A wedding should be filled with joyful happiness, but it was disturbed by a sudden farce. This is not only a regrettable matter of personal marriage, but also triggers deep thinking about traditional marriage customs, family ethics, and modern value orientation.
Relatives apologized again and public opinion was in an uproar
The incident happened in Shangqiu, Henan. On May 3, a pair of prospective newlyweds were scheduled to enter the marriage hall on this day, but the bride suddenly asked the groom to pay a one-time "getting off ceremony" of 28,800 yuan at the instigation of her best friend. This bizarre request, which has never been mentioned, is tantamount to blackmail against the groom-to-be, and suddenly makes a mess of the festive scene.
At first, the groom tried to persuade, but in the fear of the bride and his best friend, he was finally forced to move and forcibly pulled his girlfriend out of the wedding car. Then the two sides broke out with each other, and the bride was even more painful and decided to repent of the marriage on the spot. In this way, the original happy event came to an abrupt end, and both sides abruptly left.
This absurd case has been widely followed and hotly discussed on the Internet. While denouncing the unreasonable behavior of their girlfriends forcing marriage and asking for money, people expressed their helplessness at the bride's simple mind who was bewitched and obedient. While the controversy was still ongoing, more eye-popping details surfaced:
One of the bride's relatives took the initiative to apologize afterwards, hoping to save the marriage. But this approach has also been questioned by public opinion: some people say that apologizing means that they are at fault, and there is no self-respect in doing so; It is also said that even so, it is difficult for the groom to regain trust in the bride, and the marriage is no longer in order.
Modern interpretations of traditional customs have sparked social controversy
The root cause of this farce, which was originally a trivial matter, in addition to the girlfriends slapping the horse for murder, also highlights the contradiction between traditional marriage customs and modern values.
To give you a simple example, in many places, there is indeed an old custom of "getting off the bus". But the traditional drop-off ceremony is actually a kind of respect and blessing from the groom to the bride and her family, and the amount is usually not the point. However, many people are abusing this practice, equating it with simply asking for a bride price, taking advantage of the opportunity to extort money. As a result, the old customs, which were originally a kind of human taste, were given a completely different negative color.
It can be seen that some seemingly "reasonable" old rules of marriage are actually revealing the outdated concept of preference for sons. This kind of preconceived stereotype thinking is incompatible with modern concepts such as gender equality and individual dignity in today's society. So, should the old customs be completely de-traditionalized, or should the tradition be organically combined with the modern? This is a topic worth pondering.
In addition, this case also reflects the gap in people's expectations of "family and friend" on specific occasions: the girlfriend is supposed to be the bride's closest confidant, but has become the bane of the situation; As the bride's family, the parents failed to repair the mother-daughter relationship in time at this critical moment, allowing the conflict to develop to the point of being out of control. This has also triggered people's reflection on the boundary of "family affection", relatives and friends are different, and too involved in other people's private affairs will fall into an embarrassing situation.
Therefore, this is a small matter, but it contains many big problems. It not only reflects the pull of social customs and the development of the times, but also reflects people's thinking about modern values.
Don't repeat the mistakes of the past
In the face of this development, different groups have also expressed their views:
Some netizens insisted that the behavior of the bride and her best friend was wrong after all. A wedding should not be a place for money games, and both parties should accept each other with a sincere heart. And the bride listened to her best friend's unreasonable request, revealing her lack of independent thinking and judgment.
There are also people who sympathize with the bride, thinking that she is just too simple to be bewitched. After all, the persuasion of girlfriends comes from intimacy, and it is not easy to get rid of the influence of this brute force. And judging from the fact that the parents personally apologized, it can also be seen that the bride's family hopes to resolve the conflict.
Of course, some people believe that no matter what the result is, both the girlfriend and the groom's family have unshirkable responsibilities. Girlfriends should not cause artificial trouble, and the groom's family lacks the necessary calmness and rationality when the conflict intensifies.
People of insight concluded that the biggest lesson of this incident is that marriage should not be interfered with, interfered with and influenced by others too much, and both parties need to reach a consensus plan that convinces both parties through equal consultation on an equal footing in line with the principle of mutual respect. Otherwise, if you blindly listen to others, you will eventually fall into the predicament of being beaten passively.
Extended Thoughts: How to Look at Old Habits in Weddings
In a later year, we can also try to continue on the topic of marriage customs:
In your opinion, what is the weight of wedding traditions? Should backward stereotypes be completely eradicated, or should there be value in retaining them? And how to deal with the conflict between old customs and modern ideas?
In my opinion, some marriage customs require a certain human touch, and if they are implemented reasonably, it is not unavoidable. However, if it is misinterpreted and abused, it will go against the original intention and be counterproductive. We must not be confined to old ideas, but should keep pace with the times and innovate in inheritance.
In short, marriage is a big deal and requires extreme caution. From this incident, we should all take this as a warning and take the overall situation into account in everything.
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