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Women always want to keep their marriage, so they will do everything they can to keep their partner's heart.
In fact, a good marriage is always about mutual achievement, rather than one party giving and one party taking.
A woman's best marriage is not to have money and feelings, but to hold three cards in her hand, and happiness will come naturally.
01: The courage to stop losses in time
Of course, we have to take responsibility for our marriage and do our best to maintain it, but we must never give up our dignity and make compromises.
No one will always have smooth sailing in a relationship, stumbling will always occur, whether you can resolve the conflict, continue to love each other is the ability, be able to stop the loss in time, and have the courage to leave the relationship that makes you tired is also the ability.
Some injuries don't disappear with time, they are like a thorn that always sticks to the heart, and it hurts to touch it or not.
Such a marriage means that there is a rift, even if there is emotional reluctance or financial inindependence, you can't always go against the grain, one is mentally unbearable, and the other is unnecessary.
It's not that you have to argue with each other, but to keep yourself awake, make decisions that are really good for you, and face the reality bravely after confirming it, end the marriage, and stay away from harm.
You may encounter frustration, you may be temporarily strained, and you may not even be able to keep your children around, but you must have the awareness to think about yourself first and treat life with a more rational way of thinking.
Keeping your voice down will not buy respect and happiness, and in order to avoid greater losses, you must encourage yourself to start over.
02: The strength to leave at any time
The contemporary way of marriage is long different from the past, and women should not be bound by any constraints and constraints, have the strength to leave at any time, and must not lose themselves and lose their independence.
This independence includes both economic and spiritual independence.
Economic independence is the confidence to ensure one's autonomy in life, and spiritual independence is the support for one's own ideological and operational ability.
Not being oppressed by family affection and not being bound by marriage is the foundation of a person's soul freedom, and it is also the guarantee of whether or not they can live well.
To maintain this strength in marriage is to hold the decision-making power of happiness tightly in your hands, and when the marriage goes well, it will make each other feel relaxed and icing on the cake; When a marriage falls apart, it allows itself to come and go freely.
Of course, this is not to let female friends keep a hand in everything, to guard against their husbands like wicked people, but to leave some leeway for themselves and one more choice, and this margin and choice require us to have a certain amount of wealth and self-reliance.
03: The ability to keep happiness
Happiness in no marriage comes naturally, and it requires the hard work and dedication of both parties.
Many women have happiness at the beginning of marriage is self-evident, and with the passage of time, this happiness will gradually fade, when they come to the end of the road, they still blindly complain that their husbands have changed, but they don't know that they themselves do not have the ability to hold happiness.
First of all, a happy marriage must have good communication, deep understanding, and business wisdom between husband and wife.
A woman who is happily married must know how to communicate with her partner, understand each other's needs and feelings very well, and know how to find each other's shining points in ordinary life, so that each other can shine in each other's hearts.
Secondly, in the face of contradictions and conflicts in marriage, you will accept them peacefully, after all, there are no two people who have never had a disagreement.
It's not scary to have different ideas, it's scary not to be completely resolved.
Even if there is a quarrel at the head of the bed and the end of the bed, you must open your hearts to each other, speak your heart, and give each other sincere understanding.
Third, adults are also growing up every day, and if husband and wife are willing to advance and retreat together, and become each other's praise and followers, then such a marriage will definitely be affectionate and long-lasting.
Of course, how a woman keeps her property is also a kind of wisdom, neither too frugal nor too extravagant, enjoying life to the fullest, and it is also a way to take life seriously.
Marriage is a major life event, and it is even more meaningful for women.
It is not simply two people living together, but achieving each other, moving forward side by side, if they can't get along with each other, it is better to be okay with each other.
Many people say that the bottom line of marriage is loyalty, so the bottom line of happiness is oneself.
It's not to be loyal, but to be happy.
Happiness is always a very private perception, it is "when I think of you, I will laugh", and it is also "when I think of you, you will laugh".
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