a call from my mother-in-law, saying that we don't have to worry about wedding photos. She has someone she knows who has opened a photography shop, and because she is an acquaintance, she will give us a great discount.
I was a little unhappy in my heart, I finally spent so much effort to do my homework, who doesn't want to take beautiful wedding photos.
But my husband persuaded me that my mother-in-law was also for our good. It costs money everywhere to get married, and it is a little bit to save a little, and it is an acquaintance of the mother-in-law, it will definitely be better to communicate, and it will not pit us.
I was just about to get married, and I didn't want to leave a bad impression on my husband's family, so I agreed to my husband.
In the end, we shot in the acquaintance store that my mother-in-law said, cheap is cheap, but the clothes are very old styles, and the makeup artist's skills are difficult to describe. After the overall shape was done, I couldn't see it, and my mother-in-law was still praising her good looks on the side.
I secretly told my husband that this shot really can't be done. My husband saw his mother-in-law next to him and chatted happily with others, so he only let me endure it, saying that he would lose it after the wedding photos were taken anyway, and few people would see it. I could only do the whole thing in silence.
Later, I found out that this shop was found by my father-in-law. The owner of the shop is indeed an acquaintance of his in-laws.
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After two years of marriage, I gave birth to a daughter. I discussed with my husband to buy a school district house in the county seat so that my children could go to school in the future.
We live in a two-storey self-built house in the countryside. The in-laws live on the first floor, and the second floor is divided into two halves, half for us and half for my husband, brother and sister-in-law.
Although my younger brother and sister-in-law have been working outside for a long time, they only come back to live during the Chinese New Year. But with so many people living together, it does seem a little cramped.
In addition, now that we have a daughter, there will be more people in the future. In addition, the transportation in the countryside is not very convenient, and the schools are far away.
I also worked for so many years before giving birth to a baby, and I was usually more frugal, saving tens of thousands. After getting married, most of my husband's salary was handed over to me, plus my bride price, and I got together with 300,000 yuan, and I paid a down payment in the county, which was just enough.
My husband said that buying a house is not a trivial matter, and besides, we have to move out after buying a house, which is equivalent to separating the family, and we have to discuss it with our in-laws.
As a result, as soon as my husband talked about buying a house, my in-laws immediately objected: If I don't have a house to live in now, why are the two floors not spacious enough? And how good the rural environment is, the air is clear and quiet, which is like the noisy and traffic jam in the city. Even if the children have to go to school, there are now school buses in kindergartens.
My husband saw that his in-laws were so strongly opposed, and he didn't dare to say anything, I was angry.
In private, I asked my husband to persuade his in-laws again, but my husband was cowardly and couldn't be killed.
On the contrary, he came to persuade me that it would be good not to buy a house, because we now live at home, there are vegetable fields in the countryside, and the cost of eating and drinking is small. Besides, we still have to raise children, and there are many places to spend money in the future, so it's good to save money.
I retorted: So are we going to have so many people all the time, crammed into such a small house? Besides, there is only a kindergarten in the town, what will happen to elementary school, junior high school and high school in the future? Sooner or later, we still have to buy a house, and now while we still have a little spare money in our hands, wouldn't it be better to buy it as soon as possible?
It just so happens that the community I fancy has just opened, and the price is the most cost-effective compared to us.
My husband didn't say a word, probably he also knew that he had no reason to convince me, so he patronized and played with his mobile phone with his head down.
Seeing him like this, I knew that there was nothing to talk about. He listened to his in-laws with an iron heart. I had to sulk to myself.
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A few weeks later, my father-in-law suddenly came back with a new car and showed it off everywhere. I didn't take it seriously, and my in-laws didn't have the savings to buy a car.
That day, I took my children out for a walk, and when I met Aunt Luo from the same village, she pulled me to chat.
Chatting and chatting, Aunt Luo said: You and your husband are really filial, and you know that buying a car for your father-in-law is not a small amount of money. Unlike our children, we don't see anyone all year round, and we don't see a few gifts.
My brain buzzed, and I didn't listen to what Aunt Luo said later. After reacting, I immediately asked: How do you know that my father-in-law's car was bought by us.
Aunt Luo said: Who in the whole village doesn't know now, your father-in-law was that a few days ago. When I met people, I said that this car was bought by my eldest son, and everyone was envious.
I suddenly felt that I couldn't breathe in my chest. I had a perfunctory chat with Aunt Luo and went home.
When my husband came back at night, I immediately asked him what was going on with my father-in-law's car.
My husband said for a long time that my in-laws didn't want us to buy a house and move out, and they were afraid that I would never give up on buying a house. It just so happened that my father-in-law wanted to buy a car, so I asked my husband to pay for it.
My husband didn't dare to disobey, so he took 200,000 yuan from our savings to buy a car for my father-in-law in full, including insurance.
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Although I am in charge of the money at home, my husband also knows how much money is deposited at home, bank card passwords and so on.
After all, I think that the property between husband and wife is transparent and the level of trust is higher. I didn't think that my husband would take out so much at once behind my back.
I was immediately furious: Didn't you tell me to save money to raise children? What do you mean to be afraid that I will not give up, and I will be affectionate and stupid to believe you.
My husband said: That's my parents, they asked me for money to buy a car, and I didn't dare not agree. We are still young, and we can save money slowly.
I laughed angrily: You didn't discuss such a big matter with me, and now you just save it so lightly? For so long, as long as I have a disagreement with your parents, you will always listen to your parents, when will our small family be independent?
I can't stand it, I have to live in the shadow of your parents like this for the rest of my life. Since you listen to your parents so much, then we divorce, you go on with your life, and I will take my daughter away!
After that, I took the child back to my parents' house. In the past few days, my husband has been begging me, saying that he doesn't want a divorce.
I said: If we don't get a divorce, let my father-in-law give us 200,000. He also said that his in-laws had no money.
At this point, I'm too lazy for him to say more.
Anyway, I'm divorced when I'm married. Big deal, go through the legal route.