Lin Qingxuan said: "Nine times out of ten, if you don't want to do things in life, you often think about one or two, don't think about eight or nine, everything goes well." ”
On the bumpy road of life, everyone will encounter challenges, which we cannot anticipate in advance. But the more positive and joyful the person, the more happiness he will receive.
Wise middle-aged women are likely to be able to better control their fate, keep themselves at peace, and slowly achieve the small goals they have set, and they will feel very content in their hearts.
And the woman with a sad face, some of the bad luck was actually found by herself.
Women who have passed the age of 40, and these 2 states, have mostly bumpy and miserable fate.
01: Excessive negativity and pessimism
In the book "Living Soberly", it is written: "The real source of the problem is not life itself, but the confusion that the mind causes to life." ”
Whether your interpretation of your situation is positive or pessimistic determines what kind of life you will live.
When a woman reaches middle age, she still likes to catastrophize small things, or is used to immersing herself in portraying herself as a tragic figure, then this life is destined to be painful, and fate is often more likely to be bumpy.
In fact, everyone will encounter problems, and those women who live happily and freely are not always lucky, but more because their hearts are more positive.
Even in the face of great pressure and challenges, always maintain peace of mind and try to find positive solutions.
It will not let negative emotions affect the judgment and decision-making ability of the moment. A middle-aged woman with this ability must be rich and noble, even if there is no man and marriage, life must be wonderful.
On the contrary, at this age, there are still overly negative and pessimistic habits of women, and most of them are unable to control their own destiny.
In fact, their lives don't need to go through so many twists and turns, but because of their inherent way of thinking, they will lack strength and courage.
Misfortune in life often comes from a negative state of mind.
If you don't change, you will live a miserable and tangled life for the rest of your life. Whether it's a marriage or a career, it's hard to get the results you really want.
02: Don't love yourself, don't accept yourself
The amount of energy you have within you can bring as much blessing to your life.
A woman who doesn't love herself and doesn't accept herself, no matter how hard she tries, it's hard to feel good in life.
They are unprincipled, easily lose themselves in their relationships, and unconditionally condone their partner's wrong behavior.
You look down on yourself from the heart, think that you are worthless, and need to humble to cater to others, a woman in such a state, her fate must be bumpy.
When you don't accept yourself, you will have serious internal friction and fall into self-denial.
Middle-aged women who still have this habit find it difficult to take responsibility for their own lives, will waver when making decisions, and will care a lot about the evaluation of others.
Not loving yourself and not accepting yourself is the beginning of life's suffering.
Maybe you've experienced a lot of unfair treatment and haven't experienced what true love feels like.
But now that you have grown up, you don't need to feel inferior anymore, you have the ability to meet your own needs, and you are valuable.
You are never worse than others, and in such a bad environment, you have not become a bad person with a dark heart, and even retain good intentions, so you are good enough.
Most of the women who are truly favored by God love themselves very much and can bring themselves a sense of happiness and joy.
If you find that you are 40 years old, and there are still these 2 states, you must change, otherwise your fate will be mostly bumpy and miserable.
Even with good cards in hand, it is difficult to end up living the life that your heart desires.
Only a middle-aged woman who can truly awaken can change her fate and live up to her beautiful life.