Since when has it become a very common thing to be single.
Although some people are not young, they have always been single and have never tried with anyone.
Some people have not touched love again for a long time after a certain relationship, they just keep being single and living their own little life silently.
I have been single for several years, even for more than ten years, twenty years, thirty years.
There is nothing wrong with being single, but when a person has been single for a long time, he will get used to it and adapt.
There will be a way of life of their own, and they will become more and more addicted to that rhythm.
Then suddenly one day, you may also have the idea of wanting to fall in love, and you may suddenly want to fall in love because you meet someone, but at that time, you will think, but at the same time, you will be afraid.
Afraid of disrupting the rhythm of one's own life.
A person's life is relatively free, he can live how he wants, he can get up at what time he wants, arrange every day as he wants, do what he wants, and don't do what he doesn't want to do.
Every day can be compared casually, very free, and you don't have to care about others or who you take care of.
But if you want to fall in love, you will inevitably lose this freedom, and after that, you can no longer do what you want, and many times, you have to cooperate with another person.
When you go to bed and wake up, you need to make some changes because of each other, and when you get off work and on weekends, you always need to stay with each other and make a lot of time for each other.
In addition to these, even some of your hobbies may need to be abandoned, and you must put the other party first.
Life will be a completely different way, and the rhythm will never be the same as before.
For that model, when a person has already become accustomed to a relatively stable lifestyle and needs to make some changes to adapt to the unknown, there will really be some discomfort and rejection, and instinctively some rejection.
I don't want to let my rhythm become messy, and when I think that everything is going to be different, I will be a little panicked, and then I am even not very willing to fall in love, and I feel that it is good to keep the current day.
Not used to it, don't know how to get along.
Loving someone and getting along with someone is also an ability, and it is not something that can be taken for granted.
This kind of ability is partly innate, and it has been precipitated all the time, but more of it also needs to be learned, specifically in order to be able to manage a relationship well and make progress little by little.
However, when a person has not been in love much and has been single for too long, he will really not be very good at getting along with the opposite sex, and he does not know how to chat, how to care for each other, and how to take care of each other's feelings.
From time to time, there will be some words that do not make sense, some people will be overwhelmed, they will feel nervous, they will feel uncomfortable, and they will mess things up.
It is never easy to get along with people, if you want to have a person's like, so that the other party always likes yourself, it is a great need for action, mental strength, and emotional intelligence.
It's hard to get into a good situation all at once, and you can handle things very well.
Not only will I worry that I can't do it, but I will not be used to being with someone all the time, and I will often feel very awkward, and some will want to escape back to my own world.
It's too easy to get upset, and it's too easy to be affected by a little thing, and it often makes your whole person feel bad, and I really don't like this feeling, and I'm not sure how meaningful this kind of relationship is.
I'm worried that it won't work out and I won't be able to go back.
Since I have been single for a long time, I naturally don't think it's a big deal to be single. Moreover, that kind of life is completely controllable by yourself, and it will be very handy.
Falling in love is different, starting with a person, falling in love, even if you pay a lot, do a lot for each other, and show all your sincerity, it will only be unknown and uncertain in the future.
Under this kind of uncertainty, it is too likely that the result will be bad, and it will naturally be very uneasy, and you will be very afraid that there will be no good result at all in the future, and you will only be separated, you will only separate, and you will only wake up from a dream.
If there is not only no result, but also a lot of loss and a lot of damage, it will be more than worth the loss.
If you don't love, you're alone, and if you love, it's like this, but it will be very devastating.
The mentality will no longer be the same, and it will be difficult to completely return to the original state, and it will be difficult to be so peaceful, so calm, and so content with your current years.
At that time, there will only be a lot of unwillingness, a lot of twisting, a lot of discomfort, no way to live a good life, no way to believe in love anymore, and still have expectations for love.
I really don't want things to be like that, so because I am afraid of the end, I will be afraid to start, or even really dare not start, and I will refuse to start completely.
Everyone will always have a lot of fears and fears.
Single people obviously don't fall in love, but they have already imagined countless endings in their hearts.
All kinds of self-scare themselves, and then, they began to limit themselves, and they kept themselves in place.
In fact, if you have been single for a long time, you can always circle yourself like this, there is no progress in life, there is always only yourself, you can also do something, just be brave once.
Be brave enough to try, and maybe it will turn out well.
Even if there is no good result, there will be something to gain, and it will not be so bad.
Love, that always belongs to the braver people, always brave people have first, harvest first, and be happy first.
Text / Tan Meng
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