Mo Yan's words: The human touch with brothers and sisters in later years
1. Introduction: Later life and the changes in interpersonal relationships
As the years go by and people move into their old age, many things in their lives change. These changes are not only reflected in physical conditions and lifestyles, but also in interpersonal relationships. Mo Yan once said: "In old age, if you find that your brothers and sisters are no longer humane, please do these three things." This quote profoundly reveals the challenges that relationships can face in later life and offers us ways to deal with them.
2. Understand the changes in sibling relationships
In the journey of life, brothers and sisters are our earliest companions. However, as we grow older and our family environment changes, so does our relationship with our siblings. In later years, we may find that the human touch between siblings gradually weakens, which may be due to various reasons such as different priorities in their lives, differences in values, and reduced communication. In the face of this change, we need to remain calm and rational, understand and accept that this change is an inevitable part of life.
3. Facing the reality of weak human feelings
When we realize that the human touch between siblings is gradually waning, we may feel lost, helpless, and frustrated. However, this sentiment does not change the status quo. We need to learn to face this reality and adjust our mindset. First of all, it is important to recognize that everyone has their own rhythm and way of life, and we cannot force others to live according to our expectations. Secondly, it is necessary to understand that the lack of human affection between brothers and sisters is not achieved overnight, but is formed after a long period of accumulation. Therefore, we need to be patient and tolerant enough to face this change.
4. Do three things to cope with changes in your relationships
- Maintain independence and autonomy
In our later years, we need to maintain a certain degree of independence and autonomy. This means having our own living space, hobbies and social circles. Don't rely too much on your siblings or other family members, but learn to face life's challenges independently. This not only reduces the burden on family members, but also allows us to maintain the enthusiasm and vitality of life.
- Active communication and understanding
Although the human touch between siblings may be weak, we can still maintain our relationship with each other through positive communication and understanding. First of all, respect each other's choices and decisions, and don't try to interfere or change each other's lifestyle. Second, pay attention to each other's needs and feelings, and give appropriate care and support. Finally, learn to listen and express your thoughts and feelings to promote understanding and trust in each other.
- Develop new social circles
In our later years, we can try to expand our social circle and make new friends. By participating in various social events, interest groups or volunteer organizations, we can meet like-minded people and share the joys and challenges of life together. This not only enriches our later life, but also allows us to have more choices and possibilities in our relationships.
5. Cherish the family ties with your brothers and sisters
Although the human touch between brothers and sisters may be weak, we still have to cherish the bond of affection between each other. After all, we used to have many wonderful times together, and these memories are irreplaceable. Later in life, we can try to deepen our emotional connection with each other by reminiscing about the past, sharing family stories, etc. At the same time, we must also learn to let go of past grievances and contradictions, and face each other's differences and changes with a tolerant and inclusive attitude.
6. Maintain a positive attitude and an optimistic attitude towards life
In old age, we need to maintain a positive mindset and an optimistic attitude towards life. No matter what difficulties and challenges we face, we must believe in our abilities and potential. By paying attention to our physical health, actively participating in various social activities, and maintaining the spirit of learning and exploration, we can make our later life more fulfilling and meaningful. At the same time, we must also learn to be grateful and cherish every moment in life, and face future challenges and opportunities with a positive attitude.
7. Conclusion: Wisdom and choices in later life
This quote from Mo Yan reveals the challenges we may face in our relationships in our later years and provides us with strategies for coping. In later life, we need to maintain independence and autonomy, communicate and understand actively, and cultivate new social circles to cope with changes in interpersonal relationships. At the same time, we should also cherish the family ties with our brothers and sisters, maintain a positive attitude and an optimistic attitude towards life to enrich our later life. Through continuous learning and exploration, we can make our later life more fulfilling and meaningful.