Education in ChinaChinese Parents, Are Children Happy?
Nowadays, there are really a lot of psychological problems in children. A while ago, at about 5 o'clock in the morning, I heard a mother and daughter arguing downstairs, and the mother was crying and calling the child home. The day before yesterday, a mother in the small park downstairs was crying and calling and said, "I don't know what to do, he just won't go to school anyway......
Adults can't accept their children's mediocrity, but they can accept their own mediocrity. refuses to roll himself at all, but he wants to roll the child to death, and he wants the child to be willing to be happy without regrets. I think that many parents who force their children to become like this are confused and want to rely on their children to turn over, which is the so-called hope that their son will become a dragon, that their son will become a talent, and that they will become a tool.
Dragons are monsters, wood is wood, tools are things, you have to be monsters, you have to be wood, you have to be things, you just don't want to be people!
Some children's suffering is given by their parents, and in the name of love.
Everyone forgets that on the day of childbirth, the only hope is the health and safety of the baby.
Because most parents want and want, since the child is healthy, then ask for other added value. When the child is no longer healthy, he will say that as long as he is healthy, it will be fine.
Family, society and other reasons have caused the current society, I have to say that now not only students roll, but also everything, just force themselves to death. In fact, children are stupid all day long and think about playing, and they are quite happy, perhaps, this is their greatest happiness.
Maybe the parents are really sick and struggling in the whirlpool, but the poor children are involved, and they have to let the children follow the life route they designed, I have to say that it is too cruel, you are tired, the children are also tired, and if you don't do it well, it will seriously damage the parent-child relationship, and the two sides will be tense.
Parents always think that the volume is useful, and they have not realized that the society is not what you can do with your efforts, in fact, the volume has no meaning, and the robot will soon produce on a large scale and replace the manual, no matter how good you learn, it is useless, and many people will face unemployment in the future.
Are these parents really going to have children because they want to love a child well, no, they just want a pension tool, it's a transaction, but they still have to put the shackles of moral kidnapping on the tools, isn't it terrible?
My idea is, don't use your children as a tool to complete your dreams, you have the ability to complete your dreams by yourself, why force your children to realize their dreams, your dreams are not necessarily children's, what is the Qingbei, civil servant, returnee, graduate school, official, make a fortune, you first achieve it yourself and then say whether the child can succeed!
I believe that the harmony between people depends on mutual understanding, whether it is a relationship between parents and children, a relationship between lovers and friends, etc. Therefore, it is not objective to unilaterally say who the question is, and we should not constantly strengthen the confrontation and tear apart. Everyone's problems are big and small, there are such and such problems, communication and improvement are the most important, pure venting is not enough. Nowadays, many people attribute the parent-child relationship to one of the parties and amplification is not a good phenomenon, and it should be analyzed on a case-by-case basis.
I don't have a childhood, in order to cultivate a social animal when I grow up, I have to work for people anyway, I would rather let my children have a happier childhood.
In fact, being happy is a good attitude, some people are happy with milk and bread, and some people may not be happy with villas and luxury cars. If you know how many children with psychological problems there are in Qingbei every year, you will know that there is no direct relationship between good or bad learning and unhappyness. Parents must first learn to have a good attitude, so that children can have a healthy mind.
It's better to live happily than anything else, fame and fortune are just a floating cloud, in the end, both hands are loose loess and a hand, life is a practice.