The most difficult thing in life is not how to live, but how to behave. No matter how difficult life is, you can always go on, but if you can't be a person, you will not be able to move an inch, so the biggest problem in life is how to be a person who can be like a fish in water in this society.
But the answer to this difficult problem often takes people to middle age before they slowly know the answer.
Because at this time, we have passed the ignorance of childhood, the youthful and vigorous publicity, suffered hardships, also stumbled, seen smiling tigers, and seen lost dogs, the grinding of life, little by little taught us how to behave!
When we live to a certain age, we know that when we interact with people, we should pretend.
The first is: when people are developed, they must pretend to be ordinary.
Interpersonal communication, whether it is an acquaintance, or the first time you meet, in fact, it is difficult to grasp the character of the other party, even if it is an old friend who has been friends for one or two decades, it may suddenly become a picture that you can't imagine, so as the saying goes, "knowing people and knowing faces do not know the heart, and the heart of guarding against people is indispensable".
The calamity of life often comes from showing off, which is the weakness of human nature, showing off one's wealth and status, can make people get the happiness of being sought after by others, when seeing the envy and admiration of others, it seems that the vanity of the heart can be infinitely satisfied.
However, behind these envious and adoring eyes, there is also resentment and jealousy, because while you show off yourself, you also invisibly belittle others, the ancients said that "wealth is not exposed, wealth is not exposed", when people are developed, they must pretend to be as ordinary as ordinary people, so as not to attract people's eyes and cause disasters.
Second, when helping others, be magnanimous.
Human society is originally built on the basis of mutual help, most people's lives, there will be a time to ask for help, there will also be a time to help others, the friendship between people, often from this mutual help starts, we Chinese call it "human affection".
But Chinese, and often the most afraid of owing favors, sometimes you have the heart to help a person, but the other party will have a lot of psychological pressure, so when you really help others, you may wish to pretend to be a little more generous, as if just a gesture is not enough to mention, do not let the other party feel too much deliberate and pressure, the more generous you are, the more sincere and thick this human affection is.
Third, non-principled issues, pretending to be confused.
Many people hang "rare confusion" on the wall, what is confusion, confusion is not more real, it is to see through it without saying it, confusion is indisputable, it is generosity. These four words are easier said than done, and there are rare confusions hanging on the wall, but as long as something happens, it is very shrewd, and it seems that it takes advantage everywhere, but in fact it loses more. Sometimes, as long as it is not a matter of principle, pretending to be confused and having fewer disputes, you will live more freely.