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Ordering food is a test of interpersonal skills
At a dinner party, you've had a moment when you ask the other person about their taste preferences and the other person responds with an understatement, "whatever you want."
However, when the dishes are served one by one according to your choice, the seemingly indifferent attitude quietly changes, and dissatisfaction with certain dishes is revealed.
I once went out dining with a friend, and when I was ordering food, he was immersed in the world of mobile phones and left the choice to me, claiming that he had no special requirements.
Based on this, I carefully selected three dishes, but two of them did not suit his liking - one was explicitly rejected by him,
The other was at odds with his taste preferences.
He tried the food, his face disappointed, and I was embarrassed, as if all the unhappiness of the meal was caused by me.
Since then, we've never shared table time alone.
Sometimes, a friend's "casualness" may be a sincere concession, but ordering food is not an easy task, and many factors need to be considered.
Faced with a dazzling menu, the difficulty of choosing quietly hits, and even if you read it repeatedly, you still feel undecided.
As a result, the table often staged a drama of resignation, and the trivial matters that could have been decided quickly were delayed for more than ten minutes due to the continuous passing of the menu, and the conclusion was still not settled.
Gradually, I realized that ordering food is not only a test of taste buds, but also a litmus test of social intelligence.
Those who never take the initiative to order food tend to be on the defensive in social situations;
Conversely, those who are happy and good at ordering food tend to be equally comfortable in interpersonal interactions.
Being able to order accurately and make everyone at the table happy is not only an ability, but also an art.
People with this ability can demonstrate excellent communication skills and an extensive network of contacts, both in their daily lives and in their professional lives.
Knowing one's heart and understanding oneself starts with a meal
Some netizens shared such a life episode.
A new neighbor moved in next door to his house, and when he moved, he gave him a little help to help him.
As a token of appreciation, his neighbor warmly invited him to dinner, but he was inconvenient to refuse, so he gladly went.
However, as soon as he entered the door, a strong aroma of chili peppers instantly smoked his eyes red.
In the center of the dining table, a pot of red and bright spicy hot pot is boiling, overflowing with heat and spicy fragrance.
It turned out that the family was spicy, and eating around the fireplace in winter was a warm scene.
It's a pity that the neighbors didn't take into account that this netizen is from a water town in the south of the Yangtze River, prefers sweets, and is quite sensitive to spicy.
As a result, netizens had to reluctantly taste it, and after dinner, discomfort followed, and there was a dull pain in the stomach.
From the neighbor's point of view, the move is a form of hospitality, full of delicious food and full of heart.
But in the feelings of netizens, this dinner has become an embarrassing and unpleasant experience, and even a hint of disappointment.
In the same way, daily dining gatherings face similar challenges.
It is selfish to act only on personal tastes and preferences and ignore the feelings of others.
Although the dining table is small, the knowledge is not shallow.
A person with a delicate mind can always be delicate and thoughtful during meals, taking into account everyone's mood.
When ordering, they take into account everyone's tastes and preferences;
When adopting the AA system, we will also be considerate of others' economic conditions and consumption views;
Even if it is a banquet for others, they will choose the dishes moderately, neither extravagant nor shabby, and grasp the proportions and just right.
It can be seen that food is not only to satisfy the appetite, but also to show the art of interpersonal communication.
An order at the table is not only a choice of food, but also a transmission of heart.
People who know how to order food tend to have a delicate sense of proportion when dealing with things, and they are good at finding a balance in various situations to avoid causing discomfort or embarrassment to anyone.
Every stroke on the à la carte menu is a careful consideration of the needs of others.
This ability is actually the embodiment of high emotional intelligence - the ability to put yourself in the shoes of others, starting from the tastes and preferences of others, to create a warm and harmonious dining atmosphere.
A master who is good at ordering food and knows everything can always inadvertently enhance his image in the hearts of others.
Their intentions, expressed silently through plates of delicacies, make the table a warm place to enhance emotions.
Therefore, to develop the habit of being considerate of others from small things, you may want to start by taking every order seriously.
Let every dinner become a spiritual nourishment, and deepen mutual understanding and connection from the process of sharing delicious food.
In short, a la carte is small, but it can show great wisdom and warm people's hearts.
It is not only responsible for the taste buds, but also the art of delicate maintenance of interpersonal relationships.
What is eaten is the meal, and what is exposed is the layer
Ordering food, this daily behavior, inadvertently reflects the individual's cultivation and level.
Writer Li Yue shared an experience: during a business trip, a local friend invited her to dinner in an elegant restaurant full of specialties she had never tried.
A friend politely asked her to order, but she hesitated for a moment and chose only one green dish, leaving the rest for her friend to decide.
However, her friend was very enthusiastic and insisted that she order more.
The conundrum ensues:
First, they are not familiar with the dishes in the restaurant, and they have no way of knowing what a delicacy is;
The second is that I don't know the budget scope of my friend, and I am worried that I will not order food carelessly or be too shabby, which is not what I want.
After some consideration, she reluctantly ordered three dishes, but unexpectedly, her friend bluntly said that it was not beautiful, and all of them were replaced immediately.
Li Yue was deeply puzzled, why did she enthusiastically invite a la carte at first, but finally rejected it entirely?
In this colourful world of food, it's only natural that you haven't seen certain dishes.
The embodiment of high emotional intelligence lies in being able to understand and take the initiative to resolve the embarrassment when encountering others who do not know a certain dish, rather than ignoring or even embarrassing them.
"A glimpse of the whole leopard, a look of the essence of the essence."
Those who are advanced know how to respect the choices of others, do not inflate themselves, and are not selfish and narrow-minded.
They have a high level of emotional intelligence and are always attentive to their surroundings at the dinner table, not just for their own enjoyment.
The demeanor and etiquette during the meal reveal a person's inner connotation in words.
The improvement of the level is often reflected in the table culture.
Dining with them is always a pleasure and respect.
There's no doubt that being good at ordering food can significantly increase the perception of you.
First of all, clarify who you are entertaining.
As a host, you need to know who your guests are: work partners, close friends, lovers, or family?
Different audiences point to different restaurant choices, which in turn influence the style of cuisine – whether it's a formal banquet or a home-cooked meal, everything depends on the trend.
Secondly, take into account the taste preferences of each guest.
When ordering, it's important to take into account the preferences of everyone in the room, young and old.
Make sure the menu has both kids' favourites and grown-up favorites.
Even if someone asks for something that doesn't require special consideration, your unsolicited inquiry is still a necessary courtesy, and there is a fundamental difference between the two.
In addition, the order should be modest.
If someone else is the host, you should order in the right amount and at a moderate price, with one or two dishes sufficient, and a preference for low to medium prices.
Because, you can't know exactly what the host's budget is, and over-ordering can lead to embarrassment.
Finally, share a practical tip.
If you're hesitant to face the crowd, ask the waiter about the store's specialties and recommendations.
What's more, knowing in advance the right amount of recommended dishes to ensure that you can meet your taste needs and avoid food waste is a detail that shows your thoughtfulness and thoughtfulness.
"The people take food as the sky", this ancient saying profoundly reflects the important position of food in Chinese culture, which is not only for the needs of the stomach, but also contains profound humanistic feelings and social art.
Although the meal is small, the character is big.
A meal can often subtly reflect an individual's character and emotional intelligence.
Because, between this square inch of dining table, every detail is a true portrayal of personal cultivation.
Those who are good at ordering food are as careful as a hair and have deep feelings.
They are adept at reading between the lines of the menu, capturing the preferences and taboos of each tablemate, ensuring that everyone can find their own share of satisfaction and joy in the meal.
Such delicacy and thoughtfulness are by no means accidental, but deeply rooted in the kindness and thoughtfulness of the heart.
The art of ordering food reflects social wisdom.
Accurately grasping the mood and atmosphere of the table not only makes a meal delicious, but also makes the social occasion more harmonious.
Every carefully arranged selection of dishes is a careful care for interpersonal relationships, and others may not say it, but they have already praised it silently in their hearts.
The details highlight the real chapter.
At the dinner table, every subtle choice and consideration is a silent display of self-image.
It's not just about the quality of the meal, it's also a direct reflection of personal taste and thoughtfulness.
Therefore, becoming the person who can order food is not only to add a bit of brilliance to the table, but also to interpret the charm of high emotional intelligence on the stage of life, which naturally attracts and wins the love and respect of others.