Charlie Munger once shared in a speech:
"The secret of my longevity is not to think too much of human nature. Human nature has many flaws, and if you are angry and disgusted, it is equivalent to punishing yourself. ”
The faint darkness of human nature is like a black hole, condensing huge dark energy.
Blindly competing with it will only continue to erode our hearts and make us physically and mentally exhausted.
The wiser a person is, the more he can accept the complexity of human nature. They don't use other people's mistakes to wear themselves down.
The rarest sobriety of adults is not to compete with human nature.
Put away the desire to show off, and don't expect others to bless you
A writer once said: "Many people can't see others living a good life, and if others have what they don't have, they will hate it." ”
When you are prosperous, don't expect others to bless you, and don't show off your accomplishments to others.
Because the dazzling light that emanates from your body is not only easy to stab others, but also to bring trouble to yourself.
A netizen once shared such a story.
Her friend Anna quit her job a few years ago and returned to her hometown to open a bakery.
Since she had been away from home for many years and did not know much about the development of the local area, Anna decided to learn from her friend Xiao Ding, who had studied baking together.
Unexpectedly, after listening to Anna's idea, Xiao Ding suggested that Anna go to City A next door to develop.
And tell Anna that she can introduce acquaintances and help Anna find a suitable façade.
After some consideration, Anna finally declined Xiao Ding's suggestion.
After some time, Anna opened a small bakery on her own.
Because of the novel taste and exquisite ingredients, the bakery's business is becoming more and more prosperous.
When the business was on the right track, Anna ran to tell Xiaoding the good news and share her joy.
Unexpectedly, it was not long before there were rumors that Anna's newly developed cooking kit copied the creative concept of a long-established local bakery.
And that old bakery is Xiaoding's shop.
But the shelf time of those plagiarized bread is a few days later than the new products of Anna's family.
When one of their mutual friends told Anna that it was actually Xiao Ding's doing, Anna couldn't help but feel a chill.
Dou Wentao once said in "Round Table Pie": "Even if you are a good friend, don't show it to each other." Once you start showing off yourself, it will make the other person feel uncomfortable and even provoke jealousy. ”
In this world, there are very few people who sincerely hope for your well, except for your loved ones.
Elevating oneself when others are not satisfactory will not only incur the disgust and disgust of others, but also bring some unnecessary trouble to oneself.
Those who are really smart know how to restrain their edge, hide but not reveale, and gain but not show.
Only by learning to be low-key and humble can we live a brilliant life in our own world.
Source: Visual China
Be compassionate and don't expect others to appreciate you
The writer Su Cen once said: "When there is no return for paying, when gentleness is not treated well, please restrain the deep affection that you don't care about, and be a person with little affection." ”
In life, there are always some "adult giant babies" who turn a blind eye to your efforts, and even try to pinch you everywhere.
The more accommodating we are, the more justified they become; The more we endure, the more they will gain an inch.
Whenever you get along with others too enthusiastically, you will only end up burning yourself.
Hong Kong director Wang Jing once had a friend named Li Jiaxiang.
Due to the financial turmoil, he was forced to lose his job. When he was desperate, he hoped that Wang Jing could help him find a job.
At that time, Wang Jing was directing and filming a police film.
The crew happened to lack a logistics staff, so Wang Jing invited Li Jiaxiang to take on this position.
Since then, Wang Jing has directed several films one after another, and Li Jiaxiang has served as the crew logistics.
Once, a new movie was about to start, and Li Jiaxiang approached Wang Jing and hoped to give him a role.
Wang Jing considered that Li Jiaxiang had no acting experience, so he advised him that if he felt that the logistics were not suitable, he could rearrange other jobs for him.
Unexpectedly, Li Jiaxiang was furious with Wang Jing in front of all the actors in the crew:
"The salary of doing logistics is too low, are you begging for food? If you don't help, forget it, don't pretend to be a good person! ”
As soon as he finished speaking, Li Jiaxiang walked away.
After that, he spread rumors about Wang Jing everywhere, saying that Wang Jing was a snob who only recognized money and did not recognize friends.
After only one failure to meet his requirements, Li Jiaxiang turned his face and denied anyone.
Not only did he completely forget Wang Jing's kindness to him before, but he also took revenge and maliciously spread rumors.
Writer Sanmao said: "Between friends, seek small things, go along with the water, and take it for granted; Asking too much and gaining an inch is the fastest shortcut to lose a friend. ”
In this world, not everyone is worthy of our heart, lungs, and sincerity.
Giving unconditionally will not only not feed a selfish and cold heart, but will also allow the other party to take advantage of the opportunity to stab you.
For those who are ungrateful and demanding, stay away when it's time to stay away, and turn your face when it's time to turn your face.
Only by grasping a good sense of proportion and establishing a good sense of boundaries can we have the energy to manage our lives well.
Source: Visual China
Cultivate self-healing power, and don't wait for others to redeem you
Someone on Zhihu asked: "What are the enlightening truths of life?" ”
A high praise replied, "Don't believe that others will be your salvation, but live as your own savior." ”
In life, we always encounter some sudden accidents.
When you're down, instead of expecting others to hold an umbrella for you, it's better to live under your own roof.
In the novel "The Lychee of Chang'an", when the sesame official Li Shande was drunk and confused, he was tricked by his boss Liu Zhiling into becoming a "lychee messenger".
Due to the special properties of lychees, they are not suitable for long-distance transportation at all. What's more, from Lingnan to Chang'an, there are no less than 5,000 miles of road.
He originally thought that he had obtained a good deal, but as everyone knows, it has become a life-urging talisman.
He angrily went to find Liu's order theory, but was dumbfounded by the other party;
When he was helpless, he hoped that his friend could lend a helping hand, but he was insulted by the other party.
If he fails to complete the task, not only will he be beheaded, but his wife and daughter will also be sold into slavery.
Li Shande, who was discouraged, realized that he had no one to rely on, and he could only rely on himself to complete the task.
So, he began to use his calculation skills to stay up all night pondering how to preserve the freshness of lychees and studying the optimal delivery route.
After trekking all the way through mountains and rivers and going through hardships to reach Lingnan, Li Shande not only did not get the cooperation of local officials, but was also beaten up by the people in charge.
Later, he finally found a way to cut the trunk of the lychee tree for transport, but was chased and killed on the way back to Beijing and almost died.
By the time he sent the lychee outside the gate of Chang'an, he was exhausted.
Fortunately, these fresh lychees finally won the smile of the concubine and the sage's laughter.
Because of the merit of sending lychees, Yang Guozhong promised him to be promoted to the third grade.
Márquez said: "The essence of life is to live alone, not to expect too much from others. ”
Human nature is all about good and avoiding harm, so don't overestimate your relationship with anyone.
No one will be our permanent supporter. When you're at a low point, don't imagine someone pulling you along.
If you want to be completely freed from the misery of life, you can only learn to be your own ferryman.
When we let go of dependence and learn to carry the lantern in the dark, we can usher in our own dawn.
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Writer Liu Yong once said: "Understanding human nature is not to make you indifferent and ruthless, but to remind you to think positively about life and have greater courage to face the world." ”
Your attitude towards human nature determines the height of life.
In reality, many people are confined to the evil of human nature and live themselves in a victim mode, stagnating.
A person's greatest maturity is nothing more than seeing the darkness of human nature, and not being easily coerced by human nature.
Gather the desire to show off and accumulate strength alone, so that you can relax to a certain extent;
Put away compassion and treat others with a ruler, and you will be able to be comfortable and calm;
Only by cultivating self-healing power and learning to cross oneself can one be fearless.
In the days to come, may you and I be able to gain insight into human nature, know the world but not the world, and live wisely and soberly.
Source: Visual China
Author: Si Tian, into the red dust and storms, return to tranquility and ease, come and go freely, and be happy at ease.