Marriage and Career in Small Talk: A Debate About "Marrying a Teacher".
"Oh, you know what? Recently, I saw people in the group discussing a very interesting topic," Xiao Zhang said with a gossipy face.
I asked curiously, "Oh? What topics interest you so much? ”
"It's about marrying a wife, some people in the group say that if you are not a civil servant or a person with a public institution, don't marry a teacher as a wife!" Xiao Zhang said mysteriously.
"Haha, what kind of weird point of view is this? Why? "I think it's a funny topic.
Xiao Zhang explained: "They say, the professional status of teachers is relatively high, if you are not in the system, even if you earn 20,000 yuan a month, you will feel inferior in front of her." ”
"Isn't that too one-sided," I shook my head, "isn't marriage supposed to be based on mutual respect and understanding?" How can it be measured purely by professional status? ”
"yes, I think so too. However, the discussion in the group was lively, and there were various points of view. Xiao Zhang said with great interest.
Clash of Perspectives: Career and Marital Happiness
In the group, everyone expressed their opinions. Some people believe that the professional status of a teacher is indeed high, and if the professional status of the spouse is not as good as that of a teacher, it is indeed possible to develop an inferiority complex. But there are also those who firmly oppose this view, believing that marital happiness has nothing to do with professional status, but more important is the emotional foundation and mutual respect between the two parties.
"I think if you feel inferior because of your spouse's professional status, it may indicate that the foundation of your relationship is not strong enough." Xiao Li calmly analyzed.
Xiao Wang pays more attention to other aspects: "I think physical health is the most important, as long as two people love each other, professional status and everything is floating clouds." ”
The Interweaving of Reality and Ideals: Career Considerations in Marriage
In the discussion, practical considerations were also raised. For example, a job in a public institution is often regarded as a "golden job", with a stable income and good benefits. In contrast, some non-institutional jobs, while not paying well, may not be comparable in terms of stability.
"To be honest, when you go on a blind date, the other person's work is really an important consideration." Xiao Li, who works in a public institution, said frankly, "But this doesn't mean that I don't value feelings, I just feel that both parties have similar life and work backgrounds, and it will be easier to communicate." ”
However, there are also people who are unhappy with this. Xiao Zhao is one of them: "I think this view is too utilitarian. Is it only work within the system that is decent? Many of my friends work in the private sector, and their incomes are not low. ”
Every profession has its dignity
The discussion did not lead to a definitive conclusion. But everyone realizes that every profession has its value and dignity. While the profession of teacher is important and respectable, other professions are equally worthy of respect.
"Actually, I think the most important thing is to look at the people." Xiao Zhang concluded, "No matter what profession you have, as long as you love each other, respect each other and understand each other, it is enough. ”
Happiness in the long run: the true meaning of marriage
A few days later, we got together again for a small talk. This time, the topic is again about marriage and career.
"You know what? In fact, I have always felt that marriage is like a trickle of water," Lao Li said slowly, "not about how high your career is, but whether the two of you can walk through every ordinary and extraordinary day together." ”
These words resonated with everyone. Indeed, the happiness of marriage does not depend on the level of professional status, but on whether both parties can support each other and face the challenges of life together.
Circles and Resonance: Resonance and Understanding in Marriage
"But then again, sometimes circles are also very important," Xiao Zhang said, "if the life and work circles of two people are too different, it may also lead to communication barriers." ”
I nodded: "That's really a problem. But not absolutely. As long as both parties are willing to take the time to learn about each other's world and try to fit into each other's circles, these obstacles can be overcome. ”
Health and Love: The Twin Cornerstones of Marriage
Xiao Wang also added: "Yes, and I think the most important thing is good health and love. As long as there are these two things, what professional status and income are secondary. ”
Everyone agreed. Indeed, in marriage, health and love are the most important cornerstones. Without these two things, no amount of professional status or income can bring true happiness.
Cherish the people in front of you
Through this chat, we have a deeper understanding of the true meaning of marriage: not about the level of professional status or income, but about whether both parties can respect, understand and support each other. In this complex and ever-changing world, it's not easy to find someone who can spend the rest of your life with you. So, please cherish the people in front of you, cherish your love and marriage!