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| In the courtyard of Gu Xuchang's house, children and adults are playing games. Photo by Gu Xuchang |
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| Chen Jing (first from left) and her family are reading a book in the park. Photo courtesy of the interviewee |
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| Han Shuxiu (right) and Xue Kui rest on the road to patrol the border. Photo by Lu Hongyan |
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| Ni Bochang (second from left) and Chen Yulan (third from left) distribute leaflets to villagers. Photo courtesy of the interviewee |
General Secretary Xi Jinping emphasized that "the family is the basic cell of society and the first school of life. No matter how much the times have changed, no matter how much the pattern of life has changed, we must attach importance to family building, family, family education, and family style."
Data shows that there are currently more than 400 million households in the mainland. Family education and family style construction is not only a family affair, but also a national affair, family harmony, good family education, and good family style, children can grow up healthily, and society can develop healthily. In recent years, with the promotion of various regions and departments, fruitful results have been achieved in the construction of family education and family style in mainland families, and the new trend of socialist family civilization of loving the country and family, loving each other, striving for goodness, and jointly building and sharing has taken root. On the occasion of the International Day of Families on May 15, let's meet the stories of 4 families who have passed on good family education and cultivated good family culture.
-- The editor
Gu Xuchang's family has five generations of love and affection
"Loved ones are happy to get together often"
After a light rain, the leaves on the trees are bright green. In the courtyard of a family in Ludian County, Yunnan Province, red and pink roses bloom one after another. With a sound of "open the meal", Gu Xuchang and his family took the bowl and chopsticks, and after a while, many dishes on the table bottomed out......
During the "May Day" holiday, more than 70 people gathered in the small courtyard. "Relatives often get together very happily, everyone eats and chats together, and the atmosphere is very good." Gu Xuchang said, "There are more people during the New Year!" ”
Gu Xuchang is the second generation of the family, with five generations of the same family, 28 small families, and more than 100 people. "There are so many people in our family, can we hold an 'annual meeting'?" In 2009, at the suggestion of Gu Xuchang's nephew Gu Wulin, a large family held the first "family annual meeting" on the second day of the Lunar New Year.
The small courtyard used to be lived by Gu Xuchang's father, and although the earthen tile house was dilapidated, it carried the memories of many people. "My father was an elementary school teacher, and when we were young, he used the exterior wall of the house as a blackboard to teach us to read and write." Gu Xuchang said that attaching importance to education is a good family style inherited from his parents.
The first "family annual meeting" was held on the concrete floor of the small courtyard, and everyone sat around the courtyard wall to watch the performance. In 2019, the three brothers Gu Xuchang funded the renovation of the small courtyard and built a 4-story building, and the "family annual meeting" moved into the living room.
At the "Family Annual Meeting", "Outstanding Family" was also selected, and some awards were set. "Our selection ceremony is full ......of feelings, and there are award speeches," Gu Xuchang said, "We hope to use these activities as a carrier to pass on the good family style from generation to generation." ”
Last summer, everyone came up with the idea of "starting a training camp". Not only do the children have to complete their schoolwork in the small courtyard, but they also learn to make dumplings, stir-fry vegetables, and do laundry. Gu Xuchang's niece Gu Junmin said: "After returning from the 'training camp', my son has become more self-conscious, not only consciously reading and doing homework, but also helping his parents with housework. ”
"The old have compassion, and the little has filial piety; Have good thoughts, thrift to cultivate virtue ......" room, a family motto written with a brush hangs on the wall. Outside the house, the skipping rope was shaken in the small courtyard, and adults and children went into battle together, full of laughter......
Chen Jing's family grew up together in the fragrance of books
"Reading is the best way to spend time with children"
"Let's start reading!" At 9 o'clock in the evening, Chen Jing finished her housework and beckoned her husband He Weijie and her two daughters to pick up their books on the bookshelf, sit around in the living room, and read and share. Such parent-child time is common in Chen Jing's home, a citizen of Rongchang District, Chongqing. Two post-80s and two post-10s, a family reading sharing meeting once a week, and a family wish book list every year...... The family grows together in the fragrance of books.
In the couple's bedroom, there is a large floor-to-ceiling three-door bookcase, and at the head of the children's bed are bamboo baskets for books. "You can put the books you read recently in it and read them before you go to bed." Chen Jing said that there are also books on the coffee table and dining table at home, and you can flip through them when you want to read them.
"Reading is the best way to spend time with your child." Chen Jing introduced that they focus on using interesting ways to improve children's interest in reading. On weekend evenings, the couple often organizes "family poetry conferences", where the two of them are a group of "poems", one group talks about the title of Tang poems, and the other group recites the corresponding poems.
Another time, a family of four played the role of a character in the picture book "Guess How Much I Love You". "Usually we are not embarrassed to express love, but that time, everyone was immersed in it, expressed feelings for each other, and the relationship became more harmonious." Chen Jing said.
In the past few years, Chen Jing and He Weijie have taken their two children out for a walk whenever they have time to see the beautiful rivers and mountains and cultural attractions mentioned in the book.
The Dujiangyan water conservancy project mentioned in the book aroused the children's interest. However, before going out, Chen Jing assigned "homework" to the children: why build Dujiangyan? What is the principle of Dujiangyan? What did Li Bing and his son do? …… By doing a good job of "previewing", the children felt more deeply when they visited, and their interest in reading became stronger when they returned home.
Last year, the family toured the Great Wall and the Forbidden City in Beijing, and watched the flag-raising ceremony, and the children's excitement was palpable. After returning home, the couple "struck while the iron was hot" and bought some history books, so that the children could further understand the long history and splendid culture of the Chinese nation.
Since 2020, Chen Jing and He Weijie have regularly held family education public welfare sharing activities, and also organized small reading sharing salons in the community to exchange reading experiences with neighbors, recommend and exchange books. "We want to make the fragrance of books drift farther and let more families enjoy the joy of reading." Chen Jing said.
Han Shuxiu's family has been patrolling the border for more than 50 years
"We know that only when there is a country can there be a home"
On this day, Han Shuxiu took the law leaflet and walked east with his wife Xue Kui, until he walked to a yellow sand dirt road...... The couple are villagers of Dongdachuan Village, Sanchakou Town, Dongning City, Heilongjiang Province, and are also local border guards. This winding road has witnessed the warmth of the old couple from green silk to white hair for more than 50 years.
In 1971, 23-year-old Xue Kui married 19-year-old Shandong girl Han Shuxiu, although the living conditions were difficult, the couple always supported each other. Xue Kui has stomach problems, and sometimes he can't work when he hurts, so Han Shuxiu makes noodle soup for her husband to nourish his stomach. At that time, flour was scarce, and she was reluctant to eat a bite herself. Xue Kui is not good at expressing himself, but he has his own way of expressing his feelings, and when he went to work in the field, he found mountain grapes and pears, so he picked them back and brought them to his wife.
"We can't talk about too profound truths, but we know that only when there is a country can there be a home." Han Shuxiu said that when they first got married, the local police proposed to them to help guard the border and protect the border, and the couple agreed without hesitation.
With mosquitoes in summer and heavy snowstorms in winter, the couple worked with the police to publicize border regulations, stop illegal hunting, and repair damaged facilities in addition to agricultural production...... In 53 years, they have patrolled more than 100,000 kilometers.
In the memory of the eldest daughter Xue Honglan, the busy figure of her mother is sometimes patrolling the side road, sometimes beside the cooking pot. The meal time of the police on duty is not fixed, and Han Shuxiu always cooks for them at any time. In the summer, the picture of Han Shuxiu waving the back of her sweaty clothes with a spatula was deeply left in Xue Honglan's mind.
It's another ordinary day, it's still the yellow sand road, and the couple has one more person by their side. The third son, Xue Lianjun, often accompanies his parents to patrol the border after work. Under the words and deeds of Han Shuxiu and Xue Kui, the children are also helpful and often do good things within their ability. Once, when his second son Xue Liangang was on his way home, he encountered a villager who was injured in a car accident, and he took the initiative to stop the car and take the villager to the hospital, and did not leave quietly until the injured person turned safe; In winter, when the mountain road is icy and difficult to drive, Xue Lianjun throws fine sand or furnace ash on the road to prevent passing vehicles from skidding...... "Our parents have taught us to talk about dedication and love since we were young, and we must pass on this good family style." Xue Lianjun said.
Ni Bocang's family has been serving the villagers for more than 10 years
"As long as the villagers are in need, we are willing to do more"
When I came to the home of Ni Bocang, a grid member in Miaoji Village, Haifu Town, Qidong City, Jiangsu Province, from a distance, this row of bungalows was not conspicuous, but when I got closer, it was eye-catching.
There is a row of billboards in front of the house, and except for the 3 self-occupied rooms, the rest of the rooms have been converted into public activity spaces. The second room on the east side is the "Family Law Popularization Station", which displays relevant newspapers and books; The three rooms on the south side are grid activity rooms, etc., which are equipped with computers, televisions, projectors, conference tables and chairs......
In 2012, Qidong City implemented grid management, and villager Ni Bocang became a grid worker. From repairing faucets and changing light bulbs, to lawsuits and building houses, he responds to his needs.
At the beginning, his wife Chen Yulan complained a little: "I can't take care of things at home." So, Ni Bocang got up early every day to do housework and farm work, and then went to work in the village when he was done.
"Lao Ni is amazing!" Ni Bocang's efforts have won the recognition of the villagers and the support of Chen Yulan. After returning home in the evening, Ni Bocang recorded the day's work. Chen Yulan silently helped her husband adjust the table lamp and pour a glass of water. Accompanied by Chen Yulan, Ni Bocang wrote down 49 "diaries of people's feelings" with a total of more than 120 words.
Gradually, Chen Yulan also participated in Ni Bocang's work. Once, when a family had a conflict, Chen Yulan was responsible for the work of her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and Ni Bocang was responsible for her son's work. "She is emotional, I am reasonable, and the two of us cooperate with each other." Ni Bocang said with a smile.
Mediation inevitably encounters misunderstandings, but they never care. One year on Chinese New Year's Eve, a villager came to the door because they were dissatisfied with the mediation results. This incident made Ni Bocang feel very guilty, and Chen Yulan comforted him and said: "A little twist and turn, don't take it to heart." ”
Over the past 10 years, the couple has solved more than 1,200 problems for villagers and successfully mediated more than 1,000 conflicts and disputes. The villagers affectionately call them "Ni Jiabo" and "Ni Family's Mother". "As long as the villagers are in need, we are willing to do more." Ni Bocang said.
Source: People's Daily