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As the old saying goes, "Men are afraid of entering the wrong industry, and women are afraid of marrying the wrong man." ”
In marriage, choosing the right partner is extremely important, a good partner reduces the pain of life, and a bad partner makes people go to hell.
Choosing a partner is not only about choosing a person, but also about choosing a state of life.
Nearly 50 years old, if the husband is still trapped in the following three states, it is undoubtedly the biggest misfortune in the second half of his life.
1
The ability is not big, and the temper is not small
In the Analects of Confucius, it is said: "The superior people have the ability and have no temper; Middle-class people have the ability and temper; Inferior people have no ability and temper. ”
Some men are mediocre in ability but have great tempers.
Such husbands often bring strife and pain to the family in their marriages.
The man whispered outside, went home to show off his power to his wife, and got angry when it didn't go his way.
Like a powder keg, it is about to explode, making the family atmosphere tense and depressing.
A bad temper hurts the wife's heart, and there will be cracks in the marriage.
Marriage should be a safe haven for women, not a "legal cage".
A man who is truly capable respects and cherishes his wife, not an object to vent his emotions.
If a wife can be cared for and respected by her husband, the family will be harmonious and happy.
As the old saying goes: "A wife is like a drum." ”
A harmonious family brings good luck and blessings to the family, so that members can grow together in a warm atmosphere.
A wise woman should not lose her bottom line in tolerating her husband's bad temper.
Learn to strive for your own happiness and be brave in your own decisions, so that you can maintain your independence and dignity in marriage and have your own happiness.
2
Big things don't matter, small things are counted
There is a cloud in the Analects: "A gentleman is a gentleman, and he is born from the beginning." ”
Truly wise people who focus on the root issues and don't dwell on trivial things.
When people reach middle age, they should understand the road of life and have the wisdom and courage to assume family and social responsibilities.
But many men in their fifties have lost their way and are unable to shelter their families from the elements, and their wives are under tremendous pressure and grief.
Faced with important life decisions, hesitation, cowering, and even avoiding and withdrawing. Daily trivial matters are taken care of.
This pattern of behavior makes the wife feel isolated and exacerbates the conflict and estrangement between the husband and wife.
The husband is the pillar of the family, and the wife and children rely on.
But the husband evaded and retreated at a critical moment, and the fate of the family was in jeopardy.
The wife supported half the sky with her weak shoulders and faced the challenges of life alone.
This kind of sorrow is not only about material scarcity and hardship, but also about the loneliness and helplessness of the soul.
A mature man should have a big-picture perspective and decisiveness.
Be able to stand up at a critical moment and shelter your family from the elements.
Instead of worrying about small things, let the wife spend her youth in endless quarrels.
3
I only know how to ask, but I don't know how to be grateful
The ancients said: "The grace of a drop of water should be reciprocated by a spring." ”
Be grateful for the help and kindness of others and do your best to reciprocate it.
However, some men forget this in their married life.
They only know how to ask for love and dedication from their wives, but they never know how to cherish and be grateful.
As a matter of course, he enjoys his wife's dedication and never wants to give the same love and care.
This unbalanced marital relationship makes the wife tired and disappointed, and the family loses warmth and harmony.
The wife's marriage is meaningless, and the husband's indifference and selfishness make the marriage tasteless.
In the face of a husband who only knows how to ask and does not know how to be grateful, the wife feels helpless and sad.
They are not recognized and appreciated for their heart-to-heart efforts, and their husbands' selfishness and indifference make them tired and desperate.
In the face of a husband who only knows how to ask but does not know how to be grateful, the wife should adjust her mentality and learn to let go of the bearishness appropriately.
Marriage requires both parties to pay, the husband is not grateful, and the wife does not have to blindly accommodate.
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A woman's greatest sorrow is not in material deprivation, but in her husband's mental defects.
If the husband is still in the above state at the age of fifty, it is the greatest mental torture for the wife.
True happiness is not the pursuit of showing off on the outside, but the inner satisfaction and tranquility.
If you have a loving family, you should cherish and be grateful.
Walking hand in hand is a love commitment and a family responsibility.
May everyone meet people who know how to cherish, be grateful and give.
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