I wondered, how can there still be people living in primitive societies?
Recently, I brushed up on a comment, which roughly means that Guangdong, Guangxi and other places belonged to the Nanban region in ancient times, so people in these places say that the people in these places are brave and fierce, and if they say that they are bad, they are barbaric and cruel, and they are rude.
However, equating this term with barbaric backwardness is clearly a misunderstanding of the culture of the region.
I don't know if this is a deliberate smear or what, have you ever been to the Liangguang area?
As a native of Guangxi, I have to say something about what I see for Guangxi.
In fact, in the Liangguang region, we hardly see some of the bad habits that are prevalent in other places.
There is no sky-high bride price
In today's society, I dare to say that the sky-high bride price can be regarded as a bad habit.
Because many couples who are obviously very in love with each other do not become husband and wife, it is because of the so-called sky-high bride price.
However, in the Liangguang region, marriage is seen as an emotional union of two people, rather than a monetary transaction.
In many places, there is not even such a thing as a bride price, and even if there is, it will be very low, and it will definitely not be outrageous to hundreds of thousands.
Therefore, sky-high bride prices are not a common phenomenon here.
The people of Liangguang do not regard "marrying" their daughters as "selling their daughters", they only value whether the south is sincere to their daughters.
Therefore, the people in the two regions pay more attention to the emotional foundation and mutual respect of both parties in marriage, rather than the accumulation of material conditions.
They believe that a true marriage should be based on mutual understanding, support, and love, rather than a bride price to measure each other's worth.
This rational concept of marriage makes the wedding in the Liangguang region more pure and beautiful, and also reflects the respect and cherishment of the local people for marriage.
In practice, parents in the Liangguang region will respect their children's choices and encourage them to prepare for their weddings according to their own wishes and abilities.
They will not pursue the amount of bride price excessively, but pay more attention to the ritual sense and emotional expression of the wedding.
At the same time, young men and women in the Liangguang region will also prepare for their weddings through their own efforts, rather than relying too much on their parents' sponsorship.
This independent and rational concept of marriage makes the wedding in the Liangguang region more loving and warm.
There are no marriage troubles
I used to see some news about marriage troubles in other regions on the Internet.
For example, some people use transparent glue to tie the groom to a tree, and in some places there is even a saying that the heavier the fight during the marriage, the greater the blessing.
What's more, many people take the opportunity to harass bridesmaids and brides in the name of marriage troubles, all kinds of vulgar "whole work", and some places even kill the groom by mistake because of the group marriage of relatives and friends, which directly turns the festive wedding banquet into a tragedy.
But in the Liangguang region, the wedding is regarded as a solemn and sacred ceremony, rather than a carnival and farce.
As a result, marriage troubles are not common here.
The local people pay attention to etiquette and civility at weddings, respect the feelings of the couple and guests, and do not engage in meaningless fights and plays.
They believe that a wedding should be a moment full of blessings and touches, not an occasion full of embarrassment and discomfort.
At the wedding, guests from the Liangguang region will behave appropriately and respect the wishes and privacy of the couple.
They will send blessings and gifts at the right time to show their concern and blessings for the couple.
At the same time, the local people will also create a warm and romantic wedding atmosphere in various ways, so that both the couple and the guests can feel happiness and joy.
This civilized wedding custom reflects the respect and cherishment of marriage by the people of the two regions.
There was no car to stop the wedding
Xiaobian is a native of Yulin, Guangxi, and I never knew where there would be a custom of "stopping a wedding car" in Guangxi.
Xiaobian learned from the Internet that the original intention of stopping the wedding car was to stop the wedding car and ask the groom for red envelopes, candy, etc., the purpose was to please a good fortune.
However, in many places, the custom of stopping wedding cars has begun to deteriorate and gradually become a bad habit.
Because the purpose of the people who stopped the wedding car was not pure, they already regarded the wedding car as a "way to get rich", and even some groups stopped the wedding car, and the groom did not let him go if the money was not enough, which is really a bit excessive.
However, in the Liangguang region, the bad habit of stopping a wedding car is almost non-existent.
I have lived for decades, attended weddings in so many places, and have never seen a wedding car.
Therefore, the people of the Liangguang region respect the wishes and privacy of the newlyweds, and will not make senseless obstructions on the wedding day.
They believe that a wedding is a time of blessing and joy that should be carried out smoothly for the couple to complete this important ceremony.
At the same time, the local people will also consciously abide by the traffic rules and will not arbitrarily intercept the wedding car or create traffic jams.
This kind of civilized traffic habit not only reflects the respect and support of the people in the two regions for the wedding, but also shows their civilization and public awareness.
酒席不抢菜
I can always see some videos on the Internet, which are about eating banquets in rural areas in some areas, but there is not a single dish on the table, the dishes are not put away, and the people at the table have begun to frantically grab the dishes and eat.
And I dare to say that the table culture and banquet culture in the Liangguang region must be very civilized, because in the rural banquet, there will be no one to grab the food, although the dishes are also one by one, but everyone will always eat slowly, not in a hurry at all.
If you grab vegetables, it is estimated that you will be laughed at by the whole village for a lifetime.
The people of Guangxi and Guangxi pay attention to etiquette and civilization at the banquet, abide by the dining order, and will not grab food or make noise at will.
They believe that the banquet is a time to exchange feelings and enhance friendships, and that a harmonious and harmonious atmosphere should be maintained.
At the banquet, the people of the two Guangxi areas will take the food in order according to the seating order, and will not cut the queue or grab food at will.
And I believe that many family elders in the Liangguang area will teach you that when you eat, you should sandwich the dish in front of you, not the one in front of others; When others are picking up vegetables, your chopsticks can't be pinched on top of them; When picking vegetables, don't turn them over, pick and choose, etc.
Therefore, it is impossible to grab vegetables in the Liangguang area, everyone is used to eating big fish and meat in the Liangguang area, and the banquet sees all kinds of dishes, but also tastes it slowly, and even a table full of dishes after eating the banquet as if it has not been moved, such as some buckle meat or something, everyone is sandwiched to see a piece of fat and do not move.
It's not because it's not delicious, but because many of the dishes are usually eaten, so I'm used to it.
After eating, the rest of the dishes, people in the two Guangxi areas will also choose to pack, when packing, everyone will ask each other what dishes everyone wants, if they want it, they will share it equally, and they will not grab it at all.
Preface
Therefore, if you say that the Liangguang region is barbaric and rude, I am the first to be unconvinced, what is the basis for your conclusions?
On the contrary, the people in the Liangguang region have shown a civilized and rational attitude in marriage, etiquette, etc.
They respect the essence of marriage, pay attention to etiquette and civility, and observe social norms and public order.
And in addition, in Guangxi, many drivers will give way to pedestrians, so that you can cross the road with a sense of safety, which is something that many regions can't do.
Therefore, we should abandon prejudices and misunderstandings about the two regions and view the development and changes in the region from a more objective and comprehensive perspective.